My mom wants to tell my dad I'm sexually active?

Question

I just got diagnosed with chlamydia. My mom now knows I've had s*x. (I'm 16). My parents are both very strict, and my dad is especially religious. I really don't want her to tell him! She said she doesn't know if she will, how can I convince her not to. I know he has a right to know but it really would change my family forever.

Answer 1

wow

thats tuff kido

i think she should tell him

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Answer 2

Not to be rude but you should have thought about this before hand.You contracted and std and now your family is going to find out!! No offense but the teens now days are trying to grow up so fast and it just gets them into trouble!! You are lucky you haven't contracted aids or gotten pregnant.

Answer 3

honesty is the best policy. don't tell a lie

Answer 4

tell her that u don't feel comfortable

knowing ur dad knows ur like this

tell her u need some time

act like u'll tell him later on

maybe she'll forget

Answer 5

It's your health and your body, so you should be the one to tell him.

However, you are under age, and your parents have joint responsibility for your well-being; in order to take care of you properly, they both need to be informed of major issues affecting you.  So he does have a right to know.

Sooner or later he is going to find out that your life does not conform to his religious ideals.  And sooner or later he is going to have to accept that.  You might as well face this struggle now, instead of adding concealment to it as well.

Answer 6

Should have thought about that BEFORE unzipping your pants. Use your brain next time, sweetheart.

Answer 7

Yes your dad has the right to know. Just be brave and face it. He will appreciate you telling the truth. Since you took the initiative to have s*x in the first place, that too without telling your parents, you should be prepared to face the consequences. I understand that telling the truth would change your family forever, but wouldn't the fact that you had s*x, and thus didn't maintain your family's principles, also change a lot of things??  

Answer 8

You shouldn't have had s*x in the first place,maybe you wouldn't be in this predicament.There isn't much you can do,hopefully she wont.Good luck with that one...

Answer 9

Perhaps you should have thought of the consequences before you had s*x.  My parents always told me to live by the rule "If you are doing something you don't want your parents to know, then you probably shouldn't be doing it".

Answer 10

I am so sorry to hear you are in a rigid household. I see this did not stop you from having s*x. I knew it. I do not believe it is their right to know about your sexual life, but I think it is nice if you could have gotten tips beforehand. I would seriously appeal to her as a female. Tell her whatever you think she might like to hear. Please gal. s*x is a big responsibility and with such you need to tell your partner to use a condom.

I hope all goes well.

  

Answer 11

first ur dad should know..ur under age second ur right if i was ur dad i would be disappointed in u .. but that's how i feel..am glad my  girls waited until 18 and told me about it.. every dad is different

Answer 12

oh **** loretta, I am sorry to hear that. I know you are worried, but they are your mum and dad, they will love you until the end. Your mum will be angry and disappointed in you but will also have a certain amount of empathy towards your position. People make mistakes, and it's just one of those things. Make sure they know/or think that you really did not want to upset them. Also, that you were in love with the guy? And in future use Mr. Durex

Answer 13

so young and so dumb.

little girlie,

this is the consequence of you having s*x to early. you decided to have s*x so you now have to take responsibility.

Answer 14

if she does tell them both to **** off

Answer 15

No you THINK its going to change everything but nothing is going to get in the way of your father loving u .

He is going to be pee'd off, no doubt, but u did bring it on yourself.

I hope this teaches u a lesson. If u dnt change your ways, losing your dad will be the least of your worries.

STDs are serious. You may not be able to have children, or worse loose your life for 2mins of pleasure.

Consider yourself lucky!

Answer 16

He doesn't have the right to know. Tell her how this would make you feel, and how you don't want your relationship with your Dad to change.  

Answer 17

you made your bed...now you must lie in it...good luck.  

Answer 18

16 and chlamydia, what a life!  if i were your mother you would have a choice, you either tell him by the end of the day or i will.  i would rather it come from me.  not a proud moment, but think of how your mom would tell him.  you've had s*x, so now it's time to grow up!!! oh and btw?  use a friggin condom next time they are free at the clinic.  again, oh btw your mom doesn't want to tell your dad you are sexually active, she wants to tell him that you have an std.

Answer 19

Yes your father does technically have a right to know. However you have a right to privacy. Since you're underage your guardians are free to discuss those kinds of issues.

Express your concerns about your father knowing, or ask if you can be the one to tell him. Good luck.

Answer 20

This must be hard for your mother. Keeping a secret from her partner is not the best thing. I know I would not like being kept in the dark. However, if you prove to your mom you are responsible, she might feel you are worthy of her trusting you to be wisER about s*x so young.