My mother's farting habit has gotten out of control (I swear to God that I am serious).

Question

I swear to God on my LIFE that I am being dead serious here, and I hope that although this is a "funny" subject that I can get some real help here because it is actually interfering with my relationship with my mother.

At first it was just at home. She would lean to the side and then f**t, often when she was in another room. Then she just started doing it whenever she wanted. She will pass gas when we are eating dinner (or when just I am eating), and it honestly makes me so sick that I lose my appetite. I can specifically think of at least four occasions when I have had to stop eating and dump my meal because I am so disgusted by her passing gas while I am eating. The noise in and of itself is enough to make me sick, but it actually has a very foul odor that makes me physically nauseated.

She is now doing it in public. For example, we were in Macy's the other day, and she was standing at the register paying her bill, and all of a sudden I saw her shift her weight to one leg. I hoped that she wasn't about to do what I thought she was, but alas, within a few seconds I could smell something foul. I actually had to walk away because I was mortified. Everyone was looking at her because they knew the smell was coming from her.

I have asked her repeatedly to stop doing this because A) it makes me lose my appetite, and B) it is actually offensive and socially inappropriate in public. I asked her to excuse herself to go to the restroom, but her response is "They just come out -- without warning." This is obviously a lie because she shifts her weight a good 10-15 seconds before she actually passes gas, so she knows that it is coming.

Is there a way that I can stop her from doing this?

Thank you very much for your help, and I will choose a BEST ANSWER TODAY!!

Answer 1

I feel so sorry for you. At first I thought she couldn't help it, that she may have a medical problem, because some people do. But after reading what you said, it's highly inconsiderate of your mother to do this in public. But it sounds like she does it because you react to it. She enjoys the comedic routine. She likes the attention. But for her to be willing to do it in public and not be embarassed is odd. You could a)eat lots of beans and let her have a taste of her own medicine  b)move out c)put up with it d)quit reacting to it. She obviously doesn't want to own up to it. And maybe she's not taking you seriously. Are you laughing when you tell her it's offensive? Make sure she knows you're serious. And if you're eating, excuse yourself from the room. Or spend less time with her. If she misses you, she'll do something about it. She sounds immature. Where's your Dad in all this? If it's only you guys, then see if you can move in with a relative.

Answer 2

By her a case of bean no

Answer 3

Your mom may have other problems.  If she is on a high fiber diet, that would cause the gas problems*

Answer 4

I would say for her to cut back on the taco bell and maybe invest in some Beano.

Remember, with Beano, there will "be no" gas.

Answer 5

Show her this page or maybe even print this page and put it on the fridge, and if she objects keep doing it, tell her you can't help it. the fact that your mother obviouslydisregards your feeling especially when you are eating with her worries me, shes obviously a very sselfishperson and needs medical help, both physically and emotionally. Good luck and don't feel bad if you have to eat your dinner someplace away from her.

Answer 6

take  her  to  a  doctor  and  maybe  he  can  prescribe something  for  he  and  if  not  get  her  on  some  beano  that  really  works  and  if  not  stick  a  sock  up her  ***

Answer 7

You need to talk to your mother and be as serious as you are when you tell her to respect any other wish you may have asked her to stop or do before. Be serious and assertive when you tell her that you are getting physically ill by the farting. It is also embarrassing you in public and unless she stops you will not go out with her in public unless you absolutely have to until she respects your wishes. Be serious. This can hurt more than just the relationship with your mother.What if she does this in the presence of someone you wish to impress. tell her and be firm. Stick to your guns. It will not go down well, but it is affecting you in a terrible way. Something has to be done. Do it.  

Answer 8

Yes there is, although obviously a funny topic on the surface.  this has clearly got out of hand and your mother should be setting a better example, especially in public places...id be embarrassed too!  Ask her to talk to a pharmacist or even her doctor to rule out any medical cause. Diverticulitus in older women can cause excessive gas, but it is usually easily treated with change of diet etc, there are over the counter meds to help also. Let her know just how much it is offending you and how embarrassed you feel in public. Tell her you refuse to go shopping with her unless she seeks some remedy/cure.  Is there another family member you can confide in, who can have a word with your mother on your behalf? Sometimes hearing things from a 3rd party has more of an impact. Be open minded as to what may be causing it or if you really think she could control it better than what ishe is?  A little tact can be helpful too...good luck, hope this helps a little.  

Answer 9

I would recommend sitting down with your mom and ahving a really good heart to heart.  You can mention that you're concerned with the frequency of them-excess flatulence is usually a sign that things are happening in the body that shouldn't.  Hopefully your concern for her health should help her to see where your'e coming from.

2nd point to point out is your concern with how people might view her-they may not see the wonderful lady that she really is.  

I've been reading a lot by Dr. Oz, and he says that when there is smell, it means that either you're doing something wrong to your body or that something wrong is cocuring in your body that shouldn't be.  

Keep your voice level, don't let it rise, and let your mom know that you're really concerned for her (even if you're concerned for your own benefit)...make this about her first, and then mention your concerns about how it could affect you.