My mom is very emotionally abusive. How will she treat a potential girlfriend?

Question

I have a hard time liking my mom. I am 21 and male and ever since I was growing up my mom would criticize me yell at me and tell me she hates me over the smallest things. She has even said she wished that she had never had me at all, when she was mad. My mom overreacts to everything. I am concerned how my mom will treat my girlfriend and how she will criticize that relationship.

Answer 1

Ouch, I'm sorry.

Well obviously she has issues. Thhey are not yours and it is not you.

Try not to stress about her judgement. Her perseption is wrong so it can't be taken as anything worth holding on to.

However, it's your mom which makes it hard..but you have survived this.

If your girfriend is good for you, just let that embrace you !!!

Keep away as much as possible. And all visits brief .

~Peace

Answer 2

Bring your girlfriend around your mother ONLY when absolutely necessary. Your mother is toxic in your life, and if you love someone you will shield that person from your mother.  

Answer 3

i'm so sorry  that your mother needs help this sounds like this runs deeper then you think. have you ever sat down with her and ask her why she has always felt this way toward you. believe me that's not normal for a mother to treat her son like that. and i would explain to your girlfriend how things are in your house and  how your life has been with your mother and take it from there.

good luck

Answer 4

u sure thats ur mom??

Answer 5

im concerned for you and your mom, and im not joking or trying to be mean when i say that she should try some therapy. and maybe you can give your gf a headsup before she meets her.good luck =]

Answer 6

Simple. Tell her that she needs to treat your girlfriend with respect and kindness or she will not be involved in your life. Ultimatums almost always work.  

Answer 7

tell someone else to do it

Answer 8

just dont indroduce them.

Answer 9

I'm sorry that she acts that way. Nobody deserves that. But i dont think she would treat a girlfriend any better. I would introduce the two.

Answer 10

You are 21 and have no obligations to bring a girlfriend home to mom.  If she ask why you don't, tell her.  

If you are still living at home, move out ASAP.  Why stay in an abusive situation.

I'm a mom, grandmother, and great-grandmother and I would not want any of my kiddos to have to deal with your situation.

Answer 11

Mom must be important to you to want her to meet your girlfriend.  I say only introduce them if the relationship is serious...like super serious.  You don't want to jeopardize your happiness b/c of mom's behavior.  

Explain this to girlfriend ahead of time so that she is not angry after meeting mom.  You two will argue for hours or even days over mom.  

Answer 12

Welcome to the "I've got a not right mother club". Your mom sounds like mine, except my mother likes to ignore us completely and then tell everyone we don't speak to her. Anyway, keep your mom AWAY from anything normal and good to you in this world. My mom would ask completely innappropirate questions, and make rude jokes, or ignore the people completely when i introduced them...so Good Luck.