My mom is really really...frustrating me?

Question

First off, let me start with a very important detail, that my mom always promises things to me, even if she suggests it, and then never follows through. She said that once we move back to the states and get a house i can get a dog. I've had many pets in the past, even chinchillas whom i had to handfeed with a syringe (the mother passed away) i found the breeder, i saved up, i cleaned the cage EVERY weekend, and with that is no joke. I've even considered becoming a vet. Maybe wen im old enough ill start off at a pet store and then voloteer at an animal shelter. but thats not the point. I've already talked to her abotu it before hand, and she keeps saying no because SHE doesnt want to clean up after it. What frustrates me the most is that she won't hear me out, she KNOWS im responsible, but then why won't she listen to me? She spoils me older brother, when she constantly complains about his behavior (i asked a question last xmas similar to this one) and i've even talked to my dad and u know wat his answer is? "dont worry about it" he wants me to think positivley. oh and he has no problem driving me up to see the breeders i've considered for the SMALL dog. I just don't understand her any more! sorry one more thing: ill be paying for the pup, and yes i know they're not cheap. im saving up.

Answer 1

Hi, I dont think it is a money issue. How long, have you been back to the states? Is she saying, no, you may NEVER, have a dog? We need her side of the story. I am afraid pieces of the puzzle could be missing.   Keep going to places that you like to go to see the dogs, while trying to convice your mother. Its a wonderful feeling to be around animals, if you love them so much. Use time to get your way, on this one.

Good luck

Answer 2

I don't know what to tell you really either, if you've had pets before then there shouldn't be an issue, if you guys have just recently gone back to the states i can see why a little, she may just be stressed from the move back, moving anywhere is stressful for everyone and she may just not be ready to have a pet, it might not be that she doesn't think you're ready it might just be that she's not ready

Answer 3

You don't mention your age, but it looks like you cannot rely on your mom for anything, so quit asking her. It sounds like your dad has your back but is keeping it on the QT.

When you get relocated, you can scope out the opportunities for vocational education and internships, even in high school. There may be stables, or you can do something with FFA. Check for veterinary programs at the local community colleges, etc. See if some scholarships are available.