My mother's boyfriend...what to do?

Question

Well, my mother has a new boyfriend and I am worried she is being taken advantage of. So, here's the situation...My mom is desperately lonely, borderline alcoholic, successful, and financially secure. Her new boyfriend was divorced 5 years ago and now lives with his parents. He's a nice guy, but part of me still worries that she will be taken advantage of (I've already noticed she pays for everything in this relationship). They have only been together for a few month's and have already been talking about getting married and buying a house (He seems really anxious to get her in a long term financial agreement). I also feel like my mother is getting into this relationship because she is lonely and from my experience it is never a good idea to get into a relationship just because you're lonely.

What should I do? At moment's I feel like puking all my thoughts out which would surely offend her. Yet, other times I feel that despite all this man's vices he is a really nice guy.

It also should be stated that since my father's death 5 years ago my mother has made one bad decision after another and I've never chimed in through any of them.

Is it time to just lay my thoughts out on the table?

Answer 1

I think you should tell your mom how you feel.....tell her you love her and your just looking out for her best interest. follow what your gut tells you if you feel theres something a little off about him tell your mom....when you tell her dont be so harsh.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Clearly you have the ability to express these thoughts to her without sounding whiny and childish.  I wish she shared your clarity.  Please explain your observations and concerns to her as soon as possible, prefacing, if necessary, that what you're about to say is out of love, etc.