My mom constantly compares me, how can I deal with it?

Question

I've been a straight A student since always in all advanced classes, and she always finds something to compare me about. Whenever I tell her she tells me that I have an attitude problem. She thinks I'm stupid and probably that it's EASY to get these grades.

Answer 1

i'm sure your mother loves you. however, she probably has some of her own problems she's not dealing with so they sometimes try to make themselves look better than others by taking the focus off themselves by talking negative towards or about others. however my son did have that issue  himself. straight A student with an attitude problem. check your inner person to see if others have reason to say what they say. if it's true that does not necessarily mean it's a bad thing. just check yourself daily and move along.don't stay stuck in other peoples opinions. blessings to you.

Answer 2

well i dont know the relationship between you and your mother but in my case i'll just tell her plain and simple that i dont like that and i'll do it back to her.. (that pisses her off lol)

Answer 3

You know what?  The best thing you can do is either sit down and talk with her how you don't appreciate being compared with, or as hard as it may sound, you just have to ignore it.  You're doing so well in school, there's nothing for you to worry about.    

Answer 4

Omg  my mom is just the same, try not to think about it when your around her, i mean you get good grades than that is good for you whats in it for her? so she is gonna keep pushing you, encourage you to be the best version of yourself its just that she is not doing it in a sweet way.  

Answer 5

she just wants you to be your best, tell her you promise you are and mabye she might lay off

Answer 6

She's not going to change!  Give it up!!   Find your motivation for your WONDERFUL ACHIEVEMENT somewhere else!!!

Dream big and achieve even bigger dreams!!!

Answer 7

you can't. you pretend you don't hear her. but i feel for you, happens to me almost every other day

Answer 8

She either doesn't value education very much or she is jealous of

you. Try to ignore the comparisons.

If you have never discussed this problem with her, do so. Have a quiet conversation with her about your feeling of being constantly compared to someone. It's worth a try.

Be very proud of yourself for your achievements. Many of us never

had encouraging parents but we did okay. Keep up the good work.