My mom thinks I need help?

Question

My mother is driving me crazy because she's trying to convince my father that he needs to make me move in with him and force me to do what she wants. I'm 22 and I live with my cousin and I'm trying to write a novel. I worked in a factory for 60-72 hours a week for almost a year and saved up money so I don't have to work now and I can focus on my writing. I don't have a car (but my cousin does) because I don't want to spend money on insurance, gas, etc. My mother is trying to make me go to nursing school (like she did) and she wants me to live closer to her or my father. She knows she can't force me to do anything so she turned to my dad. They're divorced and live far away from each other...and I live far away from both of them. Isn't it my life? Can't I decided what I want to happen? I do not want to be a nurse. I do not want a car. I do not want to live with either parent. Should my mother back off or does it really seem like I'm messing up my life?

Answer 1

You worked all those hours to save up enough money to write your book so you seem to be a very responsible person. Your mother should see this and accept your reasoning for writing. Follow your dreams and no you're not messing up your life. Do what you want.

Answer 2

Some Moms never let the little ones leave the nest. It's your life now. As an adult you will be making your own decisions. But try to have a reasonable talk with your Mom .  

Answer 3

It is UR life and you seem to me to know what you want to do.  The biggest mistake you can make is to go to nursing school to make your mom happy.  It takes a special type of person to become a nurse.  It is not for just anyone.  At 22, you seem to know exactly what you want.  My son is 22 and he is bipolar and he isnt half the way to knowing what he wants.  You go with UR dreams and dont forget to visit mom and dad weekly if at all possible because I am sure they love you very much.

Answer 4

No you are  not messing up your life, but you definitely would be if you allowed other people to dictate how you lived it.  You seem to know what you want to do, and they seem to be very intrusive.  You know what is best for you.  Respect your parents as much as you can without listening to them, and I think you'll be fine:)  Good luck.

Answer 5

You are 22 not 12, you need to stand up for youself and tell her to get off of your back.  If you fail at what you are doing that is your business not anyone elses.  Your life should be YOUR life...

Answer 6

It's natural for parents to act like that, but there is a time when they should realize that you are grown and can make your own decisions. If its your dream to write a novel, and you feel it is somthing you have to do then don't let anyone including your parents stop you.

Answer 7

well, I'm not saying you have to go be a nurse, but at age 22 you should have your OWN place and yes, a job. You can still write and no one says you have to get a car, but it beats bumming rides off people. It does kinda seem like you're messing your life up a bit, sorry.  

Answer 8

your 22 you can do what you want

Answer 9

I wish you success with your writing. Absolutely follow your dream. This is the best time for it before you get married and have children. As far as having a car, it's better for your health and better for the environment to ride a bike. Cheaper too. Dear, you just live your own life. You have worked hard to get to the point where you can concentrate on your writing. Enjoy this time and I hope you are wildly successful. Your parents love you and worry about you, but you are an adult and can make your own decisions. If your writing does not work out, you have the rest of your life to find another vocation. Good luck to you!!  

Answer 10

noo your a grown women

you should be able to do whatever the heck you

want. if its a mistake, you'll learn from it.

and maybe get something out of it.