My mom bought my older sister a new cell phone...?

Question

my sisters cell phone was $300 and its monthly plan is $60 i think that is crazy and its not fair. I really want this phone that cost $70 and it is a pay as you go phone but my mom wont even look at it! my mom always treats her better what should i do, i always clean around the house i help out my sister does nothing she gets better grades but im not that smart and no one is ever home to help me with my homework im on the skinnest person either and when something dosent fit me my mom gets pissed off! it buggs the c**p out of me what am i doning wrong? how can i be a better child? HELP

Answer 1

Uhh maybe it's because your sister is OLDER.  So she's going to be going out more and she needs to keep in touch with your mom.  And maybe your mom thought that since she was getting her a phone she might as well get her one she likes.

Wait till your older on getting a phone. Oh and I highly doubt that having a phone has to do with her being the better child. I mean I do stuff around the house while my brother sits and plays the computer all day.

Has anybody ever told you life isn't fair?

Answer 2

Your mom got your OLDER sister a cell phone..  your older sister is probably out driving, maybe going to work and hanging out with friends more..  your mom porbably feels there is a need for her to have a phone..  granted a $300 phone is over the top..  but $60 for a monthly plan is actually one of the cheaper plans.

Answer 3

Just be patient my dear, you should always love and respect yourself even when other people don't. She is older than you, and maybe you just have to be patient okay. Do what you do best, so that you have no regrets and one day if she has any appointment's in you, you can ask her what they are...

A cell phone, a phone plan doesn't equate to the love that your mother may have for you and your sister. Tangible things like that shouldn't matter too much, be patient. Don't worry too much, I'm sure you are a wonderful daughter.

Answer 4

Well she's older, the older kids always get treated better. I certainly do.  

Answer 5

what a **** face that mother of yours is

Answer 6

I'm skinnest one to i don't really care what they say bout that ... maybe your to young to have a cell phone she probaly think and maybe  you are smart you just keep calling your self that so knoow you are just feeding tht into your mind so  

Answer 7

Communication is the key.  When your sister isn't around, sit down with Mom and tell her how you feel.  Don't get angry at her and what she's trying to say.  Just listen.  The thing with most kids is that they don't want to listen and don't want to do what the parents tell them.  This time really listen and really do what mom tells you.  Tell her you want to be better and ask her how to be better for her.  You sound like a gem to me to be making the effort.  I doubt that Mom loves your sister more, it's that maybe she's older and your mom thinks she can handle the responsibility of such an expensive phone and you maybe are prone to lose things or not take care of them.  Could that be true?  I had a friend who thought she was being mistreated the same way and that is what was happening to her.  Have that talk with Mom and try your very hardest to not get angry.  OK?  Growing up is so hard sometimes isn't it?

Answer 8

omg! i felt this before!

my dad would buy my sister so many cell phones because she keep losing or break them

and then he finally bought this hundred dollar pay as you go

and i was upset because i didn't think she deserved...especially when i do the chores but she can't even take out the trash.

i don't think there will be any other way to be a better child by being perfect...there's no such thing as perfection.

but i think you should get your grades to be better and i lost my phone while on a trip with my cousin,so she bought me like a 300 phone

so i guess you can try getting someone to be on your side and buy the thing you really been wanting...

oh and if i think some things are unfair then i try to get back, like by getting something better :D

hope this helps, or maybe you can talk to me more :P

Answer 9

The key is communication! If you don't communicate how you feel or what you think, she will never know and will continue to treat you that way. Its sad that she does, but it doesn't necessarily mean that she doesn't love you the same. And if you want to know how to be a better child, you need to ask her...again communication.

Answer 10

depending on how old you are you don't need a phone. your older sister does because she's OLD

Answer 11

how can i be a better child? HELP

Stop comparing yourself to your sister, be independent and yourself.  Once you establish this, then you'll get what you deserve/want.

Answer 12

dnt blame urself. jst try talking 2 ur mom, try using new sources 4 homework ((library, tutor, friends help,)) anything rly. dnt let it bug u. but dnt b afraid 2 have a talk w ur mom. nd if that doesnt go well talk 2 ur dad. nd tell him everything so he can help talk 2 ur mom 4 u.

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Answer 13

How old are you? Maybe your parents feel that you are not old enough or responsible enough to have a phone at the time.

Answer 14

Your lucky to even have one. My parents won't get me one. Not that I need it, I really wouldn't call many people. Well, I guess i just solved my own problem.

Answer 15

All these other answers are stupid. You deserve a phone as well as your older sister. Your mom is not being fair and you need to talk to her and let her know how you feel about this. I don't think this situation is fair at all. And the person that said eighth grade is too young to get  a phone because you don't need it, WTF? C'mon, man. A majority of people in eighth grade have what you call a life and they want a phone to communicate with their buds. Talk to your mom about this and explain to her about your responsibility and maturity level without being pushy. My only question for you is why do you want a pay as you go phone? I think they suck, but whatever. Go for what you want, and I think you deserve that.

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Answer 16

You're only in 8th grade--

At that age, you don't really need a phone.  Why should you be going anywhere that you'd need one?

Plus Pay as you go phones are rip offs.  The minutes cost like twice as much

you don't need a phone, ask again when you're going into high school.  And dont just say because your sister got one, or everyone else has it

Come up with valid reasons.

For now, just enjoy being a kid

Answer 17

mine sometimes do that to me aswell. i just get over it.

Answer 18

Older kids get treated better in some ways because the parents are making up for the fact that the eldest child was the experimental model and they had no idea what they were doing the first time around. It's out of guilt, basically.

Younger kids tend to get more attention (good and bad) and get treated like the baby and as much as you may hate it, you can guarantee your sister is secretly jealous of that.

If you can quietly tell your mom that you feel inferior to your sister when they treat her differently (no cryin gor whining or yelling while you say it), she may argue that you're wrong, but start showing you more empathy.

Answer 19

She is older so she will get a good phone. I am sure when you are her age you will get a phone too.

You should tell that you feel she is favoring your sister. Not whiny and not crying or yelling, but just talk!

As for the clothes, that is really not good for her to act like that. It will give you low self esteem. You are probably not even overweight.

Tell her it hurts your feelings when she does that. Maybe she doesn't realize she is coming off that way.

You are smart, sometimes book work just comes easier to some people more than others. You might just need to study more than your sister does. Tell your mom you need her help. Have you asked her to help with homework?

Talk with her, families need good communication.