My mom thinks I am a w***e?

Question

I was and still am I good girl I started dating at 17 and was in a serious relationship for a few months I told my mom I lost my virginity so we can go to the doctor to get the right protection. Me and him broke and and I started dating someone else who I was never so crazy for I guess I was just rebounding him. We broke up last month and now I am dating someone that I really like a lot. But to my mom I think she thinks I am a w***e even thought I'm not. I came home tonight with a hickey... I know bad move but she knows I was with the guy I am dating now and she knows how much I really like him and my mom actually likes him. But she thinks I'm planning on sleeping with him when that's the last thing from my mind... How do I explain to her I wont do anything like that for a longggg time. Because I know the responsibility on the relationship after.

Answer 1

Tell her that you learn from your mistakes. And that's how you're always going to learn. No one can learn without experience. Be straight forward with her and say that you're not that type of girl and ask her to trust that you won't make the same mistakes again.

Some moms want to trap their daughters in a cage, and not let them live life, and then when they turn 18 and in college, let them out into the wild. But what they don't realize is, not everything comes in as natural instinct. One of them is dating. You've got to learn some time, and some of those times have to be bad experiences, because you WILL have them inthe future and you need to know how to handle them. What better way to learn than to learn while you're young at 17 instead of when you're already moved out? Not every swan will grow up perfect, some of us are ugly ducklings.

Tell her that.

Hope this helped.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Do you know your mother thinks you are a w***e or are you only guessing. You must have a good relationship with her if you could talk about losing your viginity and asking for contraception.  She is just worried about her daughter - why don't you sit down and talk about it.  And well done for getting birth control.

Answer 3

uhm, tell her that your not gunna because you know the responsibility, just like you said in the question?

Answer 4

maybe take it slow like i know ur 17

but shes probably just watching out for you since u were in a serious relationship, then rebounded, and now your dating someone else

just talk to her

tell her your taking this one slow, so noone gets hurt and stuff

and go from there.

Answer 5

This is why teens should not date.

Why would your mom think anything less hon?

You told her you lost your virginity and asked for contraceptives?

I mean that is the same as saying"I plan to s***w around Mom".

That may not be what you said, but that's what she heard then you date all these guys and come in with a hickey on your neck?That just screams the words "easy" and "wh-re" to anyone that sees it hon and since everyone knows your ex took your virginity,they are going to think the same thing.

If you want your mom and others to think diffferently about you, then you are going to have to change your ways.It will take a LONG time before the repuation you have made goes away.

Answer 6

You will never change her mind. Just be good and show her who you really are. You will be 18 before long and legal. So just give her time.

Answer 7

You must understand that when a mother sees her daughter come home with a hickey, she gets worried, only about you, and only because she cares.  I think you need to sit down with her, take her for a coffee and tell her exactly what you've said in this question. Even show it to her if you cant talk. You need to show her that you can be responsible, as actions speak much louder than words. No more hickeys when you come home, and bring the new boyfriend around as much as possible so she learns to trust him also.  

Answer 8

"Because I know the responsibility on the relationship after."

there ya go.

Answer 9

parents always love their kidz no matter what, no matter how spoiled they are

so ur mom also loves u and is probably worried about u

also there is gap of almost 20-30 years between u two so there is bound to be some misunderstanding

what u are doing may be considered as what a w***e does back in her days and where she came from

but its normal now

make her feel that

tell her that nowadays everyone does that kind of fooling around and also make her assure that u dont go to bed with random ppl

and dont mix ur sexual life with ur parents