My mom keeps saying I'm fat.?

Question

Alright so I know I'm overweight, but I'm not fat. That may sound a little conceited but it's true. I'm not fat. I recently went down a pant size and asked my mom if we could get some new clothes. I know we have the money for it but her response to it was "I don't know why, you're just going to gain it all back in a few weeks". This isn't the first time she's thrown something like that in my face. Like my friend who I haven't seen since school got out saw me a couple of weeks ago and told me I looked thinner. I was telling my mom about this and she was like "That girl was lying". I don't know why she keeps doing things like that. I've tried telling her she does it but she gets mad and starts screaming and yelling at everyone in my house. I've tried talking to my dad, who talks to my mom about it and she still just gets mad. I don't know what I'm supposed to do anymore. I've been dealing with this for almost a year now. What am I supposed to do?

Answer 1

Same hear im over weighting but NOT fat !!..

Just try losing more weight and stick to it after a while she'll get convinced

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Answer 2

Your mom is the one with the problem. Look at yourself. Should you be a 4, or would it look silly or be bad for your health? Find a sensible target weight & safely work toward it. Having reasonable goals & achieving them will make you feel good about yourself. Your mom seems very negative and uncaring. Keep talking to Dad and maybe ask a trusted teacher or a friends mom how to let your mom know she's making you feel bad. Good luck!  

Answer 3

just ignore her and be happy with who you are. if you feel that you need to lose weight then you make that decision, dont let anyone make it for you.

Answer 4

Can you go though your dad for clothes? Or maybe tell your mom, If I get clothes that fit me at this size it will be harder to gain back the weight because I will feel that my clothes are getting tight.

That only solves the clothes problem, as for the rest of it...I don't know, is she under alot of stress? Is she a very conceited person herself (and no you don't sound like you are at all)?

Maybe she is concerned about your weight and this is the only way she knows how to go about it. Maybe this is how she was treated and doesn't know its wrong.  

Answer 5

i know what you mean i am also overweight but dont look fat

i dont agree with what doctors say is overweight

just ignore her

Answer 6

That must be pretty hard for you.

Tell your mom she's supposed to be there to support you

and make you feel good.

And her comments get you down.

But you love her lots.

And want to spend time with her more of a bond etc.

Or next time say

'Yes, what are you going to do about it'

That should probably shut her up lol.

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Answer 7

Constructive criticism, take all your clothes off, stand in front of a full length mirror and judge if your mom is right or wrong. If you decide that she could be right, then do something about it! go on a diet! That way your'll make yourself happy and your mom happy plus your'll live longer! Right?

Answer 8

OK this might hurt but your mom is terrible for saying that to you-- her own daughter! No it doesn't necessarily mean she's a bad person, but it's a terrible thing to say to your child. If she was really concerned about you, she should tell you to lose weight for your health, not just for the way you look. I never understood how parents could say such things to their kids. Then they wonder why their kids end up with eating disorders-- not that it's always the parent's fault but in this case your mom definitely should be to blame. I think she should get some help or something, maybe go on Dr. Phil. There was also an episode about moms who call their kids fat and want them to be perfect-- which usually has to do with the fact that they want you to become something that they couldn't be and wished they were.

Your mom has to realize the emotional pain that she is putting you through and that if she doesn't change she will ruin her relationship with you forever-- she should stop focusing so much on what she considers your 'faults' and concentrate on all your good qualities and talents.

Answer 9

It sounds rather tragic the situation you are in, at the moment.

Your mother sounds unnecessarily abusive towards you.

"Emotional abuse can be difficult to pin down because there may not be physical signs. Emotional abuse happens when yelling and anger go too far or when parents constantly criticize, threaten, or dismiss kids or teens until their self-esteem and feelings of self-worth are damaged. Emotional abuse can hurt and cause damage just as physical abuse does".

It may sound a little extreme in your situation, however, by simply mentioning that her actions are, in a manner, "abusive", this may potentially solve the problem.

Heck, it may actually stem from her own self-consciousness of her own image. She may be in need of support. By simply commenting on how nice she looks, or how well that top goes with her figure etc., she may become less aggressive, and more optimistic, about herself and her daughter (a reflection of herself).

All-in-all, this problem must be resolved, or it will ultimately affect your relationship with your mother, your state-of-mind and how you treat others.

Answer 10

ignore her

Answer 11

my mums just the same although im the same as her!

really makes me angry

i just say 'im not fat'

i think you should just ignore her and try believing in yourself