My mom is driving me crazy...?

Question

How can I keep her busy. What should her role be in my wedding planning? Are there any responsibilities or things she is supposed to do at the wedding?

Answer 1

Go to The Knot  online and check out their etiquette section, they also have lists of duties if you type in Mother of the Brides duties.

Good Luck, I was tempted to wrap mine in duct tape :)

Answer 2

At the very beginning of wedding planning, before everything gets crazy, the KEY is to sit down and tell her your expectations for things.  Talk kindly to her.  Don't make her feel like you don't want her to be involved.  Her role should be what YOU want it to be.  If you want her to attend every meeting w/ a vendor, then ask her if she'd like to do that.  Or if you want her to be less involved, then just don't tell her when you have meetings and certainly don't tell her EVERY idea you come up with!!  Throughout the process, you'll go through a number of different choices & options.  Talking every one of them through with her can be a bad idea because if you pick something she doesn't like, she'll end up saying "well, I liked that other thing better."  If you want her advice but only on a limited basis, then I would do research, get my choices narrowed down to three and THEN (only then) ask her opinion.  At the wedding, the only thing she should be doing is attending to your needs - not focusing on herself.  She's there to calm your nerves, but your cheerleader, help put your veil in, and generally just be happy for you.

Answer 3

I think keeping her involved by letting her run small errands or be present when you pick your flowers or buy your favors.  In addition, let her help you pick your dress.

Answer 4

HIRE A WEDDING CONSULTANT!

The best way to get mom off your back is to keep her busy with a 3rd party.  It's worth the money! It's either a consultant or a lot of Prozac.

Your are planning your dream Wedding, well mom wants to plan "her" dream Wedding for you.  This is just human nature, so you will need relax a bit and compromise on small issues that you don't really care about.  Let her pick the invites and appetizers, or Wedding favors - that will keep her a bit busy!  The less she pays for, the better control you can have over your special day.

Good Luck!

Z.

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Answer 5

Ask her to alphabetize the flowers in order of Latin name (Genus, species)

Answer 6

if u have anything simple that u wouldnt care for her to do then give her those jobs. then maybe she'll be content long enough for u to do what it is that u have to do!

Good Luck!!!!

Answer 7

Give her specific tasks: Mom, it would be so helpful to me if you could put together a slide show with photos and music for the reception, if you could call these places (give her a list) and help me research prices on rental linens and china, and come with me to look at wedding gowns.

She wants to be involved. Pass off things to her that you aren't too worried about. Remind her to let you see anything BEFORE she signs a contract or puts down money, and she can be an enormous help to you!