My mom shuts me out???

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I'm 16 and my mom and i have a terrible relationship. my mom always shuts me out, and doesn't confront anything.like, if i have an issue about how i feel, she'll just ignore it, and act like it's not a big deal. she's hypocritical about a lot of stuff, and she never seems to want to see my point of view.shes cold and makes me feel kinda worthless. i have a band, and i take it very seriously, b/c music means a lot to me, and whenever i try to talk about it with her, she just acts like im wasting her time, or that i dont pour my heart into what i do. i think i'm starting to hate her, and be cold to others b/c of how she is to me. like, when i date a guy, i'm mean and cold, and sadistic. TALKING TO HER DOES NOT WORK. please give me some advice

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear that. My mom's been like that to me, too, starting when I got to the age of 10 or so. I know it hurts when she's not there, but try to immerse yourself with things you love to do. Go to college and study music. When your band becomes famous, then she'll see what she missed back then! If all else, just try to ignore it and give yourself enough encouragement. I know it's rather tough being your only source of encouragement, but try to get help from friends, too.  

Answer 2

first thing first... ur mom is not perfect no parent is.. they all make mistakes.. i can understand what ur sayin cause i felt the same way u are feeling now..  all i can say is if she is impossible to communicate with.. then  be wise.. dont use her example in ur life and with the people around u that cares for u.. if music is ur passion and u feel u have a future dont give up.. fight against all odds and show ur mother u are capable of  being what u dream of being a proffesional...  i dont think u hate her.. but i think u feel neglected when it comes to love and affection.. she might be going through some changes her self and doesnt realize what she is doing to u.. i know deep inside she loves.. but just has a hard way of showing.. not all parents know how to say i love u and i am sorry.. so be patient with her and move forward with ur dreams... make ur music a reality.. good luck

Answer 3

You need to talk to an aunt or grandparent or someone special to you.  Sometimes people don't know how to connect with children.  It might not ever get better. My mom is 61 and my grandmother is 78 and they never connected, but my mother has me.  You have to connect with others to keep yourself whole as a person.  Find someone you can trust and talk to on a regular basis.  It is not like having your mom but it will ease the pain a little.