My mom wants to adopt...?!?

Question

Me and my older sister have ALWAYS wanted a baby in the family and my mom said she wants to get one but she doesnt want to adopt right away she wants to Foster-care a child..

What if we all get atatched and dont want to give her back..

I mean i have a daughter of my own and what if she becomes her best-friend ? then we have to rip them apart?

I really am not to sure of this ..

Answer 1

My aunt was a foster mom.... She had a little boy and he was 3. She wanted to adopt him and they thought they did everything right. The mom of him also got pregnant again and gave the baby to her. Well the 3 year olds father came back and turns out had not wanted his son to go up for adoption and took him back. Well she still has the little girl but still gets to see him. Its a hard thing to do but it can become a wonderful thing. Good luck in this and hope you all get a Wonderful new addition to your family!

Answer 2

You’ll need to accept that this is what Foster Care is about. You could have a child for a short time only a weekend, several weeks, a few months and probably in some rare cases a year or more.  If you want to adopt from the foster care system then your mother should sign up for Fos to adopt program, where she would only be placed with children who would likely be available for adoption.  Foster Care is meant to give a child some stability and home even if only temporary. It can be hard to say goodbye however often times there will always be another child that will come into your home and need love, support and stability as long as they are with you whether it’s a short time or long time.

Friends come and go, that is a reality of life. However in some cases if a foster child has been with a family a long time sometimes they will keep in touch even if the child is eventually adopted from another family, or is moved to a different foster home.

Answer 3

i think that anytime that you involve yourself with the foster care program you always have to keep an open mind and understand that reunification is the first matter . but the chance that the child will have to leave is always a possibility.

GOOD LUCK IN THIS MATTER

Answer 4

can't you adopt the foster kid? as your own?

Answer 5

Fostering is providing care for a child while their family is unable to do so for whatever reason.  If you go into fostering with the expectation that you are going to keep whatever child you get, you'll have your heart broken in more ways than one.  Fostering is not a back door to adoption.

Answer 6

I know someone who’s family has adopted 3 foster kids. It should be fine. But if what you fear does happen I am sure you can keeping touch with them.