My mom died 2 years ago and I want to memorialize her some way at my wedding.?

Question

My mom died two years ago, and I am getting married in September. I want there to be some sort of symbolance of her at my wedding. Can anybody give me some ideas of how to do that? Thanks!

Answer 1

my husband's mom died two months before we got married, so we know how you feel.

  what my husband and I did was light a candle in her memory and have the minister start off with a moment of silence. you can also have pictures of her at the reception. we played the song Through the Years at our reception.

Answer 2

Awww Natty- sorry about your mom.

My  mom died 4 years before I got married and this is what I did:

my  flower girl (who was six and very much up to the task) when she walked down the aisle handed a single white rose to my husband`s mother then laid one on an empty chair where my mother would have sat.

We had an outdoor wedding and people said they distinctly felt a breeze come up at that moment when it happened.

And it was right before my dad walked me down the aisle.

My now sil lost her mom a few months before the wedding. Outside the sanctuary of the church she had a table with photos etc. and she had an angel doll there with photos of her mom etc.  It would not have been my thing to do it that way but it is another way to go.

Answer 3

a plaque, picture of her on the table to commemorate her life

Answer 4

I've seen some people light a candle in the person's honor during the ceremony.

She could also be mentioned during the speeches.  At my wedding the priest gave a speech and mentioned all of the loved ones that we'd lost and it was very touching to include them in our day like that (although I then bawled like a baby just before walking down the aisle!)

Answer 5

I've seen a lot of people have a single rose in a vase up on the stage and put a note in their program that its in honor of a parent or grandparent who died.  I'm sorry for your loss.  I know it must sting as you plan wedding stuff without her.

Answer 6

If you are having programs, you can write something indicating a special candle, song, or special item you will be wearing that may have been given to you by her or something that was hers.  Sorry she isn't there for you.  I'm sure her spirit will be very much with you on your wedding day.  There are lots of ways to remember those we've lost.  

I hope you find something that you will be satisfied with, it's difficult as it hasn't been very long and nothing will really seem good enough because she isn't there with you physically.  Keep in mind that this is a special day for you and your new husband and celebrating the love you share together.  A festive and happy occasion is helpful to everyone when There has been such a loss in the family.  My sincere best wishes to you and sympathy too in the loss of your mom.

I too am getting married in September on the 20th.  I will be remembering my son who passed away 5 years ago.  It's still hard.  Time heals but you always remember.  Peace to you and yours.

Answer 7

OH, I am so sorry to hear that. What I would do is have a slide show go on in the back while you dance to one of her favorite songs and you could go to the mike and say that you miss her and love her and that this slide show will show pictures of her with you on her birthday and other events with family. that will make you feel like she is right there beside you. Congratulations on your marriage! Good Luck!!!

Answer 8

I was at a wedding where the bride had lost her father a few years before. As the bride walked down the aisle instead of carrying a bouqet  different members of her family hand her a buttercup (that is what he called her) and eventually created a beautiful bouqet, she walked down the aisle alone. In the programs it stated that with the flowers given by her close friends and family she felt as if he had walked with her.

I am so sorry to hear about you loss.

Answer 9

hey sry 2 hear that... uhhh a picture or maybe u can write a speech or something and dedicate it 2 her before the vows. and good luck happy marriage!!

Answer 10

My SIL mom had passed away when she was 13. So at the wedding they took a table and decorated it with candles and a posture board (the ones with the 3 sections) and covered it with of her with my SIL and the rest of the family. She also had a poem on there. Everyone thought it was really nice. Sorry about your mother. Congrats on your marriage.

Answer 11

A lot of weddings have slide shows of the couple when they were younger - growing up. Include pictures of you with your mother.

Perhaps put family photos from over the years of both bride and grooms family on a table by the sign in book or in the reception area.

Answer 12

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss.

One idea you could consider to honor your mother would be placing a framed photo of her at the end of the isle somewhere, and when you reach that point, remove a flower from your boquet and place it with her.

Answer 13

a photo of her or somethin specail of her n im srry 2 hear that ur mother died

Answer 14

during the wedding you could place a flower on her set.  and on the back of your ceremony bulletin you could have a section that says in love memory and have your mother's name on it.  good luck

Answer 15

Have a table with a photo of her on it and have you light a special candle for her on that table.  Maybe even take a flower out of your bouquet and place it on the table.

Answer 16

put a slide show on a cd and play her favorite song while its going on.  But do it later in the day, because it will ruin your makeup believe me.  maybe have a close friend or a pastor say a few words before you play it.  not something you should do yourself, again, its way too emotional something like that.

Answer 17

Im sorry to here that but 1 ideal is to place her photo in an empty sit next to your father in memory of mom......