My mom is lazy & the house is a mess & theres bugs everywhere. what do i do? i dont wanna live here anyomore?

Question

she says she too tired to clean, and she uses all these excuses. the house smells, you cant walk around, i cleaned the house by myself, including her room like a million times and she thanks me and goes on with her day. sometimes i get my cousin to help me clean but she always messes it up again. i went camping with my friend after i cleaned, the day i left, and when i came home a week later all theses dishes and garbage all around. i dont know what to do, i cant live like this anymore.

Answer 1

move in with a different family member, or if you are under 18 call child protective services.   it would be better to move in with another family member though.

Answer 2

Keep cleaning until your old enough to leave, theres nothing you can do, the only other option is to call childrens services and they will take you from the home if they feel your are in some sort of danger.

Answer 3

my initial answer was going to be to help out, but I reread that you do help out. I am sorry this is happening to you. you didnt mention your age, are you old enough to go it on your own? do you have a dad/sister/brother/ other family member that would take you in? i am sure others are well aware of your situation. best of luck honey.

Answer 4

What you do depends on how old you are, if you're really young tell another adult who can help you such as a teacher. They can contact child services and what not. You could live with a relative or go into foster care. If you're old enough to move out, do so. You remind me of those poor children on Dr. Phil last night.

Answer 5

Maybe you could call your grandparents to help you.  They won't help you clean the house, but they will put a spark under your mom's booty and get her to keep her house clean.  But, as far as you know, you were just asking them to help you clean. =)

Answer 6

I am assuming that if you are old enough to get online and post this, that you are quite capable of picking up a broom and are able to operate a vacuum cleaner. Get busy! Turn up the music and clean to awesome music. Tell your mother that it is time to clean up a bit, and that it will make her feel better. Not a bad way to get some bonding time in, either. After that, celebrate a clean house with a good movie and food...why not give it a shot?

Answer 7

Leave the mess and act like you don`t care, That will really annoy your mom!!! Absolutely no mother can do nothing about it fir more then a month. Give it a try, if it does`nt work, don`t blame me, this is my first answer!!!

Answer 8

I think your mom is depressed.  You might go to social services and see if they have any kind of free counseling.  Once you get in you can let them know what she's like, other then not cleaning and they'd be able to help; or get her help, if she's willing to go.

Answer 9

I know what it is like. I grew up in a house just like that. I am 29 and my mom is still like that. It is horrible. I know my mom has a problem and no matter how many times my sister and I tell her to clean up and how many times growing up we would clean it and it wouldn't stay that way long. Hang in there! When you grow up and move out just try to be different then her!

Answer 10

I'm sorry for you. Call pest control and pay for it with your moms money. take all the trash and put it in her room. Call shild services depending on how old you are, you coul emancipate from your mom. This could cause serious problems though. Did this jsut start all of the sudden? She may be depressed and should go see a doctor or a psych. Good luck, and sorry about your mom. Everything will work out.

Answer 11

I know it's tough, but try to be understanding. Does she work? It's pretty difficult at times working and being a parent . Certainly helping her is a good idea and it's great that you do, perhaps you could make some arrngements with her, leaving her to clean her own room. If she sees you taking on the cleaning, she may be inspired to help keep it up. You certainly seem old enough to clean and do chores. Wait until you're in her position 20 years down the line. You'll understand then. Adults are not perfect either !!

Answer 12

Do you know where your father is? If so, maybe you can look into living with him if you think it may be better. If not, talk to a school counselor, he/she may be able to help you.

I had a friend in your predicament when I was in high school, she left home and went to live with another friends family.

Answer 13

i have a similar MOM issue except she ad i fight alot and i am on the edge of hating her for good. i wish you the best of luck. your mom will not clean because she knows you will be there to do it. she is taking advantage anf you need to get away. try to set a plan that will help you to achieve goals of moving out. get set financially and make it happen.

Answer 14

Clean it again.  Call Social Services - but they might put you in foster care if you are young and the house is really a mess.  Ask you mom to pay for a housekeeper.  Tell her you will clean it if she pays you.

Answer 15

try  tellin her that her mess is discusting you and you dont fell this is the way her child should be raised. or try living with another family member if possible?

Answer 16

If the house is unclean and unsafe perhaps you should contact your local CPS office and have them investigate your housing situation. Sounds harsh and it is, but that is not a safe environment for children to be in. Especially if there are younger children in the house. Another option is to call the non emergency police number.

Answer 17

clean up stuff that only affects you.

just do your laundry, your dishess and stuff like that.

and if anything gets in your way, just toss it in her room.

Answer 18

Wow. That's a big one. I think you're mom does need to pick up after herself. I mean, I clean most of my dad's stuff, but luckily, he's a pretty clean guy and I don't have to do much. But, wow...hmmmm...I'll get back to you on that. I'll see if I can get some answers.

Answer 19

You can call the child help hotline 1-800-4-A-CHILD or visit this website http://www.childhelp.org/

They can advise you about what to do.

Good luck!

Answer 20

tell your mom how you feel. make here realize how bad it has gotten. put a snake in her room and freak her out. tell her it got in because the house is so dirty. she might see the light. just keep up the good work.

Answer 21

Just keep cleaning..what else can u do if she is that lazy. She could be arrested you know by social services or children's services. Tell her if she doesn't clean more, you're gonna call them on her...that might cause major problems though and she might get really mad and ground you or hurt you? I don't know what your relationship is like, so don't get mad.... anyway, find a friend to hang out with more I guess. You shouldn't have to live like that though...she sounds awful.

Answer 22

you clean up any area that involves in in any way. then , tell her how u feel about the situation and dont be too nice about it but dont be too mean (i mean she is ur mum still!) if it continues maybe lay down the law more. no one should have to live like that and she really doesnt have any excuses because her house and family should be first on her list to look after. have u seen "how clean is ur house" if the bacteria and all get bad it can be health damaging:S good luck.

Answer 23

Well, tell your mom her house is gross.  Then you keep it clean because, afterall, yoru mother did take care of you for YEARS and probably still is...financially anyway and ask her nicely to keep her messes cleaned up.  If she doesn't, clean up after her anyway...do you have any idea how many c**p diapers of yours she had to change?  Do you think she enjoyed cleaning up after you allt hose years?  Probably about as much as you enjoy cleaning up after her....

Answer 24

thats horrible! you should not be living in an environment like that. If your old enough to move out then save some money and do it. Other wise i say you sit down and give your mom a long talk. Be stern and tell her shes discusting and her own child should not be cleaning up after her! She needs a rude awakening so she can feel bad about how shes living and WANT to change.

Answer 25

Well it depends on what state you live in and how old you are.  You could try to get emancipated teen status or maybe call the authorities on your mom since she is endangering your health.

Answer 26

Take her on Dr. Phil.

Or just get emancipated and move out.

Tell her that the reason you want to move out is because you don't like living like this.  Tell her that if she cares about you and her own health that she needs to learn to clean sometimes.  Even if she doesn't clean, she needs to at least not leave a mess everywhere.

Answer 27

There are only a few options here. Try talking to her about helping around the house in the most respectful way possible. Keep helping and cleaning but try and get her to join in by being honest with her. She may be going through some depression and cleaning just isn't something she thinks about. If she just plain out does not care..then be brutally honest. I am not sure if you are an adult or not- But you can think about getting your own place depending on how much you really cannot take it.

Answer 28

my mom is the same way and i do all the cleaning too just clean ur room and stay for about 2 weeks and then she how she reacts she doenst clean cause she know your'll do it everytime the house gets dirty

Answer 29

It depends on how old you are.  

If you are old enough to move out then do that.  

If you are not, I am not sure much can be done unless it is complete filth, and she is neglecting you.

I would suggest calling 411 or looking online for a "department of children and families service"  of dcfs.

Call them and tell them you have concerns and what they are.

Good luck

Answer 30

Poor thing, I honestly feel for you.............

Depends on how old you are? If you are under the age of 18(in most states) you can have social services come in and remove you, or if you are really pissed and want to take immediate action tell her off and threaten her with the cops or social services!!!

Answer 31

Is your mom depressed?  Being really tired all the time is often depression.  Or some other medical issue. She may need to get some help.  No one should have to live like that.  Ask someone responsible in your family to help you get her some counseling or medication or something.