My moms getting married and I don't like the guy.?

Question

She is getting married today. I think she is crazy. First of all they only started talking because he wrote her a letter from prison. Yeah that's right from prison. He's in prison. They started out writing letters to each other and then she go on his viviting list and started to except his phone calls. They are supposedly in love. I don't think it's love. How can you be in love with someone after only writing letters,phone calls and hour visits. When he gets out he is suppose to move in with us. I don't think he should. I would understand if he was out and they were dating. I just don't think you can fall in love from talking for half an hour everyday and an hour about twice a week, Do you think so? What is your opinion on my moms wedding?

Answer 1

in my opinion, you should just try and be happy for your mum, you may not like him but if your mum is happy, then that is all that should matter, right? i know it's going to be hard for you if you can't accept him and yeah he may be in prison but i have had friends go to prison but it doesn't mean they're bad people, you can get sent to prison cos of such little things and once being in their, people change and realise they need to not make the same mistake again.

i fell in love with someone over the internet, i seen him when i was going out with his friend and he seen me and his friend having problems, so he contacted me on myspace and he was so nice to me! we spent hours on the phone to each other every day, texting whenever we wasn't on the phone, just loads of things just through texting and called made me happy; it was a distant relationship so i only got to see him whenever i could but just having him on the other end of the phone when i needed him made me so happy, so yes, i do believe your mum can be in love through letters, phone and visits :) be happy for her!

Answer 2

i think shes an idiot and has allowed herself to be manipulated.

sorry man. it looks like you are going to have to move out of home if you dont like it though.

Answer 3

I don't understand the attraction some women have to men in prison; I've never been so desperate that I would do that.  You're in a tough position.  This sounds scary to me.  Wonder what he was in prison for?  I do have to tell you I know a man who was in prison for murder years ago and I think he's a wonderful person.  I also know a woman who was in prison for drug charges and I like her.  I also know a man who was in prison for bank robbery.  Wow!  I'm 58 and very happily married, a "settled down" person, and I know 3 people who have been in prison and I like all of them.  They turned their lives around; perhaps this man can too.  I'd say this relationship between your mom and this man probably won't last but who can really say.

Answer 4

talk to your mom! she clearly is blinded in love. she doesn't know what she's getting herself into. what was the guy in prison for though?

Answer 5

Whoa. Tell her how ya feel man! and Tell him too!  

Answer 6

well thats kind of scary because hes a convict and i agree love makes people do crazy things i would just watch over and make sure hes treating her right i am on your side 100% you just never know if hes dangerous or out for something she needs to take precautions on this whole thing unless she knew him but she only wrote and talked to him  

Answer 7

I think people can fall in love like that but she shouldn't marry him while he is still in prison because you never know what he will be like when he gets out.  If he is going to move in with you before you are old enough to move out then maybe you could go live with your dad.  You should go visit him once or twice with your mom and see what you think about him.

Answer 8

Wow.  That's rough.  If you're old enough I would suggest getting the heck out before this strange convict moves in with you.  Have you told your mom how you feel?  Obviously if the wedding's today then you don't really have a lot of time, but I'd make sure she knows you're not comfortable.  And are they getting married at the jail????  Holy c**p, I feel bad for her.

Answer 9

hmm well I don't think there is much you can do now.  You could tell her how you feel if you haven't already.  I don't know what he is in jail for but if you don't feel comfortable about it you should move out (can you live with your dad or a friend or other family?) I don't think I'd feel comfortable living with a man I don't know who just got out of jail.  I've heard this happen quite a bit where men marry women so they have financial support and somewhere to live when they get out.  I really hope he is a decent guy who made one mistake and wants to make things right...for your mom's sake.