My mother and sister make me sick!!!!!!!!!?

Question

I am sooo pssst at my mother, my father was in jail for four yrs. he was a good person who made some bad decisions, when he went in my sister was 8 now she is 11, she is such a little*****. She used to adore my dad and now she hardly wants to see him, my mom never took my sister to see him, my dad always called but my sister didnt care it was like now that my dad couldnt buy her things she didnt want to see him. I get so psst at my mom she talks bad about my dad in front of her and I think that that has a lot to do w/ the way my sister feels about him. Its not like my mom is so wonderful either, she sleeps until 12:00 on the weekends does nothing but sit on her *** when she gets home from work, I just have these horrible feelings of hate for the both of them right now, I feel like their both a couple of cows, any advice?

Answer 1

If your sister is only 11, she's probably just very hurt and feels frustrated and sad about living without her dad for those years and expressing it in anger is the only way she knows how.

Your mom doesn't need to be saying bad things about your dad around you. She needs to realize that if you all are going to be a family again, she needs to forgive him and accept him back into the house for the sake of you girls.  

Answer 2

i dont think ur mom is lazy for not doing anything after getting home from work.  and maybe they are hurting that ur dad did something bad while having a family.  to them it mightve been like betrayal?  no offence.  idk.  but they are not cows for feeling hurt.  just try to talk to ur sister about the good things about ur dad.  good luck.

Answer 3

Your mother is just as angry as you are that your dad was in prison.  He left her alone to raise 2 children.  So the two of you are probably venting your angers in the wrong direction. All 3 of you should be angry at your father for making the bad decision.  He was thinking of himself instead of the consequences of what would happen to his family.  That doesn't mean that you shouldn't love your dad.  If your mom is working full-time and raising 2 children without any help, she deserves to sleep til noon on her days off (if she wants to)

Answer 4

First of all your Mother should never talk about your father to you kids. I think that is worng. Your sister should make up her own mind about your Dad. Your right your Mother is acting childish and you need to talk to your Dad about what is going on.

Answer 5

What your mother does is so very very common. So many children grow up saying ' My father didnt want anything to do with me' or My father never wanted to see me ' all due to the mothers brainwashing them. Stupid mothers dont understand how crucial in a childs development a father is. Good for you for figuring this out. Just be calm and continue telling her that someday she will understand her fathers love and caring. Dont argue since you are the loner in this. Continue to be in contact with your father and in years to come. Meanwhile, study hard and be the best you can be inspite of the hurdles you have to overcome in your home life. It is your ticket out of this horror. God Bless You

Answer 6

Three years for a child that age is a lifetime. Please try to control your anger at your little sister. None of this is her fault and you need each other. Your mother is probably dealing with depression and has her own anger issues. Wouldn't you be a little angry if your husband made a "bad decision" and left you alone with children to care for? Maybe family counseling would help you all learn to deal with your anger and teach your mom not to talk bad about your father in front of your sister. It's not hurting him, it's hurting both of you.

Answer 7

Good single guys who make bad decisions might still be good guys, but when a man has a wife and family to take care of, those "bad decisions" actually make him negligent and neglectful.  He knew when he broke the law that he could be deserting you by going to jail but he did it anyway.  That is a bad dad.  

Your mom should keep her opinions about your dad to herself, but I don't blame her for her resentment.  She has to be the mom and the dad, how exhausting!  I can see why she sleeps in on the weekends.  

If the other women in your house bother you with their negativity, just tell them you don't want to be a part of it.  Focus your energy elsewhere, like school and extracurricular activities.  Then when you become an adult, pick a better guy than your mom did.

Answer 8

I know exactly what you should do :)  start planning your trip to Japan!  Get your butt over here and get a little time away from your mom and your sis.  Love ya!