My mom forbids me to travel?

Question

My bf moved to California two weeks ago and I bought a ticket to see him next week. I'm 19, I bought it with my own money, getting a hotel with my own money, and all that without their help. I told my mom today and she freaked out and said that she doesn't allow me to because I'm a girl and that Los Angeles is dangerous (excuse). I know it's because she doesn't want me to travel to see a guy (even though I've been with him 3 years).

My brother went to Florida w/ his gf and friend (he's one year younger) for 10 days! She said it's okay for him cuz he's a boy.

Does this make sense!?

Answer 1

Exactly where do you live?  It isn't fair, but some cultures don't give their daughters any freedoms, so I guess knowing where you live would help.

Ok, you live in Ohio, that means you are legally an adult and you can go whereever and whenever you want.  Take the flight baby!  You can work it out with mom when you get back.

Answer 2

She's worried you're going to be alone with him for too long.. she's your mother - she worries that you'll get pregnant or that you'll never come home.

Answer 3

You are 19, an adult. Do whatever you want. She cannot stop you.

Answer 4

Well technically you're an adult now, so she doesn't have control over what you do know, she'll get mad, justt prove her wrong and go, She needs to learn that yoúr a "big gurl"now and not her baby

Answer 5

Logical not exactly; however, she is trying to rationalize and justify reasons for you not to go.  It does appear a bit obvious that your mother holds on to some old school ideas regarding the sexes.  The fact is that you are 19 years old and have already bought and paid for your airfare and hotel room.  Whether you share this room with your male companion or not is none of her business and completely up to your moral values.  It most certainly will cause friction whatever decision you choose regarding this issue.  Either she is going to be pissed that you go without her blessing or you are going to be angry that she forbid this and you followed her decision.  Best of luck.

Answer 6

don't you love the double standards that are still in existence today?

Your legal, go see him and don't worry about what mom thinks