My mom manipulated me into getting the gift she wants for her bday...?

Question

Well I asked her what she wants for her bday and she described a style of necklace that she wants...then later she circled it in the kohls ad and said she liked that one...and then almost every day she mentioned it. And then she mentioned that her and my dad are going out to dinner today (she mentioned this a few days ago) and that that would be a good time to get her gift. THEN she said that today was the final sale. And now she just left and said "So are you going to do some shopping?"

Don't you think this is manipulative? & aren't gifts supposed to be creative and a surprise??? It pissed me off alot..

Answer 1

I guess you could call this manipulative, but at least you know that she's going to really like the necklace if you give her that as a gift.  And hey, on sale, too!

Her doing this doesn't leave you open to be creative or anything, so  maybe after this year you could tell her that you prefer to surprise her with a birthday gift, that it wasn't much fun for you giving her something she already knew she was getting.  Don't talk to her about this on her birthday though, that would sort of ruin the day, wait a few days.

Answer 2

She took all the fun out that's for sure. I'm with you on this  

Answer 3

Nothing is better than given many hints about a gift one would love. Even though your mom made it way apparant what she wanted, what the heck she is your mom..As for me I like the idea of having more than one option then the gift can be a surprise. I would imagine this is not the first time mom did this to family members..I would love it if my mom gave me such a hint. But she passed away 8 years ago..

Answer 4

Just for a different perspective, I'm 60, my mom is 84. You have no idea how nice it would be to have a suggestion or two for presents.

The usual response is, Oh, I have plenty of things. But believe me if I sent nothing but a card there would be h**l to pay. Of course, sending something doesn't always work either. About half the time I get some sort of remark about how I should have sent something else. On occassion, I even get the present back with a why don't you enjoy it note.  

Answer 5

You did ask her what she wanted and she told you exactly what she wants. Since she isnt considering what you can afford just get her a gift certificate for the amount you can afford for the store that sells it. Let her pay the rest if she wants it so bad. And from now on don't ask people what they want unless you have an unlimited budget.

Answer 6

THANK GOD I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE.

my mom pulls the same exact BULL **** on meee tooo.

yes i do think that is manipulitive .

i hate when moms do that