My mom won't let me spend my money the way I want to?

Question

So, I want to buy this outfit with my own money. Plus, I need the accessories. I know it'll be costly but it's my OWN money. My mom won't let me! Once I wanted to buy something online, and when I got it, it was really cheap material. Now she keeps reminding me of that! By the way, I'm not going to buy it online. Anyways, it's annoying because when I bring it up, she says "Remember what happened last time" and she starts a lecture and gets mad! What can I do???

P.S I am 13 years old and I don't have a "Get Dad to buy it" option, if you know what I mean. And I get my own money from allowance / chores. Part of the outfit I want to buy includes shoes, mary janes, to be specific, and my mom says "you won't be able to wear it anywhere!"

P.S.S. I want to wear sweet lolita, a style originated in Japan. It's not something you wear everyday (in America) and my mom won't let me wear it anywhere except on halloween! Anyways, I need to buy clothes for it, because what I have at home is not enough. But she says "use what you have!" but I don't have anything! Help me!!!! Sorry it's so long :P

Answer 1

Save your money trust me you will find something you like more if  your mom could see how much you REALLY wanted it she would probably let you. But save your money and you will be more happy with the outcome

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Answer 2

Aren't we parents awful and don't we fail to understand our kids so badly? We forget as we get older how we were when we were your age and fail to appreciate that fashions change. Your mom is probably just trying to do what she thinks is best for you. Are there other things you are wanting or planning in the near future? Have you tried sitting down calmly with your mom and explain how strongly you feel? Communication between you may help each of you understand and appreciate the position of the other. You may need to compromise. That tends to be a sign of maturity and may have a positive effect on your mom. What about suggesting that a compromise may be to let you buy the outfit if you still want it in a month's time?

I hope that helps. Good luck

Answer 3

Sounds like your mom is trying to teach you the value of a dollar and what's important. Sometimes wants are just that wants. Try to compromise with her and come to an agreement on maybe 1 or 2 things instead of all of it.

Answer 4

you need to tell her it's YOUR money and you should be allowed to buy what you need or want

Answer 5

Back off for a while. Then, bring it up again, explaining that this is not like that one mistake you made (going into detail about why it's different), and explaining exactly where you'd wear it.

If you do this in a mature way, ending by saying you'd like her to think it over, you MIGHT persuade her.

But she's the parent, and you're the child. You have to accept her rules until you're old enough to live on your own.

Answer 6

I had this issue. I made over $1500 one summer working as a secretary when I was 16. And then whenever I went out somewhere and wanted to take money out of my bank account, my mother wouldn't let me. I barely got to take maybe 50 dollars out of my bank account for two years until I turned 18.

And once I was old enough to drive and make my own decisions with my money, I was so thankful my mother didn't let me touch my money. You're going to need that money one day, believe me, you will. Whether it's to buy a car, or pay for gas (which we all need, nowadays) or even just to buy some materials for school...you're going to need that money. So don't make such a big deal out of this. The sweet lolita style outfit you want isn't going to matter at all to you in a year, trust me. Going through teenage years, you change your style every year, and last year's style looks so old to you.

Answer 7

Hon if it is clothing that is revealing, then your mom is right.You do not need to look like a cheap hoochie or a weirdo.

Answer 8

Awe that's a rough one.  As a mom I just want my baby girl to look like my baby.  Sucks I know.  We fight over what she wears and wants to buy at 6.  I don't know the relationship you have with your mom.  But maybe ask her to go shopping with you.  Maybe you two can compromise and have a good time doing it.  And your sweet lolita gear is cute.  check eBay for maybe some more mainstream age appropriate sweet lolita, Japanese clothes.

Answer 9

no offence but if you are a teenager,she knows that you will spend it all and she is just afraid you will waste it.

Answer 10

either sneak out or tell her you are hanging with a friends then go buy what you need. take a backpack if you spend the night then if she makes you take the stuff back when she finds out just thow away the reciept then tell her she has no right to touch your stuff!