My mom won't let me have a cell phone?

Question

So, I'm thirteen, and in eighth grade. And I'm OFFICIALLY the only person in all of 6th 7th and 8th grade who doesn't have a cell phone. It's true, I took a poll. So I told my mom this, and she said, "I don't care that everyone else does. If they all took ecstasy, would you do it?" and I said, "It's different than ecstasy!" and she goes with, "I have my rules and I'm going to stick with them no matter what anybody says." I've tried finding situations where if I had a cell phone the outcome would've been better (e.g. if I was at a party and it was time for everyone to leave and she came an hour late, which actually happened once). She still won't let me. Also, there have been times where I'm with my friends and I have to call her to tell her where I am but my friends forgot their cell phones and I have to walk home instead of stay with my friends. I am pretty sure this shows my maturity (because I could have stayed with my friends and never have called her to tell her where I was) Help?

Answer 1

Have you ever tried asking her why she won't let you have a cell phone? Maybe, because of bad experiences (I'm not trying to offend you) she doesn't think you could take care of one.  Parents usually don't listen to the "everyone else has one" statement so that one is out of the question. My parents gave me one, because it was only used for emergencies. Try using that. "Mom, what would happen if someone attacked me when I was walking home alone and i neede to call 9-1-1 but didn't have a cell phone?" She might take this into consideration. You may just have to convince her that it will be used for emergencies, which is part of why everyone else has one.

Stop thinking about what everyone else has, because this will only get you angrier with what you don't have, which results in being spoiled. Just be mature, and don't yell when she makes her decision. Say things like "I understand where you are coming from, but I would really appreciate if you could look at this from my perspective as well." Many parents don't know what we have to put up with at school. A lot of them are clueless. Just try to be understanding and also look at this from her perspective, as well. There are two sides to everything. Good luck! :)

Answer 2

I know that times are a little different from when i was thirteen (only 11 years ago mind you) I never was allowed to go to parties or out at all. my parents wouldn't even let me pay for my own phone till i was 17 and just got my own car. it could be a lot worse. trust me, you will have bigger problems than mommy not letting you have a cell phone! I am sure you are mature and that is awesome because i have seen a decline in maturity in the younger generation, but as it be, you are under her roof, her rules. sorry! Good Luck!

Answer 3

u culd try to buy 1 urself. u might not b able to get like a contract 1, but like mayb a prepaid fone? or tel ur mom ull pay for it if u get a contract 1.

or tell her all gud things about getting a fone, dat if she evr needs to contact u she can, or the othr way around like if ur evr in trouble

Answer 4

We'll oviously she wont get you one for her reasons,

but When I got mine I asked for it for my birthday and then I pay for it myself.

maybe do that.

You will find you do actaully need it,

especily when you start goibng into highschool,

even though you still have a year.

Answer 5

First of all, as a parent of a teen boy myself...WAH. HOLD ON...KEEP READING...

Secondly, go get a JOB to PAY for the phone. I know you are only 13 and can't get a job yet....but maybe that's the point? No job, no phone. No responsibility, no phone...get it? Do work (on a regular basis) for neighbors (mow lawns, rake leaves whatever they need) show your parents that you can handle some responsibility and that you HAVE $$ to (help) pay for the phone and the bill. Maybe after a while mom will re-consider. GOOD LUCK and it's not the end of the world!

Answer 6

don't even bother with it anymore. your mom is obviously very stubborn, like my mom, and it's mostly impossible to get anything that is useful and necessary. she'll probably come around in a year or so. i got a cell phone for my fourteenth birthday, and that was after five years of casually bringing it up in conversation. in my fourteen years of life, i have learned that adults are senseless, narrow-minded people. it's just one more obstacle that we have to make our way around. good luck.

Answer 7

OK since you can't buy it yourself that's real hard! I would tell her that you will pay for it and you will get a prepaid so she never has to worry about you not having money for the bill. I got one when i was 10 because my grandma didn't want to cancel a contract and spend 250$ on a phone that wouldn't ever be usable again. Just ask her if you can get a prepaid. At i think us cellular you can get like 600 minutes free nights and weekends and free unlimited texting for about 40 bucks a month. And that's pretty cheap ask her if you can get that and tell her that if you cant pay it then you will let her shut the phone off. And honestly when you get a phone especially one you or someone other than your parents pay for it changes you alot! Because you think they can't take it away they don't pay the bill but ya they can it sucks TRUST ME I KNOW!!!

Answer 8

tell her to get you the fierfly phone things.  They are only for emergencies and you can only call like certain numbers, or call people with that phone, i think.

Answer 9

I'd save up your own money and offer to pay for it. Also show her how reasonable and responsible you are. Wash the dishes, clean your bedroom, do your own laundry... things like that will convince her quicker than you begging her. Best of luck.

Answer 10

Other than just showing her how responsible you are and trying to give her good reasons of why you need one, there's not much else you can do. She's your mom, and since you're only 13, she'll be the one buying the phone and paying the bill. Unless she gives in, you're just gonna have to wait a few more years til you can get a job and pay for one yourself. I had one when I was 12, but that's because I walked home alone afterschool and my parents wanted to be able to be in contact with me. It was a prepaid phone, so they never bought me enough minutes to actually sit on it and chat away with my friends.

Answer 11

chill i know a girl who is 16 and her parents dont allow her to go to parties she never had a bf n of course not a cell actually i know 2 i had mine for a first time when i was 11 but u should save up and buy it by urself

Answer 12

quit being a little brat, i was in those situations, i didnt have a phone in middle school, neither in the 9 10 grades, cause u know what, i had to work, as in get a job, to pay for the things i want, i suppose u do the same, find a job that requires ur age

Answer 13

Tell her everyone needs phones now a days.

Answer 14

Maybe your mom just can't afford it and she just doesn't want to tell you.

It could also be that your attitude may change once you have a cell phone. You honestly shouldn't care about being the only one without a cell phone. I was the last one of my friends to have a cell phone and the one reason why i got it was because i would get out of work late and i paid for it myself.

Answer 15

I'm also in the 8th grade, and like you, I don't have a phone! I do want one, but I guess it's all up to our moms..

Answer 16

Tell her you will babysit or something and pay for the phone and half of the bill. Just show her you're mature enough to handle it. No parent wants to give their child something when they whine and complain.