My mom is controlling!!!!! Help!!!!!

Question

So my mother is being so overprotective of me and my other 18 year old sister. She never was like this before. I am not allowed to hang out with any of my friends or even exit the house after 9pm. She won't listen to me if i try to talk to her. She is being so crazy that I am just about to kill myself. Plus, she is making my little 3 year old sister think that my older sister and i are bad kids. I can't stand my mother anymore and lost all my friends cause I wasn't allowed to do anything with them. I have nowhere to go. I can't take it anymore. Please help me with any advice to get my mom to realize that she is going crazy. I don't want some stupid answer saying thats just a mom's instinct or something like that cause she was never like this until the beginning of this year.

Answer 1

Great I wish more mothers were like yours.What do you need to be out of the hosue for after 9 p.m.?

Nothing but trouble hon.

You do not need to be out after 9 ,but you need to be home or in bed.

Next,you haven't said whether or not your friends are out s******g boys, doing drugs, or drinking.If they are you need better friends and this is why your mom won't let you hang out with them.Your mother LOVES you and it is her JOB to protect you.Your 18 yr.old sister can move out and and get on her own if she don't like it at home.

Answer 2

Hmm, I'm not really sure...I might have to agree though...you should carry a cell with you.  I'm not entirely sure what exactly to say because I feel something is missing from the story.  If this behavior is new, is there something you or on of your sisters did that made her mistrust you?  Did someone new come in to any of your lives or did anyone pass away?  New job?  You should take a step back and take a look at what what your mom sees...what has changed.  Once you do this, you might be able to fix your situation a little easier.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

That's strange that she only started acting like that this year..  Maybe something happened to make her extra paranoid?  I had a few friends whose mums were really strict and controlling and those were the people who went completely off the rails when then went to university and finally had freedom.  Some of them ended up making some really bad choices because of it.

That's why I don't agree with parents treating their kids like that.  There needs to be a healthy balance.  Have you tried calmly trying talk to your mum about how it makes you feel?  

It's silly, if parents treat you like a child - how do they expect you to react!

Answer 4

Tell her how you feel. And try to make her listen. Tell her "Mom I have to talk to you" And ask her why she doesn't let you out with your friends and so on.  Maybe something happened and she's worried about you.Good Luck!

Answer 5

personally i'm bettin the farm that there is a lot more to this than what you are saying.

i don't think she is over protective, i think she is parenting and not allowing you to run wild.

your the kid, she is the parent. if you don't like it,,,, too bad!!!!!!

Answer 6

Welll go out anyway...maybe she will get so scared that she will let you go out later as long as you stay in touch. Does she know your friends?,....maybe she should meet them so she can see what kind of people you hang out with. That really sucks but how old are you? If your younger than 16 then i can see why she would be scared cuz at that age you want to try anything and everything :)good luck

Answer 7

ummm, the way i c it is that there must be sumething ur doing 2 make ur mom want 2 act this way or maybe itz just nanother 1 uv those parent phases parents. give it time it'll get betta. :-)  

Answer 8

I wonder what happened at the beginning of this year - maybe a girl was attacked or assaulted in your neighbourhood, whatever it was that happened, she is scared.

Did something happen to your Mother at the beginning of this year?  Was one of her friends, or friends kids, attacked or hurt.

It sounds to me that something is going on, maybe you can ask her why she is so worried about you and your sister - she may tell you why she has changed so suddenly.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

first how old are you second i understand but I'm an only child,i am 47,my mother is still that way i don't have clear cut answers ,how is your moms health? my moms health is very bad now ,i just suck it up now because i will miss her when she is gone.

Answer 10

Maybe you can try keeping in contact with her by carrying a cell phone wherever you go so she knows where you are at. Or maybe you can tell her that you will "check in" every 30 minutes or so. Hope this helps :)