My moms boyfriend is abusing her!! i don't know what to do. x*x

Question

My moms boyfriend scares me. He grounds me and yells at me for the slit-est thing and he thinks he can tell me if i can go on a date or not. But he has only being dating my mom for a couple of months and moved in after a few week of dating. He thinks he owns the house now that he lives here. He pays nothing towards bills or food, and is verbally abusive and physically abusive towards my mom. I feel so trapped with there fighting and yelling at all hours of the night and morning. And when they do fight i'm not aloud to go into the house i have to walk around the neighbor hood at night until they stop. I want to ask my mom if i can live with my dad. But i'm scared that she will feel like i'm abandoning her. I love her and if i did move out i would be scared for her on her own with her boyfriend. i don't no what to do. i'm 15 and can't deal with the atmosphere in my house anymore. HELP!!!!! x*x

Answer 1

The best thing for you to do is get out of that situation. Your mom is a grown woman. She shouldn't be exposing you to all this c**p. I hope you realize this is not a healthy relationship. If the situation at your dad's is calmer, you'd be better off there. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Can you at least talk to your dad and see wht options he suggests?  It is only a matter of time before the boyfriend starts abusing you as well - no he already is if you are having to walk all over the neighborhood at night.  Is there a women's shelter in the area?  Call then and ask for advice.  I know you love your mom but your first responsibility is to yourself  

Answer 3

Honey call social services in your area, or a teen hotline. It is dangerous for you to be left walking the streets when your mom is fighting her boyfriend. Literally anything could happen to you out there.

If you can talk to your mom when he isn't around, tell her what is on your mind, talk to your dad, a minister, anyone that can get YOU help. Your mom is going to have to help herself out of this relationship. Maybe if she were to really realize how it affects you she will kick him out, if not, find a safe place to live please.

Answer 4

I admire you for not wanting to leave your mom in harms way by herself but honey, she is putting you in harms way without giving it a  second thought.  

Call your dad and make arrangements to move in with him.  SOON

Let your mom deal with the mess she has created on her own.

Answer 5

first talk to your mom. let her know that her boyfriend makes you feel unsafe in your own home.

if you ever see him hitting your mom, or if he ever lays a hand on you- call the cops asap

Answer 6

Call the cops... My mom and step-dad were like that, I know how bad it sucks. I had to take care of my brother and sister at the time too, because she was always so give out from fighting all night. But now my mom is getting help and my step-dad is in jail.

Good luck and be strong!!