My mom just said something so incredibly sick and out of line

Question

My dad just went downstairs in his robe, and my drunk mother just said to him 'Don't let your *** hang out in front of your daughter, what are you doing, fvcking her?'

She says some whacked out stuff when she is drunk, but I am sick to my stomach about this one. I'll never be able to look at her the same again.. She just totally made me lose all respect for her and I don't know what to do. I'm 17 and I want to move out but I have nowhere to go. I'm tired of my alcoholic mother to a point beyond even how much I've hated her for her drinking my entire life. Are there any military bases I can live or something? Where can I check myself into so I don't have to live with this woman anymore?

Answer 1

You could consider calling Child Protective Services. If you've already exhausted discussion with either/both "parents," then this would be the best route. You might be able to arrange to live with a relative or friend's family for your last year of school, and then start working and supporting yourself with whatever assistance your mom and dad can/are willing to provide.

Look into community colleges in the area and get started on your own life now. Your parental figures have, unfortunately, ill-prepared you in terms of support, but you've gotten a good taste of what you don't want out of life.

I'm so sorry you've had to grow up around all of that. Best of luck, and always remember to stand up for yourself and your interests. Don't let an attractive romance take you down this old road (it often happens when it's the only thing you've known).

Answer 2

omg! my drunk mother says the same thing, except not about dad

cause they are split up and lives in another state

my mother when shes drunk, says things like

"why dont you go l**k your boyfriend's s**t mother p***y"

DO YOU KNOW HOW DISGUSTING SHE IS? omg

i hate my mother, i really do sweetie and living with a drunk is not good

i have been through so much h**l cause of her

she has ruined my child hood

also, i am NEVER able to look at her or be around her cause of it

and i live alone with her!

good luck to you and know that you are not ALONE

Answer 3

Try the resources at Alateen:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

They help teens who are having to deal with alcohol abuse in their families.

Answer 4

i feel ya. my grandma was the same way. perverted comments, falling down stairs n screaming at the top of her lungs seemed 2 b her job. one night she even beat me up while i was sleeping. honestly.... i have no advice 4 u. im sorry. im only fifteen n i have made a promise 2 myself not 2 hurt her back 4 everything she has done 2 me...... which includes sitting on my baby sister n suffocating her (we got her 2 the hospital in time 2 save her.) i suggest staying @ a close friends house as often as possible.  

Answer 5

Alright, you need to just calm down. You're mother, first of all, was drunk. When people are drunk, they lose control of what they say and do. This does not excuse her behavior in the slightest, but I am trying to help you understand that she did not mean what she said. If she has a drinking problem you need to have a discussion with your father and your mother about it. Check out Al-Anon for teens with parents who abuse alcohol. Dont make any rash decisions, I have learned that making a decision while angry only makes the situation more painful. Let yourself calm down, and then think logically.

Answer 6

I feel so bad for you. But try moving in with one of your friends. Don't do anything without thinking about it. I know things are tough but think things out. Maybe you should talk to a school consular when school starts. What your mom did that it is so wrong.

Answer 7

Do have a family member you could stay with? A grandmother or aunt maybe, or a friends house... just explain them to the situation and the things your mom are saying are out of line and making you uncomfortable.

Answer 8

being drunk does not excuse her for saying what she did, that was way inappropriate.  You need to join a alateen group and get you a support system going. My stepfather was an alcoholic all the years he was with my mother. Our lives were a living h**l, we walked on eggshells, when he was drinking, and buying booze was the priority for him..What does your father say about this?  How does he continue to live in this situation? Surely he doesn't believe he is doing you a favor by staying married to your mother.  She needs help.  If I were you I would get out of the house as much as possible, find a little job where I could save some money and plan for the day I could leave that life behind.  believe me i never wanted to have my friends come to my house because we never knew how my stepfather would act, and we didn't want to be there very much because it was a warzone.  He did eventually get help, but it affected me in ways I never expected it to, which is why I suggested alateen or adult children of alcoholics, I can't stand a drunk, I would rather hang out with a crack smoker anyday.

Answer 9

I would talk to a teacher or a Principal at your school. Your Mom is Mentally Ill and the alcohol has burned her brain just try to forgive, forget and get on with your life.

Answer 10

Maybe you could talk to your dad about how you feel and he could help you find a place to live. Maybe he could help with some of the bills also. I'm sure it embarrassed him too. Good Luck 2 you.

Answer 11

That is a sad situation  : (

When I was a teen (I'm 42 now) my dad had drink problems but was more like he would become kind of violent (never hit us, though) and my parents would have arguments almost everyday. I hated him back then and I left home when I was 23.

Looking back I can see he had serious issues. He was very insecure and drank to become more self-confident. Anyway, if I can say something to you is that people change as they get older. My dad and I still have some differences but we became closer, after some health problems in the family, which we had to face together.

Wait till 18 to leave home and try find a job for you to be able to take care of yourself. Do not quit school because it is your gateway for a happier and easier future. Be careful with your love relationships: do not get pregnant!

We can always learn something positive from every situation in life. Learn about what not to do in a relationship, what are our strengths, what we can live with and what we cannot, etc, etc.

I hope your mom eventually figure out what is bugging her, for her own sake. As for you, do not give up, do you? You have your whole life in front of you and try not to duel in the past. We can't change it. But things do get better.  : )

Answer 12

here is what you have to do... get a good job and get your own place and start paying all the bills.... lots of money... not any fun!

think twice before you jump off that cliff!!

Answer 13

just  tell  here

Answer 14

Thats how drunk people is i bet you your dad is feeling for sicker then you are. Just lsiten to relazing songs get out away from your house from 4-6 hours do anything fun to forget it by the way your mums drunk anything comes out from drunk peoples mouths so calm. My dad isnt a really heavy drinker but he always seems to get aroused by my little sister who is only 8. so yeah there clearly drunk NOT MEANING IT. they usually loose there mind and forget the whole world and dont think when they talk they just pick up random dirty things thats what alcohol does to people..