My mom doesnt love me?

Question

I dont really know what I do to her..

Was it because I was born? She never tells me she loves me, she never hugs me like an ordinary mom, and she doesnt kiss me. She always telling me she hates me, and when I go and try to kiss her, she says "What do you want!" and then sometimes I'll tell her I love her, and then she would be like "I LOVE YOU TOO! NOW STOP SAYING THAT!" She says that she doesnt wanna be told that I love her, and she even says that I dont really love her, and I should stop acting the way I do, and then she would love me. I'm so confused, heart broken, and everyother word right now. She also curses at me.. I'm very tired of this. I want my old mom back. When I was a little girl she was so nice to my but now..I don't know what happened.

Could you please help? What's going on?

Answer 1

acck my mom is like that too. except for the I LOVE U and I LOVE U TOO!!! AND STOP SAYING THAT PART

i think it is because she works too hard or something,

Answer 2

I know where u r coming from. My mom was the same way plus some. I am now 30. I have what I call my mother complex, I see a therapist that helps me with my inner child that was never nurtured. So I have to do it now, before I can heal and forgive my mother. Not for her, but for me. So I will say you need to start talking to a therapist or someone licensed to help you. I do not want you to suffer like I have. One thing that has help me, is I have a great husband that listens and lets me cry on his shoulder. He hugs me and loves me. Find someone a best friend or a boy friend. Someone who will fill that void.

Do not expect that she is going to change. Love her for what she is today, and move on. One day when she looks back she will regret things, but u did nothing wrong. I wish u luck, and if you need someone to talk to u can email me.

Answer 3

hey friend, don't get disappointed. She loves u trust me. just  go to ur friend's or any relatives house for a day without saying her, and see how she worries for u.

Answer 4

she does she just doesnt show it

Answer 5

Yeah my mom is like that except the difference is when I would say I love you she would say 'what do you want'... and I never wanted anything but her to say it back. But I have a brother who is older than me and he is like the best thing on earth and I was just another mouth to feed I think. You want to talk about hate, when I got engaged and started planning my wedding and for once everything was about me and I was getting a lot of attention, she couldn't handle it and she went as far as to tell everyone in the family she was dying of cancer... that she was stage 4, she gave GREAT detail too... She wanted me to put the wedding on hold and plan a family reunion for this summer instead at her house.. and we even canceled our original honeymoon and paid for her honeymoon with my step dad because they never got a honeymoon. And come to find out it was all a lie because she couldn't take me getting so much attention.

She always treated me like c**p, basically since I was born because she told her sister she would just make me a bottle and leave me in my crib all day long because she didn't want me around.

I am sorry I don't have any words of advise for you but maybe your mom needs counseling on how to be a better parent.