My mom told me to stop hanging out with my guy friends because I am going to get pregnant?!??!?!? ?

Question

Now I'm crying. I don't know what to do. All I can think is I can't believe she said that, it's like she doesn't know me at all. I told her how I felt and she got all mean and was like well maybe i shouldn't have said that, she said it in a s****. sarcastic voice I could just tell she was just saying that to make me stop crying, but actually the tone of her voice made my cry more. I just wish that she could live my life for a day, see what I've been through, the peer pressure, the perverted guys. All the times I said no. I just don't know what to do anymore. What would you do in my situation.

Answer 1

wow. well just because you hang out with aa bunch of guys doesn't mean you'll get pregnant, but your mom  might have some reason for thinking it doesn't she? lots of teenagers go through peer pressure and deal with perverted guys. including your mom at one point in her life, unless she grew up in some strict goody 2 shoes society. you should try and tell your mom what she said hurt you and if she doesn't listen then leave it alone. if your mom wont listen to you then freaking about her comment wont make it any better. and if you do decide to have s*x (or are doing it, or have) make sure that you and that person are in love. s*x is more than just pleasure and should be meant for someone who you genuinely love and who loves you back. and who treats you right. because i have friends who thought they were in love with these guys who treated them like c**p, or used them for their body and they ended up screwed over in the end when he got tired of them. and ALWAYS use protection, actually if your mom is so worried maybe you can suggest birth control just in case.

Answer 2

man you other has issues. but you need to make her think she can trust you.

ask her to tell you everything so you know how to keep from getting pregnant from them.

then ask her to meet you guy friends. in the interview you your mother and the guys. tell the guys what your mother said and ask them to be honest and tell her why they won't. or before then have you mother question the guys.

if this doesn't work then tell you mother she has issues and needs help. tell her if it ever crossed that line you would use birth control , condoms and spermicide to make sure you would become pregnant even thought you seriously doubt it will ever get that far.

then if that doesn't work you both need to go to therapy together. and you go out with the guys.

Answer 3

Your mother IS a better judge of character than you.She does not want you around those people for a good reason.She sees them as they really are and where they are headed hon.You said yourself the peer pressure is great.Stay in it long enough and you might crack.

Answer 4

i went thru the same thing when i was underage it was because my mom had 3 kids by the age of 19. she is just trying to look out for you and prob doesnt want you to make mistakes like she did. try to explain again that you are mature enough to hang out with boys and know that you dont want a child right now and you dont want s*x. you just want friends. if she doesnt like that idea dont go behind her back she will just think you are having s*x and it will make it much worse. ask her if they were at tha house with you while your mom was home if that would make her feel better about the situation. tell her you dont want to lose your friends and make sure you are mature about this and dont cry or whine. but respect what your mom says and try to find a middle where you both get what you want. you got to give respect and trust to recieve it back

Answer 5

she is trying to keep you un pregnant..............she cares...............I don't know if you have given her cause to worry or not

Answer 6

well explain 2 ur ma that ur not every other girl.. that just b/c ur a girl dont mean ur going to be a w***e.. and that if u do have s*x than at least you know that u need to do it with protection... just because ur hanging out with guys dont mean ur having s*x with them..thats wat you need to tell her.. girls get pregnant all the time.. but in the cases ive seen including my own they were being stupid and not using protection because they didnt think it could happen to them.. be safe.. and tell your parents just because you hang out with guys doesnt mean your sleeping with them and that they need to trust you because if they dont now they never will... parents gotta let go sometime... all kids have to grow up and make their own mistakes... and learn from them all on their own...

Answer 7

I am so sick of parents not truly remembering how it felt to be a teenager, they say they do but they don't. Sit down with your mum like a adult and explain how you feel and explain that although you respect that she has her opinion you are going to live your life the way you see fit and that if she has raised you the way she wanted to then she need not have any concerns, yes you may find urself in situations that may not be ideal but that you have to learn from your own mistakes and situations

Answer 8

Your Mom has lived your life.  She was a teenager once too you know.  She had to deal with all the same issues.

Is she wrong to think that you might get pregnant if you hang out wiht guys... no.  How can you ease her mind and still hang out with your guy friends?  Get on birth control.

Answer 9

shes annying sounding just tell her your not pregnate and arent going to  

Answer 10

explain how you feel to your mom, and what exactly goes on in your life everyday and what you have to go through. then maybe she will understand,. that's what i would do  

Answer 11

thats wrong. it makes things interesting to let people do things and see what they do in the end.