My mom passed away and I don't feel her around me?

Question

My mom passed last July 06 and I think about her every day and just miss her so much. Alot of people that have lost loved ones say they feel their presence around or see signs that they are around, or have dreams. I haven't had any of this happen, I don't just sit around and dwell on it every day, I have children to take care of. I just miss her so much, is there anything I can say or do to feel my mom's presence around.

Sorry if this sounds odd to some, I guess it is easier to ask strangers these questions than people you know.

Answer 1

I'd say the feelings of them around you are your own feelings/memories of them. Try to remember all the good times and eventually, the pain subsides, and the memories remain, whether or not you "feel" them around you. I had a couple of experiences the day my father died, that I explain as him watching over me, which may have been true, but i don't let that be my most beloved of memories. sorry about your loss.

Answer 2

i totally agree with 'diane b' and would like to add that mayb u don't sense her presence coz she is generally not around you.. she may be with god now and she is probably happy and may even be an angel blessing pple in need.. and i totally now how you feel and do not think you are odd at all..i am sure she really loves you a lot and is probably watching over you and making sure you and your family are safe... may god bless you..

Answer 3

You should not feel the presence of your loved ones around you if you believe in the Bible, which states that people do not remain on earth after they die in Job 7.

These people who claim to feel the presence of loved ones are really just remembering, and imagining the loved ones around.

You probably just have a better head on your shoulders and think logically about things rather than letting your imagination run away.

Again, going back to the Bible, I hope your mom is in heaven basking in the glory of God, because it would really suck if we die and just hang out on earth for eternity.

Answer 4

You are probably "trying too hard" to "sense" her. My mom passed away a long while ago (before I turned 6)and I feel this way a lot. But it seems that I sense her most is just random. Like when I am not thinking of her and all of a sudden I "feel" her. Sometimes when I am really upset about it it cry so hard for her (and I am a grown woman, mother of 3 but yes, we ALL "need our mommies" now and then) and sometimes when I feel like that and I cry a good cry, this sense of peace all of a sudden, not sure if its cuz she is "soothing" me or I am just cried out? My kids talk about her at the most random times,too. Once my daughter, who was 3 and with who Ive never even SPOKEN of my mother to, came in my room from the living room, where she was sitting alone,and told me "I dont want her to visit" and looking scared and I asked who and she pointed to my moms picture. I was amazed! Another thing: they will come to you in your dreams but they usually will just "be there" they will not speak with you. This is how you know they truly "vistited" you. and whether you can sense it or not, girl, your mom is there with you  believe me:)

Answer 5

you can invite your  mom to communicate with you before you go to bed at night.  just say mom, i am missing you, can you please come for a visit?  i welcome only you mom, my mom.  then go to sleep.  she will visit before long.  keep a notebook and pen beside your bed to keep notes.

Answer 6

You obviously would have pictures around of her? Maybe if there is something you and her shared specifically, you could do this with your kids to relive the memories? Other than that it will never be the same physical presence which you probably feel the need to have. There will always be a void and do not worry if you do not dream of her, you know consciously that you miss and love her forever and always!

Answer 7

People who hang around after death don't move on because they either have unfinished things to keep them here or were not ready to die. Often they feel the need to help family and friends. Most likely she felt that you would all be ok. She was ready to move on and ok with her death. Also some people who lead a bad life, evil persons, are afraid to go no because they are going to h**l.  They would rather stay trapped in between plains than face judgment.  I don't think she falls into that group.

Answer 8

It's important to understand this, your mother even though gone from this earth...she left behind her "presence" she left behind her legacy so to speak...she left her testament, she left you, so others can see her and know her. And the more you look around  in your life don't you see traces of your mother in the way you raise your kids? You'll see its more obvious that it seems....you're mother's presence is around you all the time always on your mind you say....that's more than most can ask....God bless

Answer 9

I am sorry for your loss. It is very sad to loose a parent, and the loss is always with you. Your mother lives on in your thoughts and memories, and not as some sort of floating ghost or spirit. I would find that a depressing thought. Think of how frustrating it would be to see the world and be unable to communicate with it. Far better for you to keep her memory strong among you and the others who loved her, and not to look for "signs". That is just depressing and frustrating.

Answer 10

My guess is that she has come around you but you have dismissed it as coincedence for fear of being thought silly. You are also distracted, you said that you have children, you are probably very busy and don't have so much time to motice such things either. Be on the look out for scents, a sudden whiff of a dish that she cooked, or a quick scent of perfume or powder that she wore all of the time. Also, you may suddenly look up and see her name written on a sign or her initials on a license plate. You are not remembering your dreams well either. Write them down upon waking so that you can start to focus on remembering your dreams. Also, sometimes when a perosn dies they are so busy on the Other Side recuperating or just going back home that they really are not visiting so often. And no your question is perfecty normal.

Answer 11

I am so sorry that you Mom passed, one can tell by your writing that you are really missing her.  By way of your missing her you may possbily be missing signs of her being around.  If you feel more comfortable doing so, talk to her in private.  Also try to remember that to spirits on the other side time is a relative term.  It could be next week or it could be years but when she is ready and is able, she will come to you.

Answer 12

you have already answered your own question. You said your married and have children. Your life is busy and full and your mom is not in the forefront of your mind. Many hauntings are caused by the people themselves. Since you have a busy full life, your not dwelling on what has passed. You sound like a strong independent woman and your mom lives on in your memories, be happy with that. And remember, not everyone who thinks a loved one is is their presence, does not mean its real or even its really their loved one.

Answer 13

I am so sorry for your loss Heather I too lost my mother 2 years ago so I know your pain and no your question is not a silly one.It is true that some people do feel the presence of some loved ones after death.Just because you have not felt her presence does not mean she has left you . I believe you do not feel the strong presence of your mother because she knew that her duaghter and family was going to be fine with out her so she went to the other side to continue her journey Heather your mother is still with you look around you.Look at your beautiful children or in the mirror at yourself at your brothers and sisters (If you have them) your mother is all around you I can tell you this from personal experience that just when you least expect it or when you are in times of turmoil you will feel her presence. she is still there with you heather.Time will heal your pain take comfort in the fact that someday you will see your mother again .I am so sorry for your loss. god bless

Answer 14

Your  mom may not be around you all the time...she may be there at times but you are too busy with other things in your life to notice her. She may also be sending more of her time watching over your kids to make sure they are safe.

Relax...open your mind...and let what happens...happen.

Ask your kids if they have seen or talked to their grandmother since she has passed...you might be amazed at their answers. My son at 3 yrs old talked to a man he who he said was named Opa...which is grandfather in German. We had never used that name around him...and his grandfather had died 3 months before he was born.

Answer 15

Some people are different and don't feel their loved ones around them but if there such things as ghosts than she is definitely with you.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

Answer 16

Not everyone has the same experiences when someone they love dies.  You say you don't feel your Mom's presence, but you do think about her almost every day.  Believe me if you are thinking about her, then she is there in your heart and will never go away.  Keep your memories and thoughts always of you Mom and whether you feel her presence in some physical way or not, she is with you.  God Bless you.

Answer 17

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mother!  I know you miss her very much!

She seems like she was a very loving person and chances are she took care of all unfinished things between the two of you when she was alive!

The way you can keep her in your heart is to raise your children the best you can and love them as much as she loved you.  When you catch yourself saying the same thing to your kids, that she said to you just say "thanks Mom" in your mind.

Re read letters of hers, tell your kids about their Grandmother, look at old pictures.

Blessings!

Answer 18

I hate to sound insensitive, but the reason you do not feel her is because she is gone. Whether she passed on to Heaven, or ceased to exist is not for me to say. Take some comfort in knowing that you are not gullible or delusional, and do not think that after somebody dies, the only thing they have to do is hover around you.

Answer 19

first its not odd that you are thinking about this, its only human nature to miss someone close to you that has gone..we all try and hang on to something because letting go all together is quite painful and we just dont want to keep going on without that special person being with us any more..its quite hard....now what goes on after death no one really knows, we can only go by experiences and even that is hard to understand....ive had a few passed on people come to me after death and some not...one person in particular after he died, he didnt  give up, he kept coming to me, he wasnt rested at all ...he had so much unfinished business here...this is when alot of paranormal stuff started to happen...he was so concerned about me, he warned me before he died, and after he died i didnt listen to him, and bellieve me he was with me the whole time, and saved my life...when everything changed and i was in the clear, safe and sound it stopped, he stopped coming to me....i guess he had found peace, but all the same i wouldnt let go of him....now others have died and nothing happened, when i compared them, i learnt that if someone who has not many worries, and passes away they must be at peace, and theres no reason for them to stay behind...this could be the case with your mum, she is at peace and she has nothing to fear about you...speak to her, and ask her to give you a sign, it may come in any form, you might see her name some where or even her favourite song might come on at the oddest of time...ask and you will recieve, just dont wipe anything away as coincidences, and dont worry about being on the look out for the sign, if its meant for you, it will grab your attention no matter what...dont give up, i bet you will get something from your mum in time, just keep asking her......

Answer 20

I'm sorry for your loss.  I lost my mom in 1984 and still miss her every day.  I felt her close by right after she died, I think because I was so devastated, then it gradually stopped.  I only feel her presence now if I'm very upset about something and I've come to the conclusion that she's busy doing important work on the other side (!) and that I need to recognize that she's there for me whenever I need her, but she's not going to be with me constantly.  Just relax about it and if you need her, just ask for a sign.  Sometimes it will be something as subtle as a puff of wind on your hand...

Answer 21

I'm very sorry for your loss. I agree with "kbt".... you may be looking for the wrong signs. The signs are really subtle. It's her name that pops suddenly into your thoughts at a time when you're not thinking of her (and since you're thinking of her often, it may be hard for you to recognize this one). It's a scent that wafts through an open window that reminds you of her. Okay, this last sentence, I didn't write that, one of my guides did. So I think that may be a hint... have you smelled something on a breeze that reminds you of her recently? Other signs... that sense of being watched, like the hairs on the back of your neck or arms stand on end, but you're alone in the house. It's really subtle. For example, my father comes to me occassionally, but he's not always there. He just visits. And when he comes it's so subtle I think half the time even I still dismiss it. The other day it was that my eye was continuously being drawn to a certain spot in the house and his name would pop into my head (my guides telling me who it is, rather than him coming to me).

"Be still and silent and the signs will show themselves." Right now, you may be looking too hard and just not seeing.

The others are right in that she will always be with you in spirit. If you want to talk to her, talk to her, out loud. She will hear you. And then close your eyes and listen with your heart and you'll hear her replies in your mind. You'll just know.

Peace and love to you and you family.

Answer 22

maybe you had a PEACEFUL understanding at time of your moms passing, where others may dwell in or accusing "MOM LEFT ME,WHAT AM I TO DO" mentality?

Answer 23

I am sorry to hear of your loss.

When people say they feel deceased loved ones around them they are speaking of the strong memory of that person.  Please do not feel as if you are irregular when you don't feel the same thing.  Also, please don't see this as the spirit of your mother refusing to be around you.  Do not see your current experience in any way deficient.  See this as your own personal way of coming to terms with your loss.

There are many people out there--myself included--who have lost loved ones and who choose to mourn in a way that doesn't rely on a supernatural mechanism.  I hold my memories of my deceased friends and relatives in high regard.

I do not remember them as saints or hold up these memories in some revered manner as if they were all holy experiences or anything like that.  I remember them as the human beings they were--good, bad, imperfect, but people close to me and whose presence I miss.

Answer 24

I KNOW how you feel only too well.  We just passed the yr. anniversary of loosing my 14 yr. old granddaughter suddenly in a car accident.  Happened 6 doors away from her home, her sister was driving them to school.  I'll NEVER forget that day & we still are devistated by it.  We DO have one thing for certain & that she was a Christian.  Therefore we KNOW we w/see her again in Heaven.  So we have a reassurance of being w/her again.  Yes, we've "seen" her.  Seen her in the form of beautiful birds coming from no where, butterflies suddenly appearing out of no where, & some nites their 4 cats act    "abnormal" & we know it's her around    us or her family.  At her sister's graduation this yr.  we KNEW she was there w/us.  The ceremony was at the football field.  At one point a blue parakeete flew over us.  Just OUR SECTION of the whole huge group of people.  It then flew only over the girls section of the graduating class.  It then flew back & landed on the sidewalk rite in front of us where someome picked it up & took it to the officals.  Blue was Dawn's choice of colors, & why would a tame parakeete flu OMLY over us & the girls section of the graduating class for her sister to look up & see!  We KNOW it was her telling us she was there w/us.  She was unharmed but also landed rite in front of us! We'll see beautiful butterflies come out of no where  & land in front of us.  We KNOW that's her just showing us she's there  w/us.  Some nites her cats w/ALL act strange in the house.  We KNOW Dawn is telling us she's w/us.  Watch Sylvia Brown on Montel Wiliams show & she'll tell you how to tell when she's close by.  She lives on thru you & your children.  She's ALWAYS close to you.  You just are not use to seeing the signs, but maybe w/start to now that you've heard about them.  I do wish all good things for you, but she's rite there w/you ALWAYS...God bless you...