My mom blames me for everything and gets mad at me over VERY little things but not with my sister...?

Question

like for example my sister asked my mom where her spanish dictionary was and i happened to have seen one in my back pack and under my bed so i had two and i told her she can have one of mine then my mom accused me of stealing hers and wouldnt drop the subject and it was the stupidest thing in my life for my mom to get mad at me like that. she was yelling at me saying "why do you have two?! where did you get the second one?! im asking you where you got them?!?!?!" and she was full out yelling at me and i kept telling her i dont know i just found both of them this morning and i know they are both mine. THEN im turning on the car and mymom is in the passenger seat and the car starts making this really loud noise then i realize i accidentally had my foot on the gas and tht was the first time i have EVER done that and my mom leaned over and ripped the keys outta the ignition screaming, "ARE YOU TRYING TO KILL MY CAR?!?!? WHAT WERE YOU DOING, WHATS YOUR PROBLEM?!?" so she was screaming and accusing me and i tried telling her it was an accident but she just kept screaming at me. there are SO many more stupid fights like these where she keeps blaming me and sending "you" messages to me like you tried to make me late, you are ruining everything, you did that on purpose. what do i do? how do i handle these situations? im only a junior in high school so its not like i can do anything drastic

Answer 1

count the days till your 18 and the day it comes be ready and leave

Answer 2

Well, after reading your post I am going to take a guess that your mom is a single mom of two.  If I am wrong, I apologize.

Here is my suggestion:

Your mom is most likely under alot of stress and is taking out things on you and not really realizing it and if she is she does not mean to - those who are closest to us are the ones that we tend to take our frustrations out on and vent our angers towards even though they are not the ones who are causing the stresses in our lives.

Talk to your sister about this and see if she is feeling the same way as you.  Talk about taking on some extra responsiblities at home - think about what you can do for others in the house prior to doing for yourself - maybe your sister and you can figure out a schedule where one can cook and one can clean every second night so it's less for your mom to do.  Also, talk to your mom and ask her what the two of you could do to help her out as she seems stressed and you'd like to give her some help.  When she does have a bad day and starts yelling, calmly ask her to stop yelling and talk to her in a lower calm voice (this is hard because everything inside of you wants to start yelling back - it's our human instinct and you will have to work hard to fight it), then tell her you are going for a walk/to the other room for a bit and that you two can continue talking about whatever when the both of you are calmed down.

Good luck

Answer 3

Well, it sounds like you do these things to intentionally make your Mom mad or maybe to get some wanted attention. Just learn to play nice. Smile and stop trying to get attention for bad behavior. Try getting attention for good behavior.

Answer 4

i'm not sure how to handel it but i do feel sorry for you.  My sister acts like that to her kids from time to time and when i find out about it i just go and get my nieces and take them out for the house for a while and after a few hours i take them back home and things are better  for a while.  Do you have a aunt or grandparent in the area that you could go to for help.  i hope that things get better for you.  My heart goes out to you.

Answer 5

You need to have a seriose talk with your mom and tell her that the way that she talks to you is mean and degrating. I am goimng throuhgh the same type of thing, but things are getting better because I talked to her. Dont harbor these feelings or you end up like her...♥

Answer 6

Your mom needs to go to anger management.Also, where DID you get that second dictionary?Was your Mom correct in saying it was hers?

Also with the car,just try to be more careful hon, I know it was an accident and those things happen.

Answer 7

Is ur sister younger or older??

If she's younger it may seem like ur mom likes her better because she's younger...but she doesn't. Does she always act like this?? if she does then trying spending more quality time with her, maybe u two wil get closer.

Answer 8

You have to talk to her about it but use I statements when doing so but you need to find a calm moment to tell her " I really am not trying to upset things and I feel as if I am.

Answer 9

Wow, does your mom ever NOT act like that.

Answer 10

If i were you i would have done moved out! Oh tell your mom she is crazy,mean and rude!! Tell her TRUCK said that and theres no a thing she can do bout it!!

Truck (i am a girl) I mean it tell her, put her in her place you are the boss of your own life

Answer 11

get a job or find something that doesnt keep u home alot and save up and move out when u turn 18 like i am i turn 18 in like 24 days and i saved up and i have 3 grand to move out

Answer 12

She is crazy and tell her I said so

Answer 13

Even if you feel that your envy or jealousy is justifiable (even if you have good reason to feel this way)

the only thing that harboring negative thoughts and feelings does for you,is makes you a bitter old hag.

You don't want to become that, do you?