My mom wont let me have a phone - why?

Question

Ok, so if your a mom out there and you have a teenage daughter....would you let her have a phone?

My mom says 'i don't need one' but all my friends have one and its how they communicate. There are kids in my school who are HALF my age, and they have one. Im almost 14....and for my birthday, I wanted a motorola u9 - the price is fine but I dont think my mom trusts me. I asked her and she said its not all about trust - what else could it be??

Thanks to all answerers! x

Answer 1

im a mother and my daughter didnt get a cell phone til she was 16..

i waited til then cause at that age they show more responsibility and maturity..

maybe when you get a couple more years older your mother will reconsider...

in the meantime dont try to keep up with the jones'...just because your friends have something doesnt mean that you should...

Answer 2

I have a sixteen year old and she has only just had a phone for a year. She had one stolen before and then you have to top it up which may be putting your mom off as teenagers have been known to talk a lot! Have a chat with your mom and ask her to explain to you the reasoning behind her decision and any thing you can do to make her feel better.

Answer 3

You mum is a saint.  We have too many teens running around talking on their phone.  Now they'll be one less person chatting away in class.  One thing I hate is sitting next to someone while they are chatting away.

Answer 4

ah, i had the same problem

i wasn't allowed a moblie phone until i was 13

and tbh i didnt reli use it much

however now i am 15 and i find it v useful

just use the argument "fine then its your fault if im lying in a ditch and i cant call anyone to help"

hope this helps!

Answer 5

mostly it's because teens have a loooooong history of irresponsible cell phone usage, why don't you pay for your own phone and plan. if you need one that bed get a job and buy a pay as you go phone

Answer 6

Your parents have a phone in the house?Use it.You do NOT need a phone and neither do your friends.How many of them have sent nudy pictures to their b/f and g/f?

Or made secret dates and done things they should not have been doing?

Your mom knows you have raging hormones and she isn't stupid.She remebers when she was your age and the only things that have changed since then is technology and society losing it's moral compass.Human nature has NOT changed hon.

Answer 7

The only to know is to ask her in a calm and don't shout.

If se is worried about contract and you running up a high bill then tell you would get a pay as you go and you will pay for it to be topped up not her.

Answer 8

hello, it wont be that your mom don't trust you, it will be because your mom don't trust other people, its because she cares for you.....not many moms even think about it!! i know it seems bad now but when you get older you will see you moms point.. try have a happy birthday.

Answer 9

I am 35 and by the sound of your email tone, you must be a teenager, no offense.  Until you become a mother, you will never understand how frightening it is to know your daughter is "exposed" to the outside cruel world.  Your mother loves you and wants you to "not get involved" with the wrong crowd.  Though they may seem like the "in" crowd, so what if they have phones, let them have them.  Some of them may be responsible with them, but others may not be.  My daughter was raped, and though counseling and a number of other treatments have been done, I don't sleep.  I worry someone is out there waiting to hurt her again.  She's beautiful, big blue eyes and long brown hair. Please be patient with your mom, she sounds wonderful. And after you read this, go hug her, if she's there and tell her you will try to be patient and wait until she decides you need a phone. Good luck and God Bless

Answer 10

Tell her that if she gets u a phone, then that means she can know where you are more easily and that it will make it easier 4 her...

Answer 11

well i were to be a mom then i would let my kid have a phone because there are good things that you need it for like for emergencies for example. but maybe she doesn't want you to have a phone is because she would think that you would just be on the phone the whole day and not do any of your school work or something like that. so if she cares about you then i think she should get you a phone. don't worry i didn't get my first phone until i was 14.

next time you talk about that with your mom tell her that you need it for emergencies and see what she says.

I wish you the best and i hope you can figure out a way to convince your mom to get you a purty phone.

Answer 12

Did you ask your Mom what the reason was? My daughter is a little younger than you and she has a cell phone. She only has it with her when we are not around. School backpack, Field trips, Bus ride home, at her friends house.

The world the way it is today we just felt better if she could contact us in an emergency.

Good Luck!

Answer 13

Ok it isn't about trust. Your mom is right. She probably fully understands that you are more than capable of being responsible for a phone, but that isn't the issue. Your mom is right, you don't NEED a cell phone. Just because people half your age have them, and everyone else in your school has a phone - that doesn't mean they NEED them. And the more you annoy your mom about getting a cell phone the longer you will have to wait. Just keep your cool, respect your mom's decesion, and hey, maybe in a couple of months she will change her mind and get you a phone. Just keep in mind that phones aren't cheap - they cost like $60 or $80 a month just to keep going - so until you can afford to pay for that, then you probably don't need one.  

Answer 14

i had the same problem for 2 years, but i finally got a phone on my 14th bday, so mabye you will to.  but dont tell her you want one because all your friends have one, then she will think you just want one cuz everybody else has one.

  tell her why you need it, like if you play a sport and practice ends early you need a phone to call her, or if something happens at school and you need for her to come pick you up you need a phone cuz everybody will be using their phones or the teachers phones.  give her reasons of why you need a phone, even if you make them up.... or not..

Answer 15

she probably doesnt want you to run up the bill...cuz i did when i was younger...just talk tro your mom about a prepaid phone to start you and to show your mom that you can be responsible once she sees this she can get you a reg. phone.

Answer 16

She probably thinks they are frivolous (which in most cases they are).  Maybe she is concerned about you racking up phone bills. If this is the case, she could sign up for a prepaid plan...like Tracfone (sold at Walmart). http://www.walmart.com/tracfone?redirect...

http://tracfone.com/

You could also tell her that many cell phones have GPS tracking capabilities which allow parents to monitor the whereabouts of their children.

Answer 17

It could just be that she doesn't have the extra money right now to pay for another phone bill. It could also be that you need to show her that you are old enough and responsible enough to have a phone of your own.

Sit your mom done, and tell her that there are ways that she can keep track of your phone usage, and what not. There are also ways that she can control your text and minutes.

Good luck!

Answer 18

You are way to young to have a phone, concentrate on school, and not your phone. You can always use your landline when you get home. I will not let my granddaughter have a phone either.

Answer 19

Try to see if she would agree to a repaid phone first that way u can show her that  show how to control you spending limits. I hoe things work out for u.

Answer 20

I'm a mother and would personally allow my daughter to have a phone at your age. I agree that at 14 a mobile phone isn't an absolute necessity but I do think it's important that you're able to communicate with your friends in the same way.

That said, it doesn't sound like your mum is likely to change her mind. I don't think there is any point in keep asking her. Could you not try to save up for a phone yourself (maybe with birthday or pocket money?). Maybe if you look for something a little cheaper then this would be possible (my daughter got a sagem as her first phone - it doesn't have a lot of functions but looks good and didn't cost much at all).

Good luck :)  

Answer 21

Maybe you should reason with her, tell her how much you need it and that your sick of having to borrow your friends cell phones to call her. Or tell her you will pay for it. seriously, you are almost 14? you should have a cell phone, i got mine when i was 11...tell your mom that she can trust you and that if it's about boys she doesn't need to worry about that, she can check who you call or read your txt messages.

Answer 22

Being 14 would make you a freshman in high school, right?  I got my phone the Christmas of my freshman year in high school, so I know how it feels.  Idk if my mom trusted me either, but cell phones r like a part of our culture now, and everyone has one.  Ask ur mom what u could do to prove to her that u r responsible enough to have a phone.  Clean ur bedroom and bathroom, and cut the grass every week, and get involved in an after school activity, and that will prove to ur mom that u r responsible.  Good luck.  

And I know u don't want to hear this, but it might be a good thing that you don't have a cell phone.  They really r addicting lol.  

Answer 23

If money has nothing to do with it, she probably doesn't feel you r responsible enough, or truly feels that you don't need one, if you ever go anywhere without her, like to the mall or anything, remind her that if when you are away if something happens and you need to reach her, you should be able to, try to convince her that She needs you to have one, not that you need one.

Answer 24

It's understandable that she would be worried but tell her that it would be good if your going out with your friends in case of an emergency or something and need to get in contact with them. also point out the fact that its not fair to be always using your friends credit and phone all the time!!! :)

Answer 25

ok! i went through the exact same thing with my dad... give your mum a really good reason for you to have a phone; example:

* i said to my dad that i need it for the bus to call him if there's any trouble.

* tell her you'll pay for some of it (obviously youv'e gotta save up a little/or use some money out of your bank account.

i do hope this helps, but i promise she'll get you one some time in the future.... seriously try what iv'e said (or, use your imagination and see if youv'e got any mint ideas)!

Answer 26

When I was a teenager, there were no such things as mobile phones and we managed just fine.  As someone who also wouldn't let my daughter have a mobile phone, my reasons are these:

There is no need

There are unnecessary phone bills to be paid

People have been attacked for their mobile phones

There is already an epidemic of people walking around, oblivious to the world, texting and talking on mobile phones.

It is very irritating to others to have to contantly hear phones ringing in public places.

It is time that parents said no to their children once in a while in order to stem this consumer led society.

Answer 27

i didn't get a cell phone until i was like 16 and i was fine with that. Your mom knows you best maybe it's just that she thinks you may not be ready for the responsibility. After all your not gonna be paying the bill when you go over, and it does distract you a lot from school (txting in class) If you really want the cell phone come up with a plan that will work best for you and your mom. Like low minutes where you can only call who you need to and limit the txting. Also you don't need a state of the art phone, get like a pre- paid one.

Answer 28

I am in this exact situation!

I am a 13 year old boy turning 14 in a couple months.

My parents won't let me have one until I'm 14.

The main reason is that adults don't think that we need one until we are older because they probably didn't have one until they were old.

Just wait it out and don't make a big deal about it.

You will most likely have one by the end of this year.

Hope this helps.

Answer 29

We have just bought our 9 y.o daughter a phone. As we are allowing her slightly more freedom, it is more peace of mind for us that we can contact her whenever we want.

She only takes it out when away from us and she knows not to use it other than emergencies.

Answer 30

i think you are old enough to have a phone of your own but you need to persuade your mum of that. show her how responsible you can be and assure her that you wont be calling boys at all hours. i think it will be good for you to have some privacy but i understand why shes being over protective after all you are still a child in her eyes good luck xx

Answer 31

just proove to her that your responsible enough for one . because obviously she thinks that you arent responsible .