My mom READ my text messages?!?!?!? I neen tons of answers quick!!!?

Question

I went to take a shower and I brought my phone into the bathroom with me.

Well I left I accidently left my phone in there.

My mom comes and knocks on my door and hands me my phone, she has this look on her face and she shuts the door behind her and looks at me and was like I read your text messages.

She was like I read [so-and-so] talking about you being scared and lying to me about who you were getting a ride home from soccer with, its a co-ed team.

Now, I am 18, this was a guy I was talking to and we were planning on fooling around but my mom ended up being my ride from soccer than night and the guy didnt drive me home but I told her he wanted to go get drinks[lies]. He is older by like 10 years or so too.

She told me she would rather know if I was drinking than me hide it from her, which is irrevant because it was a lie.

But she admitted to reading them another time.

I am so pissed at my mom, I don't trust her anymore.

My phone is NEVER leaving my possesion again.

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I am just so PISSED.

I don't know what to do.

I need all the advice/solutions I can get.

Answer 1

Since you are 18 you do have the right to privacy and respect. Living with your mom though she feels she has the right to know everything going on with her.

Admit to her what you did and didn't do. Be honest because you're already busted. When tempers have calmed down then bring up the fact that you feel invaded upon and that you feel you can't trust her if she reads your text messages.

If she is willing to have an open and honest relationship with you then try it. Just remember to always talk and resolve issues when your calm. It will only make it worse if you are still upset.

Answer 2

my mom does this **** to. ill be like eyy hold this mom. like if i went on a ride at the fair. and she would be reading it when i looked over at here. ima just put it in my bra from now often. she doesnt need to know anymore than she does about me smoking and drinking. because it is highly possible for me to just walkin into a bar. when im only 18. because i look older than i am! and she doesnt know about this. i mean if i wanted to tell her something then i would have told her something. or she should just ask me. like god forbid if she read my texts from last night. i was so shitfaced. but anyways. just dont let her touch your phone. i think my mom is jealous because i have unlimited texting and everything and she doesnt! but thats just my opinion. tell me how everything goes. oh.. like i told my mom . you should try the same. I DONT APPRETIATE YOU READING MY TEXTS! ITS MY PERSONAL LIFE! IDONT READ YOUR TEXTS(which i do) AND YOU DONT HAVE THE RIGHT TO READ MINE! SO HELP ME GOD IF YOU READ THEM AGIAN! I THOUGH ONE PERSON ON THIS EARTH I COULD TRUST AND SHE INVADES MY PERSONAL LIFE! she kinda got freaked out when i screamed that to her in the car. yehh.

Answer 3

Who pays your phone bill? If your mom does, then she has every right to read your messages.

Answer 4

why would you want to hang around someone who is 10 yrs older?

Answer 5

If there is a question in thee, I'll try to give it an answer.  What concerns me is that you admit lying to her several times, and now you are mad because she was honest wwith you?  You want an answer??  go look in he morror to see who is the one in the wrong

Answer 6

You are a legal adult.

She can't legally be mad.

Answer 7

wth is your question??

thanks for the 2 points i guess.

Answer 8

I only read the title of your question to be honest. But seven months ago, my mom did the same thing. That's why I got a plan with my sister whose 18. When I found out I didn't tell her. I sent texts to all my friends saying I was pregnant and a L*****n.

Answer 9

wow

dats kinda messed up dat ur mom read ur texts n ur 18

dats like saying she dont trust

which is messed up

Answer 10

your 18 arent u a little 2 old 2 b living with yo mom

tell her u need more space

Answer 11

yoiu should talk to her

she should respect your privacy

no wonder you lie to her . there are some trust issues here that need to be solved

Answer 12

She doesn't know he's 10 years older

She won't remember ALL the text messages

wipe all messages and Deny deny deny..

well okay u can admit to the little ones.

but no matter who pays the bill or how old u are, it's ur phone, ur privacy, ur respect so I don't feel bad in not coming 100% clean with her - but if she can apologise then you can sit together and talk through what's happening in ur life - I imagine she just wants to feel included

*hug*

good luck

Answer 13

Well, I would say that if ur phone is under your moms contract and you are living under her roof then you might just have to get over it or find another place to live.

Answer 14

Move out ASAP! I had the SAME thing happen to me even when I was 19, out of school, had a job, my own cell phone with the contract in my name. I worked real hard and moved out asasp cuz w my mom ther was no letting up. She was NOT going to stop she was like a freaking stalker waiting in the parking lot for me after work to see if I was really there or who I walked out with etc.

Answer 15

Who is paying for your phone and all these text messages?  If your mom or parents are. . . sorry, but you lose your right to privacy of what's on the phone in that case no matter how old you are.  If you're still living at home, you also are in her debt for probably at least basic housing and some food.  Guess what -- this means she still has some right to know what you're doing.

By the way, what are you doing with a 28-year-old guy?  As someone who's almost 27, I can't imagine why at least *I* would want to hang around with someone who's 18 unless we were family.  No offense, but most of you are still pretty childish even if you're legally adults.

My advice:  GROW UP.  This is the kind of thing that 15-year-olds freak out about.  If you're trying to be an adult and think it's wrong for your parents to go snooping around in your life, either quit making choices in your social life for them to find and dislike when they do feel nosy or keep better track of things you don't want them to know about.

Answer 16

Put a passcode on your phone so she cant go threw it.

Answer 17

i realy dont know wat to say besides keep your phone with you, and to tell her how you feel about her invading your privacy, and that you deserve your privacy on your phone. But dont go too into it and say crazy stuff, or she might kick you out, since your 18

Answer 18

lock your phone-look in the manual how-you can make it if you dont use it for a minute or two that you need a passcode. tell your mom that you are an adult and she needs to let go a little bit and let you live your life a bit more independantly and if that includes a mistake or two you will learn from it.

Answer 19

You are 18 and old enough to make your own choices. If you're living with your mom, she obviously is going to have some say in it, but legally, you're an adult. I think you should lock your phone (usually you can just press and hold the pound key, or something similar, and it will lock, then you have to put in the code whenever you want to use it). I also think that you should be honest with your mom about what you're doing. She may not like it, but she can't say too much. If you talk to her like an adult and have a MATURE conversation, she probably will take it better. After her initial reaction, most likely she'll be upset/mad/whatever, she'll get over it and you'll feel alot better not having to hide anything. Good luck.