My mother died 2002 in pool while intoxicated. report says accident maybe hit her head. did she go peacefully?

Question

6 years ago my mother was swimming in her pool in the middle of the night. she had been drinking and had high level of alcohol in her system. We never found out what actually happened that night and when I think about it, it drives me crazy because I want to know what happened to her. I know she is gone but not knowing what transpired is very hard. I used to think that maybe she was killed by the hands of her exhusband but I had to let that go. The reports came back that she had a bump on her head and that she must of hit her head on the side of the pool. I just want to know if she was unconscious or is the information in the report and I just dont know how to read it. I know its going to hurt me but I find myself going under water sometimes and trying to find my answers. I just want to know how my mom died. She was 51 years old and she was my best friend.

Answer 1

When someone dies suddenly and unexpected we tend to ask a lot of questions. Our minds cannot let go or process the loss. Trust God and know that whether she suffered or not she is now at peace. I believe that God will also give you that same peace. Keep your head up.

Answer 2

really now.   i dont mean to be rude .. but does it really matter? its a little too late. deal with the loss. and move on with your life.

Answer 3

First of all I want to give you my condolences.  Secondly no one can say for sure whether she went peacefully.  But I will tell you this.  There is a very good chance that she hit her had and was killed instantly.  What you might want to try to find our is was there any water in her lungs.  if the answer to the question is no then she was dead when she went under water.  If the answer is yes then that means that she was awake when she went under water but maybe not for a long time.  I really do hope that this will give you some peace or help you a little bit.  I dont know if you pray, if you do maybe you can pray that maybe the Lord can show you if she is at peace.  Personally deep in my heart I dont believe that she suffered.  God bless.

Answer 4

Only she knows whether it was peaceful or not.  My advice is for you to learn from this and not get yourself to a point where you have to drink so much.

My brother died in unknown circumstances, and it used to drive me crazy as to what happened, but I realized he wouldn't want me doing that to myself, so I decided to quit letting it drive me crazy.  You need to decide to quit letting this drive you crazy.