My mom might not let me go to this party!?

Question

my best (guy) friend's birthday is on sunday and it's at his cabin. it's a sleepover and there is a seperate cabin for girls and guys. he is a strong christian (which is supposed to mean something i guess) and PROMISES that i nor any of the other girls will get raped or anything. also my other best (guy) friend will be there and he is also a strong christian but even aside from that is super protective of me. but how can i otherwise convince my mom to let me go? oh.. his parents will be there too.

(we are all 15-16)

Answer 1

This is a communication problems. i think that ur mum might have some bad image about the guy friend u have.

Talk to your mum nicely, try not to throw temper to her.

By the way, although they have 2 separated rooms, who knows he might enter to the girls room. (Oops!)

Answer 2

Talk to your mom first. Don't nag her or ask her all "annoying" like. Just talk to her and tell her about the party and how you really want to go. Tell her every detail (about the girls/ boys situation) and who's going and what's going down. Don't lie to her at all. If your mom is really strict then you might have some trouble convincing her but what you can do is ask your friend's mom to call your mom and talk about it. Make sure she tells your mom what's going on and tell her that there will be parental security there. I'm sure your mom will let you go once she talks to some parents about it. If not, then I'm sorry- there's nothing you can really do. Maybe you can only stay for a few hours but not sleep over?

Answer 3

Mothers Know best!  My friend had a similar situation and sadly was raped by more than 1 guy who she thought were her very close friends.  Mothers know best now the question is do u know best?  Y would he even make a promise of no rape y would he even talk about such thing eh????? doesnt sound like a normal thing one would say imo.  It only makes things sound scarier for those girls that do go cuz its in isolation of a cabin who knows what guys intentions could b if its not ur friend whos to say its no on the minds of another guy.  What ever u decide to do hopefully u dont regret it.

Answer 4

get your parents to talk to the kids parents, once they relieve all their anxieties they will let u go

Answer 5

Sneak out at night but leave a pillow under the sheets so it looks like someone is there, oldest trick in the book.

Answer 6

Not sure how strict your parents are, but I'd say the best bet is to ask your parents to speak to his parents about it - grown ups are usually more relaxed and trusting speaking to other adults. So I'd say that if they can find trust in them that they will keep an eye on you, you may have a chance.  

Answer 7

ask ur mom to talk to his parents.. and they will tell her that there will be supervision and seperate cabins

Answer 8

Usually the best way is to let your mom have a conversation with his parents about the event. Parents don't always trust their kids but they'll usually have an unspoken mystic bond with other parents their age. Getting them on the phone together is one thing, in person is much better. Try to get as much of your (guy) friend out of the picture as you can. The more it seems like his parents are the ones in charge of this party, the better it'll look to your mom.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

tell her his rents are gonna b there if tht dnt wrk u can pretty much give up

Answer 10

He had to actually promise that none of you would get raped? That should be a given. The fact that he brought it up at all is weird and creepy. If his parents are going to be there, then maybe you can convince your mom to talk to them so she can feel more comfortable about the situation. If she feels sketchy about it, then she's probably right and you shouldn't go.

Answer 11

tell ur mom/dad that there will be adults there, so she knows theres some kind've supervision. and tell them that your best friends are there so she knows its not a party full of people you dont know.

Answer 12

Explain that his parents will be supervising the party also.

Answer 13

Honey, your parents are just looking out for you. Maybe an adult can come and check on your group every so often? You're all only 15-16, and you don't know what will happen. You need to talk to your friend.

Answer 14

why don't you let your parents talk to his parents then that way your parents will feel better knowing that his parents will be there to supervise.

Otherwise can't help you, parents are just protective, they aren't trying to ruin your life.....just trying to make your life a long and healthy one.

Answer 15

I see her point of being afraid to let you go. many things happen where girls get raped in those situations. especially the way the world is now. she is just trying to protect you. maybe invite her along to be a chaperone. that might be the only way you get to go? even if it's horrible having your parent there,its better than not going at all.

Answer 16

your mom is smart and him saying noone will get raped is a very strange thing to say! when you have your own kids you will understand and appreciate your mommas decision