My mom is too overprotective!! help?

Question

my mom always lets me go places alone. Idk what to call what she is wiht me. she doesnt let me get my ear pierced. girls my age already ahev there belly button and nosed pierced! I am 14 and in highschool! I am not allowed to ge manis or pedis or straighten or curl my hair more than 2 times a month!! im not a baby anymore and she keeps telling me things like ohh it trampy and S****y!! i see 11 year olds with manis and pedis!! im 14! idkk what to do! then she asks me why im not popular! maybe because popular also has to do with looks! ohh and no shaving legs or eyebrow waxing! what am i supposed to do im sick of it! she treats me like a 5 year old! NOTHING i ahev tried changes her mind!

Answer 1

Ask her "What is "trampy" and "S****y" about wanting to look nice?"

Make her give you a legit answer.

Answer 2

You have to do it behind her back. Sneak around. have a Friend let you borrow some things like a razor. u don't have to straighten ur hair. with a straightener. use a wet towel and a hot iron. improvise  

Answer 3

Tell her how you feel. But don't have any yelling. Just tell her how you feel in a calm manner, that way her first instinct won't be to yell back.

That sounds weirdly overprotective to me

Answer 4

well i really SHOULD say that you should talk to your mom and tell her how you feel BUT we all know nobody really likes doing that.

What I would do is try to go get manicures with your friends and stuff. Be like "Hey mom can go over to so and so's, we're going shopping" and then when you get back be like hey mom look arent they cute we ended up getting manis. She's not gonna make you like REMOVE the nail polish. and just walk down to your local pharmacy and buy yourself some razors. You can hide em if you want. OR if you dont have a pharmacy or grocery store nearby be like hey mom when did you start shaving and lol she'll prob say like 11 and then you'll HAVE to make her let you. Its fun to be rebellious.

BUT, all jokes aside chika, it's not cool to lie AND good looks don't bring you popularity. I know youre saying yeah right and I agree good looks make it easier but to be popular you gotta be friendly, confidant, and happy. Smile (but dont be one of those creeper 24/7 smilers haha).

So good luck and if all else fails just talk to your mom (but i hate talking to my mom too so do whatever suits you)

<3

Answer 5

You're acting like a 5 year old right now.

"But mommy! Lookie! They can do that! How come I can't?"

Seriously. Just because everyone else is doing it, does that mean you have to?

And popularity...if it stems from your looks and not a great personality, you will easily fall from it.

1. The shaving legs&eyebrow waxing - have you ever asked her WHY? Shaving legs is pretty normal and tell her you'd like having smooth legs. Eyebrow waxing...your eyebrows are detracting from the rest of your great looks.

2. Straightening/curling your hair - ask her if you can have the privilege of doing it ONCE a week if you do all your chores/homework or something. Doing that everyday's going to fry it.

3. Ear piercing - birthday present and promise you won't buy trampy earrings. Trampy earrings are usually those big *** hoops.

4. manis&pedis...uh, aren't those usually kind of on the pricey side? You don't fcuin' need it.  

Answer 6

It's very normal for adolescent girls to rebel against their mothers. You think that your situation is unique and that she "just doesn't understand".

She does and what she's doing for you is so good for you, and yet, there's no way for you to see that. (And she understands that too!)

Ahhh, too bad youth is wasted on the young.

You don't know what you don't know. But .. you will when you grow up.

Answer 7

I guess you're going to have to show her that you aren't as young as she thinks you are.

Approach her as a young adult and let her see the other side of things just like what you told us. Does she KNOW what other kids are doing these days?

This is coming from a 13 year old;

My mom used to be like that, but I just pointed out how others act and she should be glad I'm not trying to be something I'm not and I'm not following other people's paths. And she came to the conclusion where she let me loose little by little. Not just giving me the freedom to do everything all at once, but once in a while I'll go and ask her to do this and that and she'll say yes but there's some stuff I gotta stay away from.

Answer 8

welcome to my life. ya i can sympathize with you. i dont know how good a relationship you have with your mother but you could always just disobey her and there really wouldnt be anything that she could do about it. thats what i did at least

Answer 9

Your mom is Overprotective for one reason, She loves you!!!!

She is only trying to keep you on the right track and keep you from doing something you will regret later on in life. Believe me im a grandfather of four