My mom is going through all my privacy?

Question

she keeps going into my room.. cleaning things out. and last night .. it was kinda messy so she of course.. cleaned my room. i was half asleep. but i could hear these pages like turning. i know i had a few journals in there.

and.. er some songs i wrote.

i feel so embarrassed now, she read everything i know it.

what do i do? i always tell her not to go through my stuff.

another time.. she went through my binder.. found something again, i got extremely mad at her. ughh.

and everytime she sees something like she didnt know about in my room. she tells me eventually and she acts all awkward. its uncomfortable .. like since she found my journal shes most likely going to tell me that she saw it after school.

what can i do so she wont be going in and out of my room?

Answer 1

Moms want to know everything.

They feel your not telling them enough and they hardly know you.

If your close to her she may not need to search through your room, so start talking to her about how your day went.

Tell her that your old enough to sort your own room out, which obviously means you will probably have to tidy your room yourself.

Explain how annoying it is when she rummages through your belongings. And let her know she doesn't have to read your journal to find out your secrets

If your close she wont need to do all of this.

Good luck =]  

Answer 2

okay it matters how old you are but it seems like i would for one keep your own room clean hun it will stop her from finding reasons to go through your room and two take your journal with you everywhere!! everyone needs a little privatecy the other journals i sugest you hide them in something you hardly ever go through so she wont look there hope that helps

Answer 3

she finks ur havin s*x, so dnt leave condoms in obvious places

and tidy ur room and den she wnt have a reason to come tidy ur room

lol

Answer 4

You should keep your room clean and leave your door open. Try to clean and mob your room . Keep your personal things locked. Parents do not like untidy room. Be cheerful and talk to your parents often. When they ask you question answer them don'nt be secretive. Make them trust you.Be happy always and don't be sad in front of them. Your happiness is what they want.

Answer 5

First ask her if she trusts you. If she says yes, then ask her why she goes through your things. If she says no, then ask her why. Tell her that it makes you feel uncomfortable when she snoops through your things. Tell her you have nothing to hide (even if you do). Tell her that if she wants to know something or suspects something, she can ask you. Let her know that you have nothing to hide. Maybe this will get her off your back. Also, you need to be more organized and try not to leave your "personal" stuff lying around. Be organized...that way you can tell if someone has been snooping through your things and it will prevent things getting exposed. Good Luck!  

Answer 6

start writing fake stuff in your diarys and let her find it, and see what happens

Answer 7

My advice is to NOT have private things (I know that sounds stupid because it's your room, and your mom has no right going through your things)... But maybe keep your personal songs/journals at school in a locker, or in your purse or between your matress and boxspring.. in your underwear drawer or somewhere where your mother wouldn't think to look.. Under your pillow, under a dresser... behind a picture hanging on the wall.. lol, I don't know.

Keep it out of your mom's view, so she doesn't think about it anymore.

OR talk to her and tell her to eff off! lol

Answer 8

Unfortunately, you live under her roof so if she doesn't want a lock put on your room then you have to abide by her rules. Some parents are just plain nosey and there isn't much you can do. I went through the same thing with my parents. I eventually just stopped keeping journals and things of that nature. Try keeping a private online journal that only you know the password to. This way you can still use writing as an outlet but won't have to worry about her snooping through your room and finding it.  

Answer 9

Parents are parents. As long as they care about you they will get curious as to what you're up to.

Get a small lockbox and put the things you want kept private in there.

Answer 10

let her know, buy a lock and lock the door when you leave

Answer 11

the only way in which you can stop her from going in and out of the room that she ALLOWS you to call your bedroom, is to move out. i'm sure you are too young for that, so it's not really an option, now is it. seriously, it's her house, she has the right to go in and out of ANY room that she pleases. and she has full legal right to look at anything and everything that is in her house. so just deal with. obviously you need to get over the whole "hiding" things. it's not going to work. if you've got something to hide, especially from a parent, then you probably need to grow up and own up rather than sneak around with it.

Answer 12

CLEAN YOUR ROOM

Your giving her the perfect oppurtunity to go through ur private stuff

And next time just tell her not to act like a snoop and that shed be a bad influence on ur kids(after u get married of course) if she keeps doing so

Answer 13

Keep your own room tidy then!

Put stuff on a laptop so you can secure it.

Answer 14

I do not mean to be rude,  but I do know about snoopy... moms...

I think you might only be able to keep her out of "your" room if you were paying rent and installed a lock... If she was like my mother that would not stop her either...

Answer 15

how old are you? obviously if you are over 18 you can just leave home or tell her to get f***ed. if not, you would hope she would have some respect for your privacy and for you as a person, have a chat to her and say that everyone deserves their own privacy and ask her how she would feel if you went through all her personal belongings. if all else fails just buy a little safety box from your local stationery store and put all your personals in the box and keep the key in a safe place

Answer 16

OK...When you live under someone else's roof there isn't such a thing as "privacy".At least that's what parents think...It was pretty messed for her to do that,but that's parents.What can you really do?Good luck!=)

Answer 17

Well, you need to teach her to leave you alone.

Put some L*****n p**n or similar in your room for her to find. If she asks you what you're up to, tell her honestly that you're working hard to keep her out of your room and to respect your privacy, and unless she wants to find something even nastier, to keep out in future.

Answer 18

lock up your room and things ....kick her ***

Answer 19

Just tell her in conversation firmly not to go through your stuff and hide the stuff you're really not comfortable for her reading incase she does again

Answer 20

Ask for a lock on your door and a key that only you have. Tell her you're old enough now to deserve your own privacy. Or, ditch the journals and stick to online blogging. it's safer and more convenient.

Answer 21

My mom was just like this and it made me extremely upset, it is a total invasion of privacy.  I recommend keeping your room extremely clean so that she has no excuse to "tidy" it up for you, discuss the problem with her, and write a song about how bad you feel about your mother invading your trust/privacy.  Maybe she will run across that and feel bad, like she should!

Answer 22

If you tell her not to go in

it will make her go in

So if you stop telling her that and maybe hide some of the stuff you don't want her to see

it will be fine

and she will eventually just leave it alone

Good luck : )

Answer 23

just tell her it is uncomfortable when she finds things

Answer 24

Maybe your mom feels like the bond between you is shifting now thats you're older and keeping some things more private, and she feels the only way to know whats going on with your life is to snoop. Explain to her that you feel invaded and disrespected- that you want her to allow you some personal space. She's only looking out for you so keep her informed of major things going on in your life like school events, crushes or if you're feeling depressed. And if all else fails, keep your personal things somewhere she won't find them, like under flooboards in the attic or behind dusty junk in the basement. Keep your room clean to save her the excuse of cleaning it for you. Just make sure she understands that you're becoming an adult now and she should treat you like one, with your own personal space and thoughts. Good luck!

Answer 25

just  tell    here

Answer 26

If there is nothing private which you want to hide from your mom then tell her that mom I did not have anything to hide from you.

If you want to go through my things, ask for it and do it right in front of me. Please do not do it behind my back, it hurts our trust.

I hope this would help.

Answer 27

well, first of all just keep your room clean...this is the first step towards responsibility..and once your mom sees that you're responsible..she'll trust you..she's probably reading ur journal cause she cares about you and wants to know if anything is wrong...but every child needs their privacy..but if she trusts you are responsible..you'll soon earn her trust that you will go to her when there is something wrong...talk to her, tell her that u kno she cares about you, that she doesn't want to annoy you, but you would really like her to see from your point of view...that you really have nothing to hide, but you wished ur mom would respect your privacy and trust you. Promise you'll do ur best to keep your room clean

Answer 28

confront her.

tell her you have a right to your privacy (but put it nicely) and be 100% honest with her. Maybe write a new journal but mention everything in it that you've told her then when she does look at it she won't feel the need to continue, keep this up for a few months, until you know she's stopped. And then go back to your real journal and go back to how you were if that makes sense?

I hope I helped in some way :)

Answer 29

It's annoying, but that's what moms do. You're gonna have to learn to hide things better, or maybe sit her down and ask her nicely not to go through your personal things.

Answer 30

She is your mom!

My personal experience says that you just cannot do a thing about the way she looks after you. She is just guarding her little one form all the harms. Try to be friendly with her and make subtle hints that you need a bit of privacy. Slooooooooooooooooooooowly she will (may) understand.

Answer 31

Yeah, the best thing to do is to clean your room. That way she has no excuse to be in there at all. Also, tell her you don't like her going through your personal things and that it's embarrasing and hurts your feelings. Good luck!