My mom and aunt are pissed at me for nothing? Help?

Question

My family is small so we're all extremely close, especially with my aunt. Nothing stays quiet for more than twenty minutes. So, when my aunt told my mother and I something about the financial status of my oldest and one of my closet cousins, I was concerned. We talk about everything, s*x, guys, school, etc. So, I figured it would be alright if I asked her how things were going financially. She assured me that everything was fine and reminded me of how my aunt likes to twist things. So, the next day, she called her mother and assured her also, that everything was fine and they weren't in trouble with money. She told her they weren't rolling in it, but that they had enough for their bills and the essentials. Now, at this point, I don't know who is exaggerating the situation, her or my mother. But earlier today I got a call from my mother. She was yelling at me because my aunt allegedly told her she and her daughter were fighting. I called my cousin. She swore to me they weren't fighting, her sister was there and heard everything and swore also that nothing was wrong. All that happened was she explained to her about their situation. There was no yelling, no cursing, no tension so I don't know how that constitutes as a fight. But all I know is now, my mothers pissed beyond belief at my for something that's not that big of a deal and my aunt..I don't know but going by what my mom said, is pissed as well.

They both are huge drama queens so I can't really be sure until I talk to them again. I don't understand how they could be so upset with me when it was my aunt who was going around making assumptions about everything and I only asked out of concern. My cousin is only 23 and she has a fiance and a son that's 5 that's like a little brother, so I was worried about them. I don't even understand why my mom's mad because it has nothing to do with her.

I don't know what to do. I don't think I did anything wrong, because like I said, we're all close. My cousins and aunt and uncles know when money's tight in our house. There's no secrets. We tell everything because there's always someone who is willing to help. So I don't know why they are so upset with me, when my cousin is completely fine with it.

Answer 1

Your mom and aunt are upset AT you, not with you.  As you said, they are drama queens and need something to be dramatic about, so your involvement is reason enough to be mad at you.  You've done nothing wrong, and deep down they probably know that, but they need an excuse to be upset.

The best thing to do with drama queens is simply to stay calm and refuse to feed their drama.  Calmly state the facts - you spoke with your cousin out of concern, and your cousin was 100% fine with that, so there is no need for *anyone* to be upset.  Assure them that everything is fine, but don't waste too much energy trying to convince them.  State the facts, and let them decide how they want to react to it.