My mom isn't letting me grow up!?!?!?

Question

Mmkay, so I'm 13 and going eighth grade. My mom has serious problems or something. She's not letting me grow up! Like, she won't allow me to shave my legs, have ANY friends that are guys, wear bras, wear tampons, buy my own clothes,or even hang out with old friends that I haven't seen in a long time because they are too "mature" (i.e., they do all the stuff i can't do). How can I convince her to loosen up the strings and let me live my life? Help!

Answer 1

I think your mom should get a life of her own instead of ruin yours.

Tell her to chill because you are a teen.

Answer 2

First of all tampons are not for woman who have had children.  They are for PERIODS!  This does not make someone a s**t.  Besides what do you do if you are in sports?  Or during gym class?  Pads are unsanitary in my opinion.  So to the mother of the 12 year old lighten up.  You gonna make her sit inside for a week during the summer and not let her go swimming cause your a nut yourself?  Give me a break.  Everything you are talking about is very reasonable and you should do for cleanliness.  Like every one else says just do it.  Buy all these things yourself.  Its not your fault your mother is still in ancient times.

Answer 3

lol wow ur mum sounds lik mine.. hang in there kiddo lol.. eventually she will crack lol.. ur the oldest hey?? or an only child?? plz dun worry bout it 2 much.. theres no rush.. although wtf 2 the shavin legs things lmao

Answer 4

my mom's just like your mom except for the bra issue. i'm 13 as well and she wouldnt let me shave my legs becuz she thinks there's no need to. also, she wouldnt let me wear tampons too and her reason behind that was because she wanted me to wear pads instead cuz it was "safer" than sticking something up your v****a. maybe you should start telling her how embarrassed you are in front of your friends because of the things she's restricting you to do. that works sometimes. good luck!

Answer 5

You have the rest of your life to grow-up..the only way to get you mother to treat you in a mature way is to show that you are responsible..as a parent of a 12 yr old, there are things i will let her choose in doing..that is so she will start to learn to make good decisions ..shave the legs..yes..the bra..yes..tampons are for women who had children..in life there are boundaries..even with adults..as a child....your parents love you..and buying your own clothes .. thats when you need to find a babysitting job..but until your 18 or out of the house..your parents are doing what they think is best..

you are still a child..one day you will be able to make mature deicions ..but now learn from others mistakes ..

Answer 6

i'm 13, going to eighth grade too!

and i have the same problem but my mom isn't that bad.

i told her i NEEDED a bra.

and dont worry about tampons

you can buy them on your own

and you can buy your own razor.

i think you should use that kind where

you use it in the shower, i tried it yesterday

it works and its only about 8 bucks at target/walmart

you need your OWN style and you should tell her that.

also, expalin that you're not dating the boys

you are just friends with them.

but ehh if you "cant be" friends with them

just dont tell your mom you are lol!

talk to your mom and tell her that you'll always

be her little girl, but she needs to let you grow up and do things that you want to do

after all, we're almost in highschool and we need to make our own decisions right?!

she may losen up a little bit i hope :)

email me if you want...i dont really care

i like giving advice [i'm a girl too lol] goodluck!

Answer 7

its not right that you cant wear a bra or tampons. she is being to strict. talk to her. she sounds kinda crazy, im sorry but shes GOING OVER BOARD!!!

Answer 8

i would sit down and have a serious talk with her, make a list of all the problems and make them in order of importance. talk with her, tell her you want to work a trust system out where u get to do the first thing, and if all goes well... in a week or so you move on to #2 and so on, of course you have to hold up your end of the bargain

p.s bras tampons and shaving is hygeine, express the importance of that

Answer 9

Wow!!! holy.. tell your mom to ease up.. let her know that you are growing up and these things are all part of that. Unless you are part of a religious family then I could understand. She is being over protective of things that are needed in a girls life. especially the bra thing..

Seriously not letting you shave your legs.. does she want you to have 24/7 leg warmers?

or just start buying your own things..

Answer 10

wow. well if she said that tell her its not my fault i got my dads side of genes. i didnt pick which ones i wanted!! & all women shave!! so wat u think every female that shaves r whores? & tell her mom u need 2 realize i am growing up!! i cant stay like this little kid u r "raising" 4 ever!! well if she doenst listen 2 that try 2 talk 2 ur cousins or aunts & ask them if they can buy u a bra & a razor & that u will pay them bakc. or if u have ur own money go rite ahead & buy the stuff & ask a family member 2 go w/u so she can help u with the bra size

Answer 11

okay, parents are like that, but your mom is really out of it.....

---"Like, she won't allow me to shave my legs, have ANY friends that are guys, wear bras, wear tampons, buy my own clothes,or even hang out with old friends that I haven't seen in a long time because they are too "mature" (i.e., they do all the stuff i can't do)."------

that's a bit too much. i think what you really need to do is sit her down, and tell her that you are a teenager, and not a baby anymore. Its normal for parents to be like this, because they hate seeing their "baby" grow up. but seriously, wear bras, wear tampons?!!!! that's wayyyyy out of hand . talk to her, hun.

EDIT:::::::::::::do the opposite of whatever she tells you to do. Its not like you are going to have s*x here. HELLO? its your body, and its only shaving your legs. the stupid little hairs are just going to grow back in 2 weeks anyways, AND SHE CANT GLUE HAIR BACK ON YOUR LEGS. i believe you that talking to her wont help. i know what you mean, but right now, you are the reasonable one here, and she is just being.......a *beep*. excuse my language.

=]

xoxo,

jenn l <3 v e

Answer 12

REBEL. shave your legs, hang out with guys, wear bras, wear tampons, buy your own clothes, and hang out with your friends; h**l, get a BOYFRIEND. she'll process the fact you're growing up. she'll talk to her friends and they'll tell her shes being a little ridiculous. thats about the only thing you can do.

Answer 13

Omfg.

I feel for you I really do.

If I lived in the USA I would totally talk to your mom for you.

Infact, give me her email address, and I'll tell her myself.

I'll say I'm a penpal or summin!! lol !!

You got bebo?? I gotta lot of experience with this sort of thing.

PS I am a girl ..

(:

Answer 14

ok first sit down and talk to her. try to tell her how you feel and tell her some convincing, honest facts that will let you do some of those things. like with the bra, tell her you will get hit on guys more  without it because it covers you up and try to go shopping with your mom for clothes and suggest some shirts

Answer 15

ok well show her this responce:

every kid needs to grow up.It is part of being a responcible adult. I do understand wear she is coming from on the friends that are too mature and the tampons and the guy friends: thse friends could be a bad influence one you, personaly, i think your too young for tampons but if u already started ur period, then whats the point? does she not want u to go swimming? and the guy friends well a few is nice but maybe she is worried that they will try to "do stuff to you"

tell her that u can make your own choices and that buying ur own clothers is part of being 13. im only going to say this once EVERY GIRL NEEDS TO SHAVE HER LEGS!!! it is sort of gross when they dont

and about the bras, ur mom is just not ready for u to grow up so next time ask her "Mom, i no that i cant wear regular bras, but maybe a training bra so that u could get used to it. Im a girl and im growing up. I want to buy my own clothes, and i will get ur approval on every single item, I PROMISE! I no that u might think so n so r bad influences on me but so n so is a really good friend and i would like to see them. "

shes just a mom that doesnt want  you to grow up

XOXo hope this helps a ton

Katelin

Answer 16

wow

im sorry you have it way bad.

i thought my mom was bad about not letting me get my belly pierced till im 16 and not letting me get a permit till im 16.

but she let me shave at age 11.

ive been wearing bras since i was about 8....sports bras that is.

i didnt move up to padded bras until i was in the 7th grade.

i dont wear tampons though, but thats because i choose to not wear them yet.

my mom said when im ready she'll take me shopping for them.

ive been wearing make up since i was 13.

and im allowed to hang out with guys as long as i call and check in sometimes.

im almost 15 btw.

but maybe you should show her all the peoples responses on this site.

like..maybe she'll ease up and see how nutty shes being.

shes going over board with this.

but honestly...you need a bra sweety.

your 13 years old.

at a certain age, it aint cute.

go out with one of your girl friends and buy at least a sports bra.

and for the shaving...wow umm maybe you could shave behind her back.

its not like shes going to feel your legs every day.

tell her your growing up and you need your space!

its very hard being a teenage girl and this is the time where we need to find things out about ourselves.

i hope i helped hunny.

but parents love us, even if they show it in the most ridiculus ways.

they just hate seeing us grow up.

for example...

i was laying on the couch with my mom earlier today and we were watching tv and on a commercial break, she was looking at me, and im like umm what?

and shes like...

i wish you could go back to being my little boo-boo.( which is the nick name her and my dad gave me when i was little. long story haha) but anyway she said she wanted me to be her little girl again because she misses it.

so maybe by shaving, wearing bras and tampons and stuff freaks her out because when your little theres no need for that stuff so shes trying not to let go of the baby that was in you.

sorry this is long lol

but i hope i helpedd<3

Answer 17

Whooaaa. Say mom im 13 i need to wear a bra because my breast are developing and im alredy going to pubrty mom and it doesnt look very desent when a young lady wears shorts and has very hairy legs. Plus mom i cant avoid guys because their all over my school and i will once in my life be paired up with a guy partner so i cant be his enemy and lastly mom i dont like wearing pads can i try out tampons just once to see if i like them. Also mom i will like to dress in my own style not yours mom please i want to bye my own clothes and see my friends espeacially if i have a long time with out seeing them go to the movies with them and you know do other friendly things.

Answer 18

she is crazy about the  whole bra thing. as for all the other things u cant do i think she should loosen up a bit i mean i could do all those things at the age 10. and maybe she doesn't want u to grow up "too quickly".

Answer 19

I can almost understand that shaving, but guy friends? tampons? BRAS?? Your own clothes that is so so! Hanging with friend that are too mature...come on lady?

Answer 20

She doesn't allow you to wear bras and tampons? Well, that depends...are you a flatchest? Do you even have your period? If you want your mom to let you grow up and stuff, show her that your responciple (sp?)

By the way, why do you want to grow up so fast? Your only 13.

Oh...to show her that your responceple, do some chores around the house, come home at a early time, feed your pet (If you have one)

You can't force maturity, so just take it easy right now. Enjoy being a teenager.

P.s- Seriously, your mom doesn't let you wear a bra?

Answer 21

WHAT!?!?!?!?

no bras no tampons no shaving no guy friends wow she is going overboard and more i was aloud to shave at age 9 have worn tampons since 10 and had a boy friend since 11 and my mom not only let me wear bras she made me wear them. I think the best way to do it is to either talk to her or send her an special e-card or e-mail saying how you will be her little girl forever but will only have 1 life to live. Good luck and hope things go well.

Answer 22

Okay..My mom is the same way and when i had my one of my guy bestfriends call she went CRAZY!! she thought it was my bf (and i dont even have a BF)so i've been shaving my legs anywayzz...and i call all my guyfriends is front of her and i put a bunch of guys in my door! hehe. the tampons/bra thing thts just crazy!!! most of my friends are older than me so when i go to the movies with my friends/guy friends she gets my brother to come undercover (but im like i know its my brother cause he has a lot off tattoos)so juss do everything that she doesnt let you

Answer 23

look, i know how it is to have parents like that. i think you should try talking to her even though it might not work and if that really doesn't work, talk to someone like a counselor about it or something. maybe talk to your siblings and have them help you talk to your mom...that might work.

Answer 24

because she dosent want you to be a stupid nieve s**t like a lot of girls turn into. you think that thong would be so cute and womanly to wear but since when were you planning to keep it in your pants?

Answer 25

So ur suppose to have ur period in ur pants?  Ur suppose to NOT be able to wear a bra?  U can't shave ur legs?  Wow don't see much harm in those things.  Ummm maybe ur mom is smoking too much of the green.  Tell her to lay off of it for  while.

Answer 26

Do it anyway.  You have legs, go buy the necessities and do it anyway.  What's the worst that could happen, your life already sucks!

Answer 27

She can't tell you that you cannot wear a bra (my sil is 10 and i flip out everytime i see that she isn't wearing one). The next time you have money or you at a store buy yourself a bra and a razor. With the guys you just have to give that time you don't need a lot of male friends at 13.

Answer 28

talk to her and remind her that you are thirteen and ask her if you can do some of the things you have mention tell her that you need a bra even if it is a crop top do u have your period yet ? if u do than talk to her about that.hope  i helped good luck

Answer 29

ok i will write this to your mom and you let her read it.

Mom, I am a mother too. I have  a 15 year old and a 6 year old, both girls. Letting them have some freedom is extremely hard. I literally had to "make" myself learn to let go some. At 13 they need to shave, or the other kids will make fun of them. Wearing a bra is something that most 13 year olds do as well. I am sure you do not want her having floppy b*****s all over school. I know that when it comes to hanging out with friends, that is hard. I do have to say at 13 the only place my daughter could "hang" with friends was at home. I never took her any where and dropped her off, it is just to dangerous.  I realized that when i did back up a little and give her some freedom, she took it and used it wisely. She didn't abuse my feelings on things and she always had made the right decision when it mattered. You really need to back up just a little and let her live a little. It is hard, I know, I am one of the worst to hang on and be paranoid about things before they ever happen. It will help your relationship in the long run. I hope this helps. Good Luck

Answer 30

get a bra from one of your girl friends and see if you can shave your legs at her house..  or in the girls bathroom at school, be careful..

13 year old should be aloud to shave and wear a bra.