My mom is so so so so so mean...

Question

Well, she is always talking bad about me and she always keeps going on about the same subject after its over. Just today she was telling my dad about something that happened long ago. She gets on my nerve. I don't want to talk to her about it or my dad. WHY IS SHE LIKE THIS AND WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

Answer 1

Explain to her how it makes you feel and ask her if she would like for someone to do that to her. I would not speak badly about my child especially in front of them. Just be respectful to her when you talk to her about it.

Answer 2

act better

Answer 3

Your mother desires you to function within the wellspring of society for the benefit of the populous.

Answer 4

I agree with Becca.

I would confront her.

Answer 5

I would just be nice. No mean comments..

It just makes something else for her to

talk about. Dont let her get to you. Try

to blow her off. Well good luck.

Answer 6

lol my mom does the same thing to me. Your mom is just probably stressed out with her life, she probably had a bad day or isn't feeling good. Have a family meeting or you can talk to your dad and ask him for advice.  

Answer 7

Well to solve really any problem, you have to confront the person.

Answer 8

It's Okay,

When My Moms Mean I go up in my room and scream in my pillow or throw my stuffed animal at my wall, just to get the anger out. But I would only recommend throwing that at a wall! Nothing else! Then when I'm done I lay/sit on my bed and think about that my mom doesn't really want to be mean she just doesn't want people to think her kid can do whatever they want. She doesn't hate you, she's watching out for you. Also, I think about all the good times I've had with my mom and it makes me feel better. Think about this, you say she's getting on your nerves and she might be but think, when your mean, your getting on her nerves. Just calm down, don't yell,or slam doors,and only cry if you have to (in your pillow) and just settle down.

Then after awhile go down and if she yells at you, don't get mad just walk upstairs and do it all over again and this time stay longer.

Everything will be alright...

Trust me :)

~tay~ :)

Answer 9

you need to let  her know that you change . for the good do something good without her telling you wash dishes . clean room . she doesnt have anything to talk about so give her some good things to say about you

Answer 10

What would you do if you the day comes when you're the mother? The fact that you don't want to talk to her about it simply makes the situation worse. She could be trying to push you to the point that you DO finally communicate to her in some way or in the only way you've left (a screaming match-which ends with everyone venting without any thought)? She may also be trying to hurt you emotionally (negative reinforcement)  through shame if it was something very serious that you did and she's very worried about you, her baby, but hiding behind a "mean" mom face because that's what SHE grew up with. It was obviously something serious enough to always be on her mind (as if Moms don't already have enough to worry about-we worry about our babies 24/7 no matter what age they are and can remember nearly every moment we've spent with our baby, even when they were just kicking around inside of us).

Something that's almost impossible for any child to fathom is that their parents WERE their age once (it's almost impossible to picture your parents at a wild teenage party, isn't it--but they've ALWAYS existed in EVERY generation-it's not groundbreaking news) and while no parent would likely admit to it, we made many mistakes and did things we regret. We aren't going to tell our kids (or even spouse for that matter) of things that are shameful. And, the thing is, those shameful memories stay with you the rest of your life as if they'd happened a few weeks ago--they don't fade like the memories of who was at the prom. Maybe your mom has some skeletons and fears based on her own choices that she's hoping you'll avoid but she simply can't tell you about, ever (even if you ask, particularly if you've already started isolating yourself from her)?

While your instinct is probably "f-her, I don't need her" (I WAS very much the same way and I was a real bad girl from 13 on), the thing you need to remember is that she does love you even if you feel that way. Be strong, tell her how you feel about it exactly to the point (i.e. "Mom, I really don't like it when you talk to me about...." ."That happened a long time ago, why won't you let it be something in the past?" (don't start a screaming match because that simply pulls you into the web) and have the guts to either walk away or CALMLY tell her to knock it off. Until the day you actually become a mother, you can't realize how deep the love is--it goes beyond romantic love that gives you butterflies or even the love you feel for your own parent--most moms would *happily* endure every heartache or pain on their child's behalf so that their child can have a life without those, without ANY hesitation, and most children never stop to realize that.

Your circle of friends will likely keep changing over your lifetime, but your parents are always still the same. Protect yourself emotionally, don't let her pick on you, but quit trying to simply reinforce a wall you've started building. You'll be much stronger and more successful in life if you keep your family connections in place. (I myself pretty much severed them and 20 years later, realized how much I needed them, but it was too late).

Answer 11

im sorry you just have to talk to her about it, my mom would say mean things about some of my friends she didnt like i was mad about it i talked to her about it now she just keeps things to herself, so reallly talk to your parents about it.

Answer 12

oh gosh my grandma is like that too -_-'

well you can't really do anything about it but to blast up your ipod when they're talking lol

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Answer 13

There's nothing you can do but talk to her about it. If you really feel as if she's unfair, then explain why you think so in a rational manner.  

Answer 14

You are describing a common problem between mothers and teenage daughters.  Try to have a little patience with her, and know that she is trying to do what is best for you.  She is the only mom you will ever have, and some day she will be gone, and you will wish her back.  My daughters and I often had major disagreements when they were teenagers, but now we are best friends.  My daughters are all in their 30s now.   Someday you and your mom will also be best friends, and you will be able to look back on this time and realize that it was all just part of growing up.

Answer 15

run away

Answer 16

ever mum is the same, mums are annoying you have just got to get on with it,

just think as yourself lucky some people dint have a mum and there there for a reason, and if it got to the point where she really wound me up id just ask her politely if she would stop as its upsetting me

Answer 17

I would be frusterated and wouldnt be able to take it anymore!It seems she gets any excuse to get on you.Just so things can stop id have conftront her even though i wouldnt.But it pobably be for the best.

Answer 18

Hun, I have a Lebanese mother and an Italian father, and boy can they complain and go on and on about the same old stuff all the time... I just eventually switch off completely and let them ramble on, because honestly, what's done is done, and we cannot make the future better when we keep harping on about the past.  

Answer 19

how is that so so so so mean?!?!

what about children that get abused? physically and mentally by the people/person that is supposed to look after them in life?

just grow up. there are so many people in a worse off situation than you and you don't see them going on y!a and moaning about it.

Answer 20

I'd try to be a better, more considerate daughter so she wouldn't feel the need to complain about me.