My mom doesn't undestand I need space?

Question

I had friends over tonight and she wouldn't stop coming out and asking us if we need stuff. Like, she'd get the towels and food and then come out and be like "ARE YOU GOING TO EAT???" and pour us our drinks and stuff... and she just wouldn't leave us alone or give us any space.

I tried talking to her about it and she got all spazzy and now she's being mean and taking it way to hard and saying stuff like "oh no, i understand. things will change. you don't want a mom, just a driver." But like in a sarcastic way which means she'll just never help me with anything anymore.

And I appreciate what she's doing, really, I do, but she needs to understand that I'm 15, not 10 and that I can get food and towels myself. But she just... doesn't. And I don't know what to do. None of my friend's moms are like this at all. I barely see them when I'm over.

Help? Please

Answer 1

if i were u i would appreciate everything shes done for u..i would love to have a mom like that

Answer 2

When teens start going to high school, moms tend to get a

little clingy because for them it means that their babies are

almost grown and don't need them much anymore.  Some-

times they feel like "Where has the time gone?"  It seems

like just yesterday, we're just bringing him/her home from

the hospital and now they starting HIGH SCHOOL.  Just be

patient with her because pretty soon you'll be moving out &

going away to college. Then your mom will all alone & you'll

be wanting to spend time with her.

Answer 3

Respect your mom.Shemeans well and she also sticks close by to make sure you aren't doing things or planning things that are sneaky and not quite right and that will get your butt into trouble.

Answer 4

my mom is kinda the same way try to talk to her but say that your not trying to be mean about it or do what me and my mom did start talking then get into and start talking about what you guys can change about you guys do.

Answer 5

tell her that u appretiate her doing this, but you want to get ur food and stuf urself. im sorry bout ur predicament

Answer 6

Well sit down with her when no one is around and just be honest with her as to how it makes you feel.  Most mom's are just overprotective and if your friends were both male and female she might be concerned about what might be going on.  Try to be understanding with her as she has been with you as you were growing up.  You only have one mom and when she is gone, what will you do?

Answer 7

i am totally in the same boat. like exactly the same. what ive found works is give her ALL the information as to whereabouts and people and parental situations. really your mom sounds EXACTLY like mine. i hope it all works out for you. if you come up with any tricks lemme know ;-)

Answer 8

You said you appreciate what she does, but do you ever tell her that? Sometimes moms feel like they need to pamper their child until their in college. They get clingy like that. But if you politely say, Thanks mom, but we're fine. That might work. If that doesn't work, talk to her about it, maybe she wants to do something fun with you. Go see a movie or something, spend some time with her. If you already do that a lot, well....

She might just want you to acknowledge what she's doing. Or she needs a hobby....

Answer 9

My mom is the same way.

I am eighteen almost nineteen and she never gives me any space.

When I ask for space she says fine, I see how it is, you see me as a driver and your slave.

I don't see my mom as a driver and a slave, I just need my space to grow and do things on my own like an adult.

Answer 10

so tell her that u appriciate her efforts in helping u, but you are independant and u can do it yourself.  and set some boundaries too, like wen friends are over, she should lay low and only help wen she is asked to.  make her understand how you felt while with ur friends.

Answer 11

its too long people like me only read the first paragraph lol.... it sounds to mee like you need to sit down and talk to her and if she gets all spazzy just do what my sister does and only go to friends house don't have them come over