My mom feels that her teenager give her a hard time what sould we do?

Question

my mom say we ive her a hard time cause we don't listen but she don't want us to go no where i have 2 brothers 14 18 nd me 16 we cant do anything but sit n the house so we sneak and do stuff and she feels we don't listen she say she love us and she just trying to protect but she have to let us make are own mistakes and let us grow up i love her i do but there's really no freedom

Answer 1

It's all on trust and a good reputation. You need to try and explain to your mom that you only have your own best intentions at heart and that if you do go off and do something, it's only to have some fun and not do anything dangerous. Make sure you don't get angry or passionate about it, just approach her in a calm and clear manner with an argument that's easy to understand. Start it off asking to do smaller things out alone. If you present it clearly, reminding her that she wanted freedom when she was 16, she should let you go. But from then on, you HAVE TO keep to your word. Don't break your reputation. Get home on time (preferably early) and give her a status report. A general rundown of what you did, who you were with, and what happened. As you progress, gently ease up the caliber of your requests, and if she questions you on something that you know isn't too big of a deal, remind her that all those other times she's trusted you, you've come home on time, and kept to your word. From then on, just keep up a good reputation until you reach that point where she trusts you to do anything.

Your reputation can go a long way, and whether it be a good one or a bad one, it will influence everyone you meet.

Answer 2

My mom was like that about 3 years ago too... I'm 15 now... But the way it all changed is when i talked to her, and told her how i felt... tell her "You were a teenager once too right? and i'll betcha u did WAY worst that i do" and tell her "imagine in 2 years, im gonna be 18 years old, and im gonna be aloud to do whatever i want, and since u never let me do anything, im gonna take the advantage of being free, and thats gonna get me in alot more trouble".... Then shes gonna think of it and about three days later, mention the whole thing again, and shes probably gonna give you a bit more freedome... it worked for me.... hope it works!

Good Luck! :D

Answer 3

im sorry but i do not understand?

Answer 4

tell her that if you want to be an old lady with no friends that has millions of cats, you should let you have a little fun like go to the mall with your friends ect.

are you unreliable or something? prove you are responsible and mature

maybe she will change her mind

Answer 5

What you need to do is start acting responsible. basibaly act your age. my mom did the same thing to me when I started growing up cause she needed me to show her I am ready to go into the world and make my name I am ready to leave the nest. For example sit down and talk with your mom about it. They love that c**p cause they think that is being a responsible civilized adult. So sit her down and tell her to listen to you. say it nicely though but tell her to listen and not push you aside. tell her whats on your mind then give her a chance to say whatever she needs to but don't start yellking or rolling your eyes or anything listen to what she has to say and respond when she is done. Just keep doing this and you can talk it out the right way without yelling or fighting or conflict that is the key you don't wanna loose your mom. I hopew this helps!!

Answer 6

im sorry

its true sometimes parents aren't always right

you just have to work with it

there isn't much you can do

i mean i guess you could try going to a shrink

or get your mom to go to a parenting class

but otherwise parents are usually stuck in there ways

try to make her as comfortable as you can with a situation

make sure she knows your friends etc.

with parents i found its a lot easier to catch bee with honey than vinegar.

Answer 7

Have you tried telling her this? I think that you and your brothers should get together and have a serious and mature conversation with you mom. Tell her (without whining!) about how you all feel. Try to see if you can set up some terms with her. Suggest that you should be able to go out on certain days of the week, or suggest a day when you can do something with her. Try appealing to what your mom wants while asking for what you want as well.  

Answer 8

She doesn't want her little girl to grow up. She misses the days where it was her and the kids, no friends involved. She could be with you all she wanted. Now, her kids got older and...friends are involved. She doesn't want it to happen!

                     Just relax and tell her that you want to hang out with kids 'your own size'. Tell her that you like hanging out with her, but you need some younger people to go shopping with. Also, tell her you'll be home at **** (time) and you won't be late. You could tell her that she can call you whenever, as long as you aren't at the movies, and you can reassure her that your fine. Or, it would even be good, to reassure her that you won't drink or do anything you'd regret. Therefore, you're only 12! What're you gonna do? Sneak a pepsi in the movies?

**Mi♥a**

Answer 9

i have the same problem but when my moms at work or at school and my dads out we get out of the house before the come back home. they never found out. so when your mom at work or something go out but be back b4 she gets home and have chours done b4 u leave

Answer 10

I have two kids who are now young adults.  Trust me - your mother wants the best for you.  The reason she is restrictive is because she is scared.  She doesn't want anything to happen to the three of you.

It sounds like your mother is raising you alone. You have no idea how hard that is.  She is doing the best she can.  When you sneak off, you are not helping the situation, you are only adding to her worry and fear.  

If you want more freedom, you have to earn it.  How ?  By acting like an adult, by showing your mom you can handle it.

  

Why don't you and your brothers try something  like taking on some chores for your mom .  The three of you are old enough to do things like painting, clean-up,  yard work,  etc.  I bet there is a ton of stuff she could use help with.    If you need something to do,  find something that will help her, as well as  your whole family.    When your mother sees the three of you are really trying to help and do the right thing- she will be less fearful and will allow you to do more.

One more thing - doing this once is not going to change things for you.  This has to be something you do over and over -  and in TIME she will see you are all trustworthy and will will allow you to do more.  Good luck to the three of you - take care.

Remember - family is all you really have in life.  It may not seem like it now - but that's the truth.  Honor your mother.  

Answer 11

i can relate my mom the same way

she says ur only 12 i dont have to give you fredom

Answer 12

Thats whay my mom says.

Im 13 and she lets me do nothing. :/

Sneaking out.

haha fun.

Answer 13

do trust worthy things, like not sneaking out....

and trust me she'll let u out when she thinks ur responsible.

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Answer 14

dont get caught sneaking out  

Answer 15

my sis did the same thing and got kicked out the house.. tell your mom all the details of what your doing..and maybe she will lighten up.

Answer 16

sit her down and talk to her.

Answer 17

Best thing to do is you and your brothers sit down with mom and have an open and honest conversation with her. You and your brothers tell your mom what you don't like. In turn, your mom has her turn to tell you and your bros what concerns her. This sneaking out and going against mom's word isn't right. All of you have to open up to each other with honesty, love and respect for each other.

I raised my boys all alone since they were 2 and 4 years old. There father was never there for them. I had to be mom and dad at the same time. When my boys were going into their teen years I was terrified to no end. That's when I realized that honesty is the best policy. We always talked things out, the three of us. And, I was strict with my boys too. I had to be being the way the world is these days.

Well, both of my sons are men grown now and they always tell me that I did a kick butt job on bringing them up. They now understand where I was coming from.

Don't hurt your mom, she loves all 3 of you very much. Have that talk with her and iron this out.

I wish you very much luck too.

Answer 18

Well, you're not making things any better by sneaking out behind her back.  She says you can't go anywhere, so don't go anywhere.  Don't sneak out, and then eventually she'll think you're mature enough to go out and do what you want.

Answer 19

sorry, but i had a very hard time reading that.

Answer 20

Well it's good your concerned about how your mom feels about it. But if your sneaking out and she knows at least try to be responsible about it so you can gain her approval. Get important stuff done first and be back at a reasonable hour so you can eat dinner, say hi to mom and get ready for the next day. If she asks how your day was and if you've been doing this or that, be honest with her. Give her your attention and let her give you her input. Also, she says she's trying to protect you, so let her know that you care about yourself and what your doing to take care of yourself. If you want your freedom you need to keep your eye open for what could be harmful to your body and future. And know how to say No to what you don't approve of.

Good luck.

Answer 21

tell her what you think.  she might undersand.  the same used to happend to me. by the way, good luck !