My mom needs to know what to say to her?

Question

My question is I'm trying to get my mom to call Sam's grandma, to get her to let us see each other. But my mom doesn't know what to say, neither do I.

Heres my previous question (for background on what I mean).

You can also answer this one!

What can I do for my friend?

She's depressed, the doctor said she was. She has to live with her grand mother (who only wants her for her dad's death money), and her mom does drugs and lives 500 miles away. I'm one of her only friends, BEST friend actually. But we're not allowed to see each other anymore cause of her grandma. We talk on the phone on a daily basis off of the phone, and sneak out and see each other weekly. She has told me she attempted suicide seven times. The think is, she's my best friend also, we have so much fun together and when we're with each other, she said she's truly happy. So how can I help her and cheer her up in out situation? And, also, how can we get her grandma to let us see each other again (the actual reason we cant see each other is because Sam prank called her aunt a few times at my house. I'm going to send that page of my phone bill to Sam so she can show her grandma she only did 5 times)?

Thanks in advance everyone!

P.S. We're both 13!

15 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer.

Additional Details

3 minutes ago

We cant sit down and talk with her grandma, I'm not allowed to see Sam, if she finds out we talk, it will make it all worse!! I usually call her on blocked number.

2 minutes ago

She doesn't want to go to child services, she might go to foster care, and someone we know is in a foster home, and gets beaten.

What should she say?

Also, you can answer my top question, too :)

Thank you!

Answer 1

You should contact the police or social services. But give your friend the heads up first. Explain to the police what you know and then hopefully it will work out. Good Luck!

Lorraine

Answer 2

first of all, to help make sam feel better i think you should talk to her in a very serious way and let her know that you are there for her and are willing to provide any assisstance you possibly can. even if that meant in court if thats what this turned out to be. also, show her she's special by giving her a little present. wrap it up nicely for when you see her and make it something small but special.

second, as for letting her grandma let you see her maybe get your parents involved. this may put more pressure on sam's grandma when adults are involved.

most of all, be there for her as a friend in whatever way is neccessary and appropriate.

you two will eventually be adults and will be amazing friends. i know times are tough right now but keep your head up because i'm sure the future is amazingly bright for you two.

good luck!

Answer 3

oh man thats a horrible situation! she really needs to go to child services if things are really that bad. i understand that she doesnt want to go and that you are worried about the family she will be put with but this is what will be best for her.  You could take her in and adopt her if her grandma doesnt really want her and agrees to let you.  talk to your mom about adopting her and then talk to your friend.  but you should call child services, they vcan help a lot.

Answer 4

Wow what a question this is. well first of all i would say try and get your mom  to call her and tell her she won't let ou do this again. let her try and talk to her really nice as pie and maybe she'll be ok tell her they are best friends and you will not let the girls do this type of thing and if she would prefer. well she could go to protective care and that is ok that is same as foster care in away. i mean it could be there forawhile or do you think your mom could care for her it would be nice for you wouldn't it? well anyhow i would do somethign and it maybe not that shes wanting money sometimes little kids think things are one way and they are not what they seem shes trying i am sure and your mom could bring this up of trying and helping out or something to reasure her. take care and good luck

Answer 5

If i was you this is what i would do:

I would get my mom to go the child services and without saying any names at first i would get her to find out what they would do with a child in your friends situation. I would get her to ask if your friend would be able to live at your house until things got better at home and the grandmother came around :)

Answer 6

Just tell tell your mom to talk to her grandma. Don't even think about what to talk about just talk about normal things, don't discuss you and your friend. Soon the grandmother will realize that you and your mom aren't bad people and she will be happy to let you kids hang out.

-Phil

Answer 7

you can try calling the police, and explaining shes mentally ill, to the point where she has tried to commit suicide. if she is trying to kill herself she is not stable to live with her grandmother, and needs some medical care. it might make things alot better, wheather she likes it or not.  

Answer 8

I don't think there is anything your mom can say to Sam's grandma that will make her change her mind. She needs to talk to the school counselor or a social worker. Someone that can help your friend with her depression. Teen depression is very serious. It's hard to rationalize why you shouldn't do it. You can't see the things that are worth living for because you haven't made it that far in your life yet. You are going to lose your friend permanently if she does kill herself.