My mom wont let me go to college what should I do?

Question

she said I cant go an d im 17

Answer 1

Where's the rest of the story?  She has her reasons for not letting you go.  I'm guessing there's probably no money for college and she isn't able to take on the debt for loans to put you through school.  If this is the case, it isn't that she won't "let" you go to college - she can't afford it.  It will be up to you to get loans, jobs, work study, whatever.

Or is she not letting you go because your behavior these last couple of years in high school has proven to her that you can't be trusted with responsibility yet?  For you to go away to college, you have to have enough maturity and self-discipline to go to class, to get your work done, to manage your time, to NOT party when you should be studying, to NOT get pregnant/get your gf pregnant by being stupid, etc.  If you don't have that level of maturity and self-discipline and self-control, there's no reason in the world for her to pay your way while you party.  

Occasionally, there really are still parents who won't allow their child to go to college, won't pay for it, won't transport them to or from campus, won't let them take any of their belongings if they leave to go to school anyway.  You get the idea.  And with this example, I truly do mean those parents who have no logical, rational reason for denying their kids an education.  These are the parents who refuse just because they can.  You aren't going to win with these parents no matter how mature and responsible you are, or how many scholarships you won.

At 17, you are still legally the responsibility of your parents, and they really can refuse to let you leave for college until you turn 18.  HOWEVER, you can have yourself emancipated from them.  It is a legal process, but at the end you would be declared an independent adult.  They no longer can claim you as a tax deduction, and they no longer have to provide food, shelter, clothing, medical care, transportation, etc.  So if you go this route, you need to be ready to move out.  That means job, apartment, car, etc.

Once you're emancipated (or once you turn 18), you can apply to college and go to college without their permission.  There are students who work close to full-time, go to school full-time, get student loans and grants and scholarships, and manage somehow to get themselves through a degree. It isn't easy.  Only you can decide whether the work and expense involved are worthwhile.

If you want to add details to you question to explain why your mom says you can't go, maybe we can give you a better answer.  But without know the details, all we can say is - yeah, you're 17, your mom still has the right to say no.  

Answer 2

hmmmm...that's strange.

i have never in my life heard of someones mom not wanting them to go to collage. its usually the other way around. but  i think that you should try to talk her into it, and if that doesn't work i think that maybe you should try raising the money yourself. i know it sounds hard getting that much money but didn't your mom ever make you a collage fund of some sort, or you could try those student loans. i think you should get to go to collage.

good luck.

Answer 3

Something doesn't sound right here...no mother on earth would NOT want her child to go to college; what aren't you telling us?

Answer 4

You're old enough to decide your own future. Get a job and hopefully get scholarships for them so you can pay for them. Either that or convince her to let you go. It's your life, not hers.

Answer 5

Leave. Find whatever sort of job you need to find in order to be financially independent, then move far away from that woman... and go to college! Get your degree and show her what you are capable of. You don't need anyone holding you back.

Answer 6

U must have been a bad girl.lol

Answer 7

If U are grown enough to go to college, U are grown enough 2 move out, start ur own life, and make ur own choices. Don't let ur mom stop U. Why would she not want U 2 get a bigger education? Go 2 college. Its something U want 2 oo and its a good thing so don't let ur mom stop U.

Answer 8

Talk to your mom and ask for her reasons.  Listen politely without protesting, and then carefully think out your rebuttal before talking to her again the next day.  

Come up with a list of good reasons why you should go to college - not just why you want to, but why it is a smart choice for your life.

Also, ask your mom to talk with your school dean or counselor before she makes a final decision on the matter.  They may be able to address some of her concerns better than you can.

Remember, once you're 18, you can do whatever you want.  She can't stop you from going to college.  You can apply for your own scholarships and financial aid.  It is a lot easier to attend with parental support, but you can do it on your own if you're dedicated.

Answer 9

hey your almost a legal adult

hang in there!!!!!!