My moms acting very weird lately, She gets too angry too easily?

Question

Yes, my brother and I are acting up. Well moslty him but hes always been a jerk to everyone. Usually my mom just yells at him but latley its everything we do she yells. If we dont get the tape fast enough she yells. If we dont answer her immediatly she yells. If you try to talk to her sayign that she yells too much she yells more then yells about how we dotn appreciate her and that she gives us everything when my borther and I both know that that is not the point. A month ago a had a huge fight and she threatened to send me to therepy for telling her hte truth. Now today her and my brother got in a fight and again she did the same. it was the same argument and she still doesnt get it. Im erally sad for our messed up family and I dont know what to do. I try telling her to stop yelling at us when its not needed. All of my friends and out neighbors think shes not a nice person and is just plain mean. She yelled at me at my birthday party because someone spit washable food coloring into teh sink and all my friends though she was going to hit me. today she flat out yelled about tape in front of my kid neighbors and didnt even care. I jsut dont know what to do anymore She isvery stressed out but she always had been becase seh jsut got divrorce but her life is genuinaly good. Shes pretty and has a good personaly when shes not mad. Any advice at all? please and thanks

Answer 1

If your mother just got divorced, you are right -- she is going through a very stressful time.

Divorce is very emotionally draining.  It's worse than if a spouse dies, to be honest.  

I think that, if you find a moment when your mom seems relaxed, maybe talk with her.. you can just let her know you see she's having a difficult time right now and ask her if she needs to talk... or if there is something you can do to help her right now.   Telling her you're concerned about her can't hurt.

I hope things work out.  I know this is difficult for all of you.  

Sending all best wishes and good thoughts your way.

Answer 2

then don't talk to her for 2 min's and while your not, do something fun like hang out with your friend for a day or 2 and shell forget all about it and keep doing it every time she does it.

Answer 3

Other than the stress that she is obviously in I have heard that sometimes you can have like a brain tumor and it cause a quick change in someone's stability like that.  But, it may just be that she is stressed and maybe going through a nervous breakdown.  She might want to see a doctor just in case.

Good luck and hang in there.  And, try to be supportive of her.

Answer 4

offer yourself to do the most things you can that she does at home

treat her nicely even if she is yelling

try to spoiled her with a massage or her favorite dessert

but do it every day  EVEN IF SHE IS YELLING

Answer 5

write up a page of whats she's doing-kindof like what you've written now but in more detail.then,if you want,you can sit your mother down(somehow)and read it out.if she tries to defend herself by denial,use the sheet you've got as backup.explain how it makes YOU feel and make it straight to her.if she dosent care about what you are saying or what you think,then sorry for saying this but she's not a good mother at the moment.

my mum was like that at one point,and i can relate to alot of the things you've written,and thats what ive done,and it actually helped her,and ME what was wrong.

:) good luck sweetie,hope this helps..

Answer 6

I know as a mom you want to protect your kids, and you do everything in your power to keep things from them because you feel your kids shouldn't be burdened with grown up situations that as an adult we don't know how to handle it ourselves. weather its not being able to pay the bills yet your children need school clothes. Or you were diagnosed with something yet your kids don't know because you don't  want them to worry. We keep alot of things in and try to carry on as if nothings wrong for our kids sake but yet with our emotions we do tend to take it out on them, so maybe with the divorce your mom is going through there might be more to it. Just be there for her, maybe take your brother out for the day and let your mom have some time to figure things out. Trust me, it helps when you help out doing little things around the house and you keep the peace.

Answer 7

you guys aren't the ones who need therapy she needs it

Answer 8

maybe she preggo