My mom criticizes me about my body?

Question

My b***s aren't that big, but i have a lot of cleavage...if that makes since, they're really close together or something and im really skinny so it makes it seem worse. im only 13 and my mom always criticizes me! i try not to buy stuff thats low cut. but she still makes me hate my body. And even if i wear something thats high enough it has to be tight so that way when i bend over no one can see which she hates also. Everything i wear or try on she just give me this look and says "that looks trashy" or "hootchie". and when i borrow shirts from my friends she always gives me this dissaproving look and i really cant take it! I hate it, and it makes me soo mad and i've told her this and she just says that i need to dress more modest but there's nothing i can do! even if i wear something up to right below my neck you can still see stuff down my shirt. it makes me feel like crying. how can i get ehr to stop..talking to her doesn't help.

Answer 1

wow. im really sorry. but if it bothers you that much you need to tell someone. like a teacher or guidance councellor at school. thats not right.  

Answer 2

you just need to think about ur body in a positive way and maybe things will get better u never know

Answer 3

tell her how you feel and suggest a day of shopping together that way you two can pick clothes out together that you both like.

Answer 4

She is probably jealous :O

Seriously though, it could be one of 2 things.

1) She could really be jealous. Women getting into their older years tend to become jealous of their younger counterparts. Youth is considered attractive in today's society.

2) She could be worried about you growing up too fast. I know a few girls that "grew up too fast" and bit off more then they chew too soon. 3 of them ended up sitting at their senior graduation with their kids (not literally but figuratively.)

If you think that is not your situation, it could be that she got into a bad situation when she was younger and does not want you to have to go through the same thing. Parents rarely do things out of spite, even my mom would only do something mean if I deserved it, or if it was funny.

Answer 5

i have the same exact problem.j

i'm 16 yr's old and my b***s are like your's. my mom is constantly telling me that i look like a w***e and it makes me feel horrible.

i guess your just going to have to deal with it.. that's what i'm doing.

i've tired talking to my mom but she doesn't understand.

Answer 6

Sounds like you need to be fitted for a bra more properly.  Sounds like you need a big sister to help you out.  Maybe you can go to the mall and ask to be fitted for a bra (they do that all the time).  Find a lady that you can talk to in the lingerie section, and see if she can help you out.

Answer 7

tell her how u feel and then tell her to shut up and stop being jelouse

seems to me the only way you can make your mom happy is to become a nun and im pretty sure that isn't going to happen  

Answer 8

Juss ignore her, find another adult  talk 2 about clothes. Like an aunt..

Answer 9

One thing you will learn about parents is that everything they tell you not to do, "They did it when they where your age". It's sad but true. Parents are some of the biggest hypocrites on the planet, they walk around all high and mighty like they never did anything as a child.

Our parents grew up in the 60's & 70's, trust me, theres was lots of drugs and underage s*x going on. Tell her to chill, she's had her life now let you have yours and quit being jealous. your mom is probably fat, overweight and not getting any s*x at home, hence she is taking out her frustrations out on you. she is worried you will make all the same mistakes she did as a child. Tell her you have more common sense than she did. Just because you wear something a little revealing doesn't make you trashy. It's not like your b*****s are hanging out or anything.

You really won't be free of annoying parents until your 18, and then when you meet a guy and get married, they will still try to control your life for you.  Good Luck.

Answer 10

oh dear i feel so bad for you ! i dont know exactly how you feel but i have a pretty good idea. tho its not my mom that cricizes me its actually my younger sister. hah i know that sounds lame but she makes me feel really bad about myself and my mom tells me im lame because im trying to "compete" with my sister. but yea i dont really know what to tell you except try to ignore her or try talking to maybe one of your aunts or something. but if you need someone to talk to you can talk to me cause im 13 too :) my aim is x0hellokatie

and i hope things get better for yoou

Answer 11

Have a sit down conversation with her about this. Don't just tell her it makes you angry and throw a temper tantrum. (you have a right too, but parents don't respond well to this) Tell her that it really hurts your feelings that she says stuff like that to you. If she's a good mother, I'm sure she'll apologize and stop. You both should go shopping together. Ask her to recommend something for you. See if you can come to some compromise. Just remember that respect goes both ways, so if you can't respect your mother, she isn't going to respect you.

She might not realize it, but saying things like that will negatively affect you into adulthood.

Answer 12

critizize her too

Answer 13

Does she honestly know how terrible she`s making you feel? Send her the link to this yahoo question through email and let her read it- if she actually does care about you as a mother and if she is a good mother then she`ll stop making you upset because that`s the last thing a good mother should be doing (trying to upset and bring down her own daughter). Try your best to wear clothing which isn`t revealing, avoid low cut tops as you probably shouldn`t even be wearing anything to low cut as you are only thirteen- follow your mother`s rules to your best ability. Wear clothing that is age appropriate and if she`s still constantly bringing you down then I`d try talking to a relative or someone else that you are close with about your mother`s behaviour towards you- they could possibly knock some sense into your mom =] In the mean time, try your best to ignore the comments which she states that are bringing you down (I know, it`ll be extremely hard as those comments are coming from someone close to you but just try your best). Be confident with who you are because in the end, it's going to be what YOU think of yourself and not what others think of you. I hope I`ve helped and good luck hon =]