My mom is trying to get custody of me. please help!!!!!!!?

Question

My dad is an alcoholic and he smokes and was abusive to my mom and brothers. I have asthma from living around him and his smoking and I also found out that he does drugs. My mom is trying to get custody of me and I really want her to. Our only problem is that he's really good at lying to the courts and they always believe him, but I think it's cause he was in the marines, two wars, and he used to be a cop (like 30 years ago). My mom has a clean record and I don't think anything can go wrong but I really need some advice so my mom can get full custody of me. He also tries to take me back from my mom all the time and he can cause right now he has the majority custody over me. He also made me lie to a cop before. I found drugs in his closet and he made me tell the cops that it was my moms. Is there anything i can do. I already have a note for a judge written, but I want to know if i can get a restraining order against him or if my mom can win the custody rights over me. PLEASE HELP!!!!! I'M SCARED OF MY DAD!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

It should be. Your Dad has no right to keep you in that house. Since you have a letter written for the judge, try to make sure that your dad can't find it, and let your mom's attorney read it over. If you tell the court everything that he has done to you, you should be able to get a restraining order against him. Also, if you can get any proof of his actions, like when he does drugs, then that would almost guarantee that your mom could get custody.  

Answer 2

you just have to be sure to speak to that judge! do anything you can to get in there and speak your peace. he will listen to where you want to go. make sure to tell him EVERYTHING you told us. DONT LIE. Once you tell the truth they wont make you go with your dad.  

Answer 3

How old are you? In most states if you 12 and older, you get to decide what parent you want to live with.  You just have to tell the judge what you told us, and tell him/her that you want to live with your mom.

Answer 4

Call DFS (division of Family Services) and tell them all this.  They will make a suprise visit to the house.  You can tell them ahead of time where the drugs are but that your scared of him knowing you told them. See what they say.  MAybe they will make it part of the inspection.  

Answer 5

You need more help than you can get here.  You should really speak to a lawyer, either alone or with your mother.  It would help if you speak to the judge.  Try to speak to the judge alone, so he knows you are not just saying what your mother tells you to.

Answer 6

Poor thing.  My mom is a social worker and I have worked as a correctional officer for over a year with kids age 10-20 years old, so I know where you are coming from.  I am also a veteran and know that sometime we veterans do get looked at in a different light.  Especially since your dad is an older vet and been in two wars.  

Obviously he has issues from his war days.  If you want to be with your mother then you must tell the judge that,  Do not let your dad intimidate you.  I know it will be hard because he will most likely be in the room, but stay strong.  Don't cry and be sincere.  If you start crying they will all see you as a little kid and decide what is best for you instead of you influenceing the decision.

I hate that you are around drugs and only a kid yourself.  I also had a bad upbringing and was around that stuff.  Please tell the judge.  If that dosen't work then call your local DHHR(Department of Health and Human Resources) and tell them your situation.  There are social workers there and you can stay confidential.  Tell them there is a girl that is living with her father and he is doing drugs.  If you speak in the third person like that you can keep your identity a secret and your father will never know who called.  

Do what is best for your future.  Unfortunately kids have to look out for themselves at times.

Good luck and God bless!

Answer 7

Demand a lie detector test for you, your dad, and your mom asking about who owned the drugs and how your father treated your family. That will prove how he really is and you can't lie during it because it will find out.