I am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 29 - we have been dating for 8 months now and everything is going fine. A couple of months ago we fiund out that I was pregnant and we were both happy...well in shock. My boyfriend sat me down and asked me to have an abortion because we were not financially ready and he would rather wait until we have our own place. So he asked me to go through with and we would try agian a year later. I told him no an we went on this back and fourth for about three weeks. Eventually after not talking for about a week he gathered his thoughts and came to me and told me that he was being selfish and that that was not the way to go - he thanked me for holding onto my decision. Unfortunately at 11 weeks I miscarried and he was hurt the most (understandable). Needing someone to talk to I had told my mom about his plans to have an abortion and she was upset. Being mad at him I had told my mom of how I was going to do everything by myself boasted about how he was less of man and how I was going to leave him - alone(knowing that deep inside I loved him and that this was all rage, anger, and resentment talking) Now almost three months later she doesn't see why I am still with him after all the stuff I said and questions wht happened to the other dudes that she felt were so perfect for me because of their achievements, when not knowing that they their only intention was s*x.
I need to know how to tell my mom that in life everyone makes mistakes and in a relationship you have to sometimes take the good with the bad...but its hard because she is so stuck on the way that my dad mentally, physically, and emotionally abued her that I sometimes feel that she looks beyond my boyfriend and thinks of my dad. Someone please help me to express how I'm feeling to her:...(
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