My mom thinks I am out of control?

Question

my mother posted this question

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I myself do not think I am out of control

I do go out and party with people way older than me, but I never asked for that to happen.

I am 15 and my boyfriend who is 18 supports me alot

and cares alot about me and worries about my depression.

she wants to send me away to europe to a kind of rehab center/boarding school where we get weekends off but must stay indoors through out the week.

is she right to do this?

yes I party alot but I suffer from chronic depression and I can't deal with pressure and being sad.

my boyfriend is a photographer so I travel alot with him

I went to new york with him last year when i was 14 and met alot of people, I have been to paris with him.

why is my mom torturing me by wanting to take me away from him?

I just can't deal with this anymore.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I don't know if out of control is the right word.  You are definitely not where a 15 year old should be.  What happened with school?  Did this so called wonderful man convince you to drop out and let him take care of you?  Your depression most likely comes from how this man makes you feel about yourself and he most likely uses everything your Mother has done to make his opinion appear to be correct.  But sweet heart think about it.  Have you talked to anyone else?  Do you have any other friends?  If not , why?   Does he tell you what you need to do?  Does he discuss all the options available to you at this point in your life, or does he tell you what all he has to offer you NOW.    How does he support you?  He tells you you have made the right choice.  He worries about your depression, because it has caused you to doubt your choices because you worry about if it is right or wrong and he doesn't want you to do anything else.  If he were half a man he would encourage you to finish high school.  to finish growing up and when that time has come you can choose to travel the world with him and be a stronger more productive partner in his life and yours.  

I have not read your mothers question yet so I will do that now .  But as for yours   I don't believe your mom is trying to torture you I believe she is desperately trying to save you from the biggest mistake of your life.  

Answer 3

just because u ahve depression does not give u a right to get drunk at 15. im sixteen and i also have depression.  i try my hardest not to hurt others.   think about what u are doing to ur parents.  they care about u.  and are ur parents actually letting u go out and do this stuff they would never let me do that.  mayb this europe thing wont be so bad.  i mean it europe!  i would die to go there.  stop going out and getting drunk.  stop making it sound like ur mom is trying to ruin ur life.  be grateful that she cares about u.  

no offence was ment in the comments above.  

Answer 4

Hmm..it's weird how you both joined on the same day, and how you found her account?....hmmm

Answer 5

id say shes gonna haft to learn on her own that you are getting older.. shes being a over protective mother. i mean as long as your not nude in these pictures.. thats kool... otherwise.. not a good idea.. and i dont see anything wrong with the age differ.. ur not that much younger.. and hes only 18 not 30.. so id say dont listen hahha prolly not a good thing to say but she sounds like shes making a big deal..

Answer 6

your mother just cares about you i know that it feel like she is trying to control you but she just cares

partying is not a good way to feel better when your depressed

and its not good that you are traveling with a legal adult places when your mom doesnt know

i suggest you and your parents go to a therapist and talk about the situation  

that way the therapist will listen to both views and help you two both understand each other

Answer 7

Since you are underage , what your Mom does you will have to live with. This so called boyfriend is a legal adult and being with you is illegal. You are lucky charges have not been pressed against him. Your Mother is not torturing you, you are out of control if you continue to go against your Mothers wishes.  She is only trying to do what is best for you, and if you can't see that, you have a lot of growing up to do. Forget about this man, you are only a child, if when you are a legal adult and still have feelings, then you can act upon them, in the mean time date someone your own age. I can almost hear you saying "That's not fair", guess what life is not fair, we all have rules to live by, whether we like it or not, and the sooner you realize this the better off you will be  

Answer 8

Your mother is not torturing you.  It sounds as if she has your best interest at heart.  At 14 years old, you don't need to be travelling anywhere with a grown man, and yes your boyfriend is a grown man.  You are 15, you defy your mother's wishes, you "party" with grown people.  Sorry, sweetie, you are out of control.  And if you are depressed, you need to be evaluated by a doctor and properly medicated.

Let's think about something really quickly too.  This boyfriend that cares soooo much about you.  Why would he encourage you, a minor, to do something that your mother said no to?  Why would he, an adult, take a minor across state lines against her mother's wishes?  Ask yourself why is an adult fooling around with a 14 year old, a girl just going through puberty.  Can't he find someone his own age?  

If I were your mom, I'd have been had his behind locked in the county if not six feet under for fooling around with my daughter.

Answer 9

Until you are 18, and no longer live with your Mother, she has total control of you no matter how much you do not like it.  How did you get away with going anywhere with him when you were 14?  Never in a million years would I allow my 14 year old daughter hang out with any guy, let alone a guy three years older than her.  

I know there is much more to this story that you are leaving out, because it does not add up.  Sorry, I cannot help you, and do not tell adults to "shut up" - that is a direct indication that you are indeed out of control.