My mom recently read my texts on my phone... dirty ones, and I'm 15...?

Question

There were alot in the texts, alot in which she found out I'm not a virgin and am acutally quite exspeicened... she Emailed everything to my dad. My question is, how can I fix thngs? She took my phone and everything... And she's taking me to a doctor... honestly, can they tell if I've had s*x? I still tell her no, but she doesn't believe me...

Answer 1

You are 15 and acting like a w***e!!!!! She should spank your *** so hard that it hurts to walk let alone open your legs. You can fix this my stop having s*x and opening your legs.

Answer 2

lol she should;ve spanked you and sent you to time out.

Answer 3

well im 15 too and my bro found my dirty texts and showed my mom too be honest because u dont want any thing to be lifted from under the rug and that can damage the relationship because trust is important dont make them feel as if the cant trust u (karma) and ya it seems like the world is over and my mom seemed sooo disapointed in me too but dont forget parents should always love u no matter what and be there when life gives u lemons and also that being a teen and human means ur gonna make mistakes and do things that later on ull reallize that werent for the best but as long as u learn from it and dont listen to all the negitive ppl commenting soo harshly chances are they did things they werent proud of because bottom line nooooooooooooooooooobody is perfect

Answer 4

Good luck digging yourself out of that hole. Yes, they can tell if you have had s*x. Your hymen will be broken and your vaginal tissue will show the wear and tear. Any STDs are a good sign too.

Answer 5

well too bad for you, its your own fault.

Answer 6

Yes the doctor can tell. But honestly if you are 15 and you say you are experienced ,you need to be taken to the doctor. You should be checked for STD's and put on birth control. You are really young to be sexually active, please be careful and good luck to you.

Answer 7

The doctor can most likely tell if you've had s*x.  As for the text messaging, never leave anything around that you don't want read.  And, yes, I would have taken your phone for awhile also.  Probably your computer too or at least lock you out of some areas.

Taking you to a doctor is more that just to see if you've had s*x.  It is also to make sure that you are still healthy.  So many kids think that nothing can happen to them - they are so wrong.

As for fixing things, it sounds like you and your parents need to sit down and have a long talk.  You have broken a trust issue - big time. And, more than likely, set some ground rules.  Good luck.

Answer 8

They can tell if your cherry has been popped, but it can pop from other things, like sports and stuff.

Answer 9

even if she does send you to a doctor you don't have to have your mom in the room with you.

so while it probably would be a good idea for you to go you don't have to have your mom in there making it all uncomfortable.

so if you still want to have s*x tell your parents that you have been having s*x, and you want to go on the pill.  When you go to the dr.  you might want to get tested for std's and then let your dr. know everything.  your dr. can't tell your mom what you two talk about because of patient dr. confidentiality.  So if you don't want your mom to know anything but you want to get checked out just go.

Next time delete the texts...you don't have to keep them.  obviously they figured something was up otherwise she wouldn't have gone through your phone.

Answer 10

maybe she doesn't believe you cause what your telling her are lies. you said it yourself "acutally quite exspeicened" . what do you mean fix things? to get you out of trouble? you deserve so much more. your lucky you actually have a mom who cares.sorry to be harsh but your really stupid.

Answer 11

Oh I pray you are not my daughter !  I would be horrified.  Especially at your age since you can't spell "experienced" but say you are.

well why should she believe you if you are lying to her.  ??Parents are not as dumb as you think.. you better come clean with her and talk to her about things. I am sure she has a lot of questions for you to make sure you are safe. .  and yes, Doctors can tell.

Answer 12

Yes, they can tell.  You're screwed(no pun intended).

Answer 13

immm  i dunno my parents thought i was a sweet ands innocent chick..they found out i lost my virginity when i got pregnant..jjejejeje..hope i helped

Answer 14

If you know that you had s*x then why are you lying to her? Yes, there are tests the doctors can run that will tell both your parents that you recently had s*x. I mean I hate to break this to you, but i don't think it was such a good idea to be involved in all that junk going on (debauchery). Yes, you messed up but it is possible to fix things. One thing you can most definitely do is stop lying to them (your parents) and tell them that you're sorry. Then, start turning things around in your life by hanging out with new friends that you would be less pressured to have s*x with. (This is one of the only ways that will keep you from getting pregnant as a result of a s*x.) After this start making smarter decisions in life, that don't involve s*x, and maybe take a break from texting for a while (when you get your phone back.) You need to learn to use the technology that you have wisely, such as your cell phone.

      I would consider this God giving you a wakeup call before you get pregnant and have to explain THAT to your parents. Don't fall for the millions of girls out there who are getting pregnant too early and losing the qualities of life they could have experienced had thye been more careful.

       I don't mean to make you mad, because this isn't what you want to hear, but in reality you need to take responsibility for your actions. I also don't mean to make you feel worse, either. Please just take this into consideration so you can have a better and brighter future.

Good luck! =]

Answer 15

Buy a Virgin Moblie phone for $14.87 and lock it whenever your not around it

Answer 16

i would just tell her the truth and say your sorry and it was a mistake and you realize that and youll never do anything like that until marriage and tell her she can totally trust you and that her finding those messages has completelty changed your aspect on life and youve realized that you shouldnt be doing anything you cant tell your mother so from now on your going to tell her everything and not do anything you cant tell her even if you dont mean it she might give you your stuff back and back off

Answer 17

They can tell if your cherry has been popped. but your cherry can pop from doing sports/ being active or simply from just putting in a tampon.

Answer 18

They can tell if you're cherry has been popped, but it is possible to have s*x and still not pop it. Who hasnt had dirty text messages on their phone though? lol. But seriously, tell her the truth. Whats done is done. Just make sure youre using protection and stuff. Things are gonna be akward between you and youre parents for a while though... a really long while... I cant belive she sent them to your dad though... she could have just told him you were sexually active...that was waaay akward. Just be prepared for anger, sadness, dissapointment, and akwardness. Lots and lots of akwardness. Good Luck. Oh, and put locks on your phone...

Answer 19

They can't tell if you have had s*x for sure, unless you have an std, which you very well might.  The only way to fix your relationship with your mom is to tell her the truth.... she probably knows you are lying, and since you keep on lying to her she probably feels very hurt.

Answer 20

Well yeah your kinda in a bad position. I believe your mother did the right thing by taking away your phone and making an appointment becuase she cares. i have alot of respect for your mother becuase she is taking this very seriously... at 15 a child has no business having or thinking about s*x and if you decribe yourself as quite experienced and cant even spell it then there is a HUGE problem. Im not trying to be mean but it sounds like your just scared cause you know you messed up and got caught. the doc can tell if your hymen was broken but most importantly you mom probably wants you tested for STD'S and such. Honestly you have the rest of your life to have s*x and its not all that great when you 15. I didnt even know what a orgasim was until i got with my husband mainly because the lil boys i was sleeping with Ejaculated so quickly were as with my hubby he takes his time becuase we are in a long term commited relationship. So in other words be a child what for adult stuff when your an adult. Remember babies can happen (i had mine at 17) and i never thought it would happen to me

Answer 21

same thing happened with me a year ago

my dad found out everything and he found out i was sending dirty pictures to my bf... it was a mess

anywaysss they thought it was all their fault because they wernt home enough and it was because i had no self confidence.... and i never got in badd trouble... but it was sorta true i only sent them because i needed attention but still u can always try to switch the story around and make them think it was their idea.... good luckkkk

Answer 22

Yes they can tell, you shouldnt be having s*x at a young age anyway...

Plus, why do you even keep texts like that, whats wrong with you!?

Answer 23

yes they can tell if your Hymen is broken.....stop having s*x, you'll end up either pregnant or diseased, is that what you want? to not be able to have kids one day because you have a std which makes you infertile????

no you can not pop it from a tampon, that is myth.....

Answer 24

You might as well fess up to her.  She obviously doesn't believe you because she saw texts saying you weren't.  Why continue the lie and make it worse?  A doctor can tell if your hymen has been broken but that isn't an indicator of virginity anymore.  Your mother could be taking you to the doctor to get your blood work taken so that you could be tested for STD's and pregnancy.  You can't "fix" things.  You can only move on from this point and be truthful about what you have been doing.  Expect to be punished, expect to have them be upset at you, disappointed.  This is what happens in the big people world.  You do something and there are consequences.