My mom might be cheating on my dad! PLEASE HELP!?

Question

i recently found out my mom had her tubes tied about 8 months ago. the interesting thing is that she didn't tell my dad about it, and she's been going out "for a bite to eat" a lot more in the last 8 months than she used to. i'm afraid my mom might be having s*x with other men. i can't think of another reason my mom would do this without telling my dad.

Answer 1

tell your father...its the right thing to do...a marrige is never gonna work out if its full of lies...if i were you i would be mad at her so much!!!

Answer 2

doctors will not tie a married woman's tubes without the husbands consent... are you sure that he doesn't know? i think it is a  pretty invasive procedure, and they wouldn't be able to have s*x for a long time after, like weeks... so unless they weren't before i bet this is a misunderstanding...maybe she is just spending more time with friends...

Answer 3

I really can relate to questions like this! Four years ago my dad's largest company went bankrupt and then he started going on a lot more business meetings than usual in states (such as California) where his companies were not based in. A few months ago, newspapers reported that he was cheating on my mom (he is being arrested for a white collar crime and was named one of the worst criminals of the decade, so there have been a lot of articles on him lately). My mom is upset but we just all have this "gut-feeling" he really didn't cheat on my mom and was really at business meetings.

Mmmk, enough about me but bottom line: I CAN RELATE!!

Just pull your mom aside and talk to her. Tell her you won't judge, you just need to know the complete truth. Ask her why she has been going out more often. Talk to your dad about it and tell him your suspicions. Maybe your mom just needs some time away from your dad! When I was younger my mom would go to spas in Arizona for a week with her friends to get away from their husbands.

Suggest a girls weekend to a spa or a cruise getaway!

Seriously though, you need to talk to one of your parents and get the facts straight. It really will be bothering you later on so don't just completely "forget" about it all.

-Catherine

Answer 4

you should ask her!  talking things out never does anybody any harm.  in fact, it usually helps everything A WHOLE LOT.  really, before you "spy" or snoop around for substantial evidence, you should ask her.

Answer 5

Listen, it depends how old you are.. but having parents haveing trouble is okay... they need time... mabey you shouldtalk to your mom orr ur dad... idk who ever u feel comfortable with

Answer 6

Maybe she just needs some time alone. I know my mom does, though usually she'll call me up to see if I want to "get away from the husbands" for a little while. You don't honestly know why your mother had her tubes tied, have you asked her? Just because she goes out to eat, or goes out to the mall, or whatever, doesn't mean she's cheating. I know alot of people who do this, just to have "alone time" with them self.

I'm sure that how ever much you are worrying, if there is actually anything going on, your father is worrying more.

Answer 7

Tubes tied,so what! Maybe she doesn't want anymore kids, how is the relationship between your mom and dad? sometime people do need to spend time away from one another.  Maybe she does go out to eat with friends or co workers, have you ever asked to go along?  don't jump to any conclusions, and don't open up a can of worms.  imagine if it's not what you think, how would this change your relationship with her and not to mention with your dad, her husband.  Talk to her and ask questions, like how does she feel about infidelity and stuff like that.    Be careful what you do cause sometimes we can jump the gun to soon.  good luck.

Answer 8

well-

the only way I can think of to see if she is cheating on your dad is to catch her.

find like some phone calls she made recently, or some photos, or a voice mail/message.

or if you really have to spy on her while she goes "out to eat" one night.

goodluck.

=]

Answer 9

when she "goes out for a bite to eat," ask if you can come. If she's really going out to eat, she'll take you. If not....  Anyway, if she's without a job and has her tubes tied, maybe... maybe she's a prost!tute. Best of luck.

Answer 10

aw im sorry...wel, this might seem a bit rude and nosy, but check her text messages and cell phone and friends list on her cell or something....if she has any accounts on websites or something,try and find out about them, check her comuter's history could work....but i think you should tell her

Answer 11

yep, sounds about right.  of course, she may have had other reasons for having an operation.  maybe she has a medical disease.  you should ask her about it.

Answer 12

you never know that i thought that my dad was on my mom for the longest time but he wasn't and i had to except that. she might have not told you dad because of a very secret thing my advice is that you should talk to her and let her know what you feel and see if she is if she gets mad that you are asking her then she probably is but a week after you ask her ask her again and see if she says the same thing or something else. ask her where she has been going. that is the question and dont be afraid keep asking untill she gives in. talk to your dad about it too. if your mom is the your dad deserves better but if she truly loves him she is going to tell the truth.

Answer 13

While it sounds like it to be the case, let's not jump the gun now and give her the benefit of the doubt.  She might have a part time job or be meeting clients.  Such as business related clients.  If she is and your dad gets upset about it just be there for him and help him cope as he will also help you cope.  Be strong for each other.

Answer 14

you should get them in the same room together and talk to them about it.

don't let them get out of it.

don't be scared or guilty.

these people are supposed to be raising you. they're both supposed to be showing you how each is supposed to act, and how to treat the other gender.

They're also supposed to be teaching you about marriage, loyalty, morals, honestly, dependability, responsibility, ethics, and so on.

Do not let her make you feel guilty for getting them together, but don't let them find out behind the other's back either.

Answer 15

You are very perceptive, apparently you're smarter than your mother. It's to bad, but I'm sure you dad has figured it out too. I'm sorry for you and your dad. My first wife did this to me and our two girls, we divorced a long time ago, best thing I ever did for all of us.