My mom is having a baby?

Question

I'm sixteen, my mom had a baby two years ago, which is now my little half sister. We have become very close and I always wanted that sister relationship. Life was perfect and going so well, for once. Till my mom told me she is having another baby. She is 41 years old! I'm super upset, my mom keeps saying by me being upset i'm not being very supportive. The reason I'm upset is because I always getting pushed out my family's lives. I'm scared that my sister and the new baby will have a better relationship because they live together and are closer in age. I think I have a right to be upset, it's a HUGE change for me but my mom keeps saying stuff like "it's going to happen so deal with it."

Do you think i'm upset over nothing? I was just finally getting close with my sister and having a good time, now this happens it to stress full!

Answer 1

Instead of whining about how it's going to affect YOU you need to support your mom and be there for her because the chance of having a healthy pregnancy and baby at that age is slim.  My Dad has an 18 month old with a 24 year old and he's 46.  I wasn't thrilled either but there wasn't anything I could do about it so I stayed positive about the situation.  

Answer 2

ok belive me if any thing they will fight over you, my step mom just had 2 boys one a year after the other, and the first one *who is going on 2* always fights over me, he loves our other brother but every time i visit (i dont live with them) he screams and runs up to me and makes sure i dont even acknowlede our other brother or else he will throw a tantrum, and facts are since their going 2 be so close in age they will be bitter rivals, so if anything be afraid that they will fight over you not the other way around

Answer 3

Very unfair to you, your mom should be more supportive of YOU. But really.. life isn't perfect, and neither are families, and obviously you love your little sister a lot. As long as there is love, it doesn't matter who you live with, or how many years are in between you and your sister and the new baby. You wont be losing your sister, you'll be gaining another sister/a brother!

Plus, you'll be the "cool older sister" ;)

Answer 4

i no how you feel but there really is nothing you can o about it now

i think that your little sister and the new baby are definitally going to be closer and i dont blame you for being jelous about that but your little sister will still have a pretty close relationship with you

my little brother and sister are twins and my little sister could care less if she plays with her  brother when im around she worships the ground i walk on

good luck

-<3- alexis -<3-

Answer 5

You are right - this will be a big change for you, but in the same way that you are getting close to your little sister, you will also be close to the new little one.

I can tell you from experience that smaller children will look up to you and want to be like you, and when you visit your Mom and the children they will be delighted to see you.

It might be hard, but try to be happy for your Mom, this may not be as terrible as you think.

I have learnt as I go through life, that when new people come into your life, you have more people to love and to love you!

I remarried after my husband died and my two children gained a step-father and two step-siblings.  When we had a baby together the bigger kids were 21, 20, 16 & 15 and they were not thrilled at the idea at all, but when our daughter was born they adored her and she still looks up to them and loves them very much.

Answer 6

I totally understand what your saying ..

if i was you, i would just feel weird like yaa.. shes 41 :S thats kinda ... u know what i mean of course ..

you have every right to be upset !!!!!!!!!!!!!

dont let her just treat you like that express yourself !!!!!!!!!!!!!  

Answer 7

Have a baby yourself.  

Answer 8

I don't see why your's and your sister relationship is going to struggle... if anything it'll make you two closer. She's always been the baby, and now with a new addition, SHE is going to feel left out, and could really use the extra attention from her big sister.