My mom is emotionally abusive...help?

Question

I need help dealing with it....My dad and I don't speak, and he lives far from me anyway. I don't have really anywhere I can live, and I can't find a job, so I can't get emancipated....

Answer 1

I had the same problem, only minus the bad language. My mum wouldn't give me space, she overreacted about everything, and I was basically stuck in an imaginary cage. To get away as long as possible, I spent more time at school than at home. I joined extra activities, like the play, clubs, and I even helped teachers after school.

I haven't got close friends and i couldn't turn to anyone else in my family. When it started really overbearing on me, I started cutting the top side of my left arm. I couldn't deal with the emotional stress, so, like many others, I resorted to turning it to physical pain. It didn't work, not for long at least. It was an even rougher time for me because I was coming out of the closet at the same time, and being g*y in high school without friends isn't very pleasant.

I went to teachers that I trusted. Slowly, I told them about what was going on, why my grades were suffering, why I was so quiet and virtually mute, why I had slipped from a great student to a little shadow n the back. They didn't act professional, they emphasised. They gently suggested I try to get help, and even told me they had gone through the same stuff.

Eventually, stuff at home died down. My mum is anti-councillor, so she wouldn't go, but I got depression councilling where I could basically vent about my life. I feel a lot better now.

Don't try to change your mum if she won't change; live your life the way you want.  There's ALWAYS something.

Answer 2

Next time she abuses you verbally - Hold your hand in the air and say "Stop Mum, I do not speak to you like that and I do not know why you talk to me this way, I am not going to tolerate it anymore'  Walk away and tell her when she wants to treat you like a human being, you will converse with her.

If she just doesn't get it, then start talking to her like a ***** and see how she likes it ......................

Answer 3

(Wow... that sounds so harsh.)

Call or talk to your friends when your mom gets all mean. Try to have your friends hang out with you more often, especially when you feel the times getting hard. Have them support you and tell them what you have to put up with.

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You could try talking to your mom; tell her that sometimes she just goes way too far with the comments.(Lastly, try to find a space that is away from your mom for a little while when she starts yelling (like your bedroom); wait for her to cool down then try talking to her.)

Answer 4

honey,I want to give you an answer,but cant with so little info, whats up?? and ill do my best

Answer 5

Yeah, the first thing I would to is try standing up to her...next time she yells at you, calmly tell her you dont like being spoken to that way and ask her to stop.

This might not work though....

If it doesnt...is there someone at school you can talk to, like a teacher you trust or a guidance councellor? They might be able to help or point you in the direction of someone who can!

Good luck!  

Answer 6

Hi there

So sorry to hear about your abusive situation. This must be so hard on you and your sister. Your Mum sounds very angry and unhappy and is taking it out on you girls. However you don't deserve this and i suggest that you and your sister confront her about her attitude. It may be that she is not coping and needs to acknowledge this as it is making you and your sister very unhappy. My advice to you is to tell her that you are worried about her as she is really hurting you and your sister and if you can help her in anyway you will, but you can not continue to put up with the abuse. If this doesn't improve try and find someone to stay with, perhaps family until such time your mum improves. There is nothing worse than living on tender hooks in your own home. I hope things get better. Take Care

Kind Regards

Natalie

Answer 7

have u and ur family considered maybe counseling it really does work i have been in your shoes before so i can understand try ur best to try to get some family counseling because i lost my father last year he died and im so glad we had love in our hearts and not hate towards each other when he passed away family is precious and your mom and dad shouldnt take you or family for granted but in the mean time if you dont have anywhere to live go to a shelter they can assist you on getting housing vouchers